should i give up????

[wizzard]

Hey All,
So this hb that i have seen a couple of times (earlier post) finally contacted me after i followed the advice on the board to leave it a while b4 asking for another date! She tells me that she likes me a lot, but isnt sure if she is ready for anything serious!
Well, i cant ever remember sayin that i wanted something serious, so i told her that we should hang out a couple more times to see how it goes, but if not then thats ok.

How do you guys think i should play it? just leave her alone, and wait to see if she comes back with anything, or should i pursue it a bit more? Im think that i should possibly just next her anyway, sounds a b it TOO flaky for me, but has anyone ever had anything positive from the type of statement she made?
Thanks

 

[drZaius09]

Originally posted by wizzard
Well, i cant ever remember sayin that i wanted something serious

So why didn't you tell her that?
This just goes to show you the prevalence of swelled egos amongnst good-looking women. They've been coddled by men their entire lives and as a result their self-image has been inflated to the point where they believe everybody wants a relationship with them. So she just assumes you fall into the same category... probably because you're not doing enough to distinguish yourself from everyone else.

Your story reminds me on once not too long ago, I was with this girl that I had been out with one or two times. I asked her a question that triggered this wild tirade of emotion within her, and as she went on and on about past relationships/the way men have treated her/the way she used to relate to men/the way she's going to relate from now on, I just couldn't see the point of what she was saying (big surprise). So I asked "What are you trying to say?" And she replied, "I'm saying I'm not going to sleep with you tonight." At the time I was thinking the exact same thing you were, and usually I would have just kept my mouth shut, but not this time. I fired back at her, "Who ever said I wanted to sleep with you?" Of course, she was floored. I was banging her about 2 hours later.

 

[wizzard]

Thank you Mr hit the nail on the head!!! Why the **** didnt i say that? I can remember FEELING like i should say it, but i guess i didnt have the nuts to see if she just wanted to be a ****buddy!!
Live n learn!!!! Hope i get a chance to say it tho, have to wait n see i guess!

 

[jlujan]

She obviously feels your after her and shes acting the part of desirable woman, all i can say is try changing your mind set to YOU are not sure if you want something with this woman, now that doesn't mean you need to be an azzhole, but just let her know that you are testing her to see if she qualifies.

It maybe too late for that do.

 

[valera]

but isnt sure if she is ready for anything serious!

...with you. If she's interested in you, she'll get back in touch with you. Next.

 

[wizzard]

Well, she DID get in touch last nite, and said do you wanna go for a drink? So, testosterone in tow, i went along.......... Had good fun again, but she had hurt her back and was in a bit of pain, so i didnt feel it was right to really 'go' for it!! Mistake? Maybe, in fact probably!

Didnt give me the impression that she was very into me, but then why would she ring and ask if i wanted to go out? OMG!!!! have i just been LJBF'ed???????? Hope not, as i was makin out with her a couple of weeks ago..............
Didnt close either, another ****up!!!!
Ok, what next guys? sit around and twiddle my balls again? Or just grab em and jump into the abyss?
Thanx

 

[Walden]

Hey man chill out.
The best way to get a girl is to FTOW (Find Three Other Women) and blag on them at the same time. That way you don't wind up overthinking the whole deal.
I bet before this started she was just some cute chick you might want to a$$bang some day and now she's like waaaaaaaaaay outta proportion cos you've invested all this mental energy in her.