Should I Dump Her Or Just Dissapear?

[orbion2013]

hello, urgently need your advice... is there anything to salvage, or just get away from her?


3 months ago, i broke up with my girlfriend... the reason why i dumped her, was because of her disrespecting me, bieng selfish & sometimes even bieng nasty.


after 2 months apart & full no contact, she started begging me to take her back... claiming she will make me the happiest man in the world, if i give her another chance...

so i took her back... at first things was good, now only 2 months into us getting back together, the cracks are begining to show!

in the last 3 weeks, she has disrespected me & treated me in a rude manner 3 times.... the first time she disrespected me by lying to me, but she decided to apologize, so i forgave her.

the second time she kicked off & was rude to me, but then she tried to get back into my good books again, so i let it slide!


she has gone and done it again.... she has lied to me & been disrespectful


i took her shopping, she was complaining she did not feel too good... and because i did not park the car close enough to the entrance of the store, she kicked off with me.... started complaining & creating drama!!!!

she then just walked off, and left me standing there, like a complete idiot.... i was so angry & upset, so i did not bother going after her & just got back into the car.

she came back to the car ten minutes later & complained again, so i just ignored it, as i did not want an argument...

she then totaly ignored me for the rest of the day.... we went back to my flat & she just sat there & played on her Ipad for two hours & did not say a single word to me.

she was intentionaly bieng ignorant.

i was getting angry & frustrated at her blatantly ignoring me, giving me the silent treatment... she has used silent treatment on me many times before.

so i just watched the t.v and tried to show her that i am not bothered about her passive agressive behaviour...

now normaly she does not leave my house till about 5pm in the afternoon, on this occasion she just ignored me all day & told me she is going home, at around 3pm

she picked up her things, gave me a half arsed kiss on the cheek & said she will text me later...



IT HAS BEEN 2 DAYS NOW & SHE HAS NOT BOTHERED CONTACTING ME... WE NORMALY TEXT EACH OTHER EVERYDAY

i am sick of bieng treated like this, i let her back into my life, on the promise that she would change & would make my life stress free.

i did not do do anything wrong, other than park a bit further away from the entrance..

the reason why i parked furthur away, was because i am a new driver, and the only spots near the entrance was very tight & i did not want to bump the car.

that parking spot was the easiest i could find.... HAVE I COMMITED A MAJOR CRIME HERE???

she lashed out at me, created drama, walked off and left me stood there like an idiot... ignored me all day, played on her ipad for 2 hours, while totaly blanking me...

i have not heard from her in 2 days!! i am ready to dump her again, i can't take her treating me like an idiot.

what should i do?

she also lied to me, made excuses for why i could not come to her house sunday night, because she wanted time with her 8 year old daughter....

it turns out, she did not want me there, because her ex comes over to her house & comes into the house, when he drops the daughter off

she always told me, her ex never comes in the house... turns out, not only does he come in the house, but stays there for quite a while... thats why she made excuses & made sure i would not come over sunday

i don't think she is sleeping with the ex.... but why lie about it... why blow me out with excuses, just so her ex could come over...

i feel like she chose her ex over me!!!

all this has happened over a fu@king parking spot

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

No fool, that's been happening before the parking spot. Drop That Ho unless you like being disrespected and cheated and lied on. That plain and simple and you know the answer too. Common damn sense.

 

[orbion2013]

No fool, that's been happening before the parking spot. Drop That Ho unless you like being disrespected and cheated and lied on. That plain and simple and you know the answer too. Common damn sense.

seriously dude, i don't think she is cheating with the ex... i,m pretty sure of that... i think she allows him to come into the house, because they have a daughter together!

but... she told me he does not come into the house, yet i have found out, that he is in there for upto an hour sometimes

that is too close for comfort... i aint happy about her bieng this close to the ex!

 

[El Suave]

Hey, if she told you she's not banging the ex, you should believe her! After all, it's not like she lied to you before.

 

[orbion2013]

Hey, if she told you she's not banging the ex, you should believe her! After all, it's not like she lied to you before.

hey i don't know...maybe she didnt want to tell me about the ex coming into the house, because she knew i would kick off or would not like it.

but i know she for a fact made excuses for me to not come over sunday & turns out, her ex is in the house that night

sounds like to me, she blew me off, so the ex could come over & they could play mummy and daddy with there 8 year old


seriously i doubt if she is banging him... but with these woman, who f'cking knows....

right now i have changed my mobile number & have just vanished...

she did not bother contacting me for 3 days? i don't see why i should put up with crap like that.

 

[Mr_Stinky]

Dude.

Cut the sh!t!

You know what to do. Spin more plates and stop being such a pu$$y. You can do better and you don't deserve this treatment. You are too good for her. She is back to her old ways because you've allowed it.

Find a new, better chick. You'll be glad you did in the long run

 

[TheGambino]

BE Indifferent, go ghost on her, dont pick up your phone don't replie at all, don't give her anything and find a girl that has respect for you. She blowed it, the best you can do is going ghost. If you do know she will be afraid that she lost you forever. If you keep on going back to her she knows she calls the shots and you will never be respected. Your the man, and you should always have a foot out of the door for when she acts like this. Cut it man, your a man, be a man, bail on her don't ever look back let her crawl, and begg for your attention, let her suffer in stead. Be strong and move on from her, she does not deserve you, the more you go back to her the more value you will loose. If she stalks you in a couple of weeks tell her, it's over. only those words and go back ignoring.

 

[kaitracid2010]

BE Indifferent, go ghost on her, dont pick up your phone don't replie at all, don't give her anything and find a girl that has respect for you. She blowed it, the best you can do is going ghost. If you do know she will be afraid that she lost you forever. If you keep on going back to her she knows she calls the shots and you will never be respected. Your the man, and you should always have a foot out of the door for when she acts like this. Cut it man, your a man, be a man, bail on her don't ever look back let her crawl, and begg for your attention, let her suffer in stead. Be strong and move on from her, she does not deserve you, the more you go back to her the more value you will loose. If she stalks you in a couple of weeks tell her, it's over. only those words and go back ignoring.

i hear you man... the last time this broad acted up on me... i dumped her ass & went ghost for a month... within 2 weeks, she was begging & pleading for me to come back..

with a promise of bieng the best partner ever for me.... did she deliver? did she f@ck

so here is the the thing... chances are she will come begging back again!

now i have accepted a couple of things.... firstly i have been living in cloud f@cking cuckoo land.

i really believed i could settle down with this chick... marry her etc etc... how f@cking stupid of me!

i was telling her, that i loved her, spending all my time with her, bieng too available and all that crap.

i am pretrty certain this girl is bdp... she is not capable of giving love... this relationship with her, has been all about control

so guys... what if i was to let this girl back into my life again??? i never tell her that i love her... i show her very limited attention... i make myself unattainable

i don't initaite sex with her, i let her do all the initiatiang.... basicly i want to OWN this broad...

these bdp monsters are not worthy of our love.... would this be a bad idea?

is it possible to go from a serious relationship, into training a woman, by removing love & affection????

 

[El Suave]

Bull****

Pretty much none of us could believe from your first post that someone can be as stupid as you. I've seen a lot of idiots in my life, so I gave you the benefit of the doubt.

You are really wasting peoples time here. Just go away.

 

[orbion2013]

Pretty much none of us could believe from your first post that someone can be as stupid as you. I've seen a lot of idiots in my life, so I gave you the benefit of the doubt.

You are really wasting peoples time here. Just go away.

and what do you mean by that?

 

[mikey2012]

Anyone that just leaves you there is a cvnt. Run and don't look back

 

[El Suave]

and what do you mean by that?

Here's what I mean... If you want to TROLL at least be smart enough to do it with the same username!!!!!!!
You started off with orbion2013 and then you forgot and replied with kaitracid2010. Don't insult my intelligence!!!!

 

[orbion2013]

Here's what I mean... If you want to TROLL at least be smart enough to do it with the same username!!!!!!!
You started off with orbion2013 and then you forgot and replied with kaitracid2010. Don't insult my intelligence!!!!

dude that is my old account... i didnt even realize it was still active, so made up a new one... i,m not trolling

 

[nismo-4]

TL;DR!

Your princess is so in another castle. You know you need to drop her ass. Unless you like being in the friendzone, just stay around her.

Read the signs. She knows she's trying to keep you away so she could be with her ex, who's better than you BTW. Move on dammit. And spin more plates. There's nothing that can help your ass get this girl. She's controlling the frame here anyway. And from another castle. All she wants is your attention so she could feel good about f**king me in chambers for the third time.

The answer to this unnecessarily long ass thread. And my ruling.

Case closed. Thread closed. Everybody clear the courtroom.