Should I even be concerned with women right now?

[btownbuck2012]

I’m 22 years old and am going to be a senior in college this coming fall. I’ve gotten good grades (something I worked hard at), gotten myself into very good shape this past year, and have tried expanding my comfort zone socially. Since college began I’ve gotten a-lot of phone numbers, been on a few dates, and had sex. Also I’ve easily cold approached over 150 girls in my life. However, I can’t help but feel a BIT disappointed in the opposite sex.

Also, I’ve done stand – up comedy 8 times in the past year, something that I’ve always wanted to do since I was younger (I’m a huge Seinfeld fan, lol). I can honestly say that one of the best moments in my life, so far, was the feeling I had after doing stand up for the first time in Chicago. I remember leaving the club that night and looking at the city and feeling like a king. I took my time driving home that night through downtown and really savored the feeling. Also, I’ve found that I am a very good public speaker and think I could become great at it one day.

So I guess I’ve come to the realization that there’s so much more to life than girls. However, at the same time I feel like I should always be trying to meet women, even though I don’t really enjoy it. I mean I get tired of the games. Getting a phone number only to get flaked on, going on a date with a girl only to have her give you an excuse in regards to why she can’t go on the second one. After a while I just feel like who the hell cares anymore? I mean is getting laid worth this kind of effort? Was it always like this? I’d honestly much rather just hire an escort. Honestly.

I started a summer approach journal on this site a couple months ago and didn’t finish it, not because I was scared, but because I really was annoyed at how much time I was spending on girls. I remember in that journal I made an approach at the mall and executed it BEAUTIFALLY. Saw a very cute girl working behind a counter in some chick’s store. I walked right up to her and told her I thought she was very cute and would like to get her number so that I could take her to a baseball game. I was confident and in the zone BUT of course when I called her a day later, nothing.

I get tired of people asking me whether or not I have a gf and giving me this confused look when I tell them no, like having a girl is the end all be all in life. Most recently my grandpa asked me whether or not I had a girl and gave me somewhat of a disappointed look when I told him no. I mean wtf.

So to be honest, right now I’m really trying to get career oriented. Over the past couple years I’ve gotten interested in government and politics and am seriously thinking, once I get my degree, I might just get in my car and drive to D.C. and try to make it happen out there. Even if I have to sleep in my car for a week or two I want to get a job and make a difference out there. I think about guys like Lincoln or William Jennings Bryan, whom I learned about in a history class I took this past summer. Do you think guys like that gave women so much attention? I mean seriously I feel like great men don’t even give two sh!ts about women and that’s why, at times, I feel like a chump when I’m out “cold approaching”. After a while I just wanna say **** it with girls man. Seriously.

Rant/

 

[OC Speedball]

You sound like me man. (And a lot of other guys). It's a major pain in the ass to even get a girl to go out with you. You have to be really on top of your game to do it with ease. One of my cousins is an average looking guy who is flabby yet he consistently has HB9s hitting on HIM. His personality is so big it's just natural.

So what I'm trying to say is, it's not impossible. But for guys like us that need to use websites like this it's a lot harder since we're not naturals. You've been on dates, so you know how it is just to get to that point.

Sounds like on the inside you are alpha. Wanting to move to DC to pursue your dream is pretty ballsy. And so is doing stand up comedy. You seem driven. If girls don't satisfy you then don't waste your time with them. That's probably the most "alpha" thing you can do. Because from what you say it doesn't sound like you're an AFC at all.

 

[GreyedOut]

Great post. I get the same comments daily. Family and friends are obsessed that i don't have a girlfriend. Strangers even make comments lately.

I rarely spend a lot of my time chasing after women. I'm naturally a very social guy and I'm pretty friendly. Women tend to come to me and I just go with the flow. I spend my energy and time on myself and my career. I have a great career for my age and I'm track for some great things in my future. Work pretty much took most of my time over the past year and I"m trying to build up my hobbies now. My social life was pretty good a year ago but it's slowed down a bit now. I find when my social life is going well girls naturally come and go.

Go with your plan and just focus on your hobbies, career and education. Don't focus on approaching women. Focus on meeting people in general. Be friendly to everyone and just let your social circle grow as it does, without expectations or milestones. Girls will naturally come if your friendly and flirty.

 

[SgtSplacker]

It's a pain but I would'nt give up. I mean it's all until you find a keeper right? You're just a little uninspired right now, happens to anyone. Maybe take a break from it for a little while until your natural interests kick back in, that's all. It's all good dude, live your life easy and do what makes you happy man.