Sorry for the length of this:
I've been seeing this 20 year old HB8 for about a month now. I call her once or twice a week to set up something to do, with the phone convo never lasting more than 5 minutes. When we hang out, we have lots of fun and the night usually ends in a heated make out session. She is in college and she's always telling me how she loves to go out to the parties and have fun with her friends, she jokingly considers herself a party girl. She is a virgin (she comes from a strict family and religion) and really has good values, like she said she never hooks up with guys randomly and doesnt kiss guys unless she really likes them or they are exclusive only to each other. She likes to take it slow, so she isnt your every day party girl. She is definitely LTR material.
Here's the problem. A couple of times, i've called her up and said "come with me to this party tonight". And both times she said she was tired and didnt want to go. I know I asked her on short notice but if she really had a high IL, she wouldve gone anyway, just to be with me. Last Friday, I gave her a call at around 5:00 PM just to say whats up because i didnt talk to her in a while. When i called, i got no answer so i expected a phone call back some time that day. Well she never called me back until the next day when she sent me a text message apologizing for not returning my call because she was busy and that she will call me later. I was pissed off bc she always calls me back the same day and also because she's turned down opportunities to hang out with me at those parties, so i didnt pickup the phone when she called. I called her back on Sunday and I said lets do something this week, she always wanted to see the movie Gothika so i said lets go this week, she happily said yes so i said i'll give her a call in a couple of days and let her know when i could go.
So on Tuesday, i called her and said lets go Wednesday night and she said ok but she was going to a basketball game at another local college but she said if its done early, we can go after the game. I told her to let me know. So Wednesday comes and she sends me a text message saying "sorry cant make it tonite, i'll call you as soon as i get out of the game. After i got this text message, i made plans with my buddies and went out. I wasnt really paying attention to my phone because i was having a good time, so its about 1 in the morning and i look at my phone and i didnt get a call from her. It pissed me off because this is the 2nd time this has happened and there are signs of possible disinterest.
I can 100% guarantee she will send me a text message or call me today, apologizing for not calling me back. Would you dj's NEXT her and move on or do you think i'm overreacting here. I dont want to accept the apology and let her get away with it because then she'll know she can do anything and i'll come back. What would you guys do to set her straight without looking AFC. If she texts me, i was thinking about responding with something like, " stop apologizing, i dont really want to hear it. gotta go". Do you guys have any suggestions??? Should i ignore her calls and text messages for a while??? Should I talk to her and tell her why i'm pissed off?? Any help would be appreciated.
I've been seeing this 20 year old HB8 for about a month now. I call her once or twice a week to set up something to do, with the phone convo never lasting more than 5 minutes. When we hang out, we have lots of fun and the night usually ends in a heated make out session. She is in college and she's always telling me how she loves to go out to the parties and have fun with her friends, she jokingly considers herself a party girl. She is a virgin (she comes from a strict family and religion) and really has good values, like she said she never hooks up with guys randomly and doesnt kiss guys unless she really likes them or they are exclusive only to each other. She likes to take it slow, so she isnt your every day party girl. She is definitely LTR material.
Here's the problem. A couple of times, i've called her up and said "come with me to this party tonight". And both times she said she was tired and didnt want to go. I know I asked her on short notice but if she really had a high IL, she wouldve gone anyway, just to be with me. Last Friday, I gave her a call at around 5:00 PM just to say whats up because i didnt talk to her in a while. When i called, i got no answer so i expected a phone call back some time that day. Well she never called me back until the next day when she sent me a text message apologizing for not returning my call because she was busy and that she will call me later. I was pissed off bc she always calls me back the same day and also because she's turned down opportunities to hang out with me at those parties, so i didnt pickup the phone when she called. I called her back on Sunday and I said lets do something this week, she always wanted to see the movie Gothika so i said lets go this week, she happily said yes so i said i'll give her a call in a couple of days and let her know when i could go.
So on Tuesday, i called her and said lets go Wednesday night and she said ok but she was going to a basketball game at another local college but she said if its done early, we can go after the game. I told her to let me know. So Wednesday comes and she sends me a text message saying "sorry cant make it tonite, i'll call you as soon as i get out of the game. After i got this text message, i made plans with my buddies and went out. I wasnt really paying attention to my phone because i was having a good time, so its about 1 in the morning and i look at my phone and i didnt get a call from her. It pissed me off because this is the 2nd time this has happened and there are signs of possible disinterest.
I can 100% guarantee she will send me a text message or call me today, apologizing for not calling me back. Would you dj's NEXT her and move on or do you think i'm overreacting here. I dont want to accept the apology and let her get away with it because then she'll know she can do anything and i'll come back. What would you guys do to set her straight without looking AFC. If she texts me, i was thinking about responding with something like, " stop apologizing, i dont really want to hear it. gotta go". Do you guys have any suggestions??? Should i ignore her calls and text messages for a while??? Should I talk to her and tell her why i'm pissed off?? Any help would be appreciated.
