Say, I'm on a third date with a chick. I bring a car and she uses public transportation. By the end of the date it's 10 PM. Should I drive her home or is that too nice for the first few dates? Her house is 30 minutes away from the date place. Thanks.
Should I drop her home on the first few dates?
- Thread starter Fela Kuti
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Oh but she is. All women are hors..with the right guy. Don't put her on a pedestal already you're going the wrong route there. One day she is "not that kind of girl" and the next she is sucking off some guy she just met at a party. That's how women are now a days don't fool yourself.Fela Kuti said:
Driving a woman around builds comfort and gets her seeing you two as a couple. Just like shopping at a store together and doing activities that "couples do" gets her feeling good about you as in relationship material good.
I wouldn't see it as a negative (except for the long drive and all the gas money you will be spending). But frankly if I like a female and appreciate her time I wouldn't mind driving half an hour to take her home. If I didn't have a car I would hope she would do the same not a big fan of taking the bus
Don't tell me this is the same chick you have talked about in other threads OP. :facepalm: You are so far in AFC territory I highly doubt you can ever see the light and become a DJ or return to being a DJ.
Too late on that. He's already made numerous threads on the same girl and judging by his past history its still the same girl. This is in the same vein of him doing nothing but putting the girl on a pedestal and handing his balls over to her willingly.f283000 said:
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
The girl uses public transportation to date you? That's very high interest....... There's nothing wrong with dropping her off.
It is in context. Everything you post has a certain context to it that leads to a bigger picture in us understanding you along with how we would potentially give you advice. Is this the same girl as the other threads or are you spinning plates and this is a different girl? Depending on the information you give to this question will depend on the answer that results from myself at least and maybe other members.Fela Kuti said:
3rd date...presumably nothing has happened up 'til now?
You should have started with touching etc during the date of course, to get her worked up.
Drive her home, then when you get there, at least go for a make out in the car...escalate if you can.
If she is keen, she'll invite you inside "just for a few minutes".
If she doesn't, then lose her and stop wasting your time and move on to a chick who is worth your while...unless of course you have 0 other options and want to continue to put up with her lack of s!xual interest in exchange for you doing favours for her.
You should have started with touching etc during the date of course, to get her worked up.
Drive her home, then when you get there, at least go for a make out in the car...escalate if you can.
If she is keen, she'll invite you inside "just for a few minutes".
If she doesn't, then lose her and stop wasting your time and move on to a chick who is worth your while...unless of course you have 0 other options and want to continue to put up with her lack of s!xual interest in exchange for you doing favours for her.
Holy f-n sh-t. Whatever happened to chivalry?
I mean, she has already demonstrated that she's interested enough to ride the f-n bus to see you. What's the problem with dropping her off? Have you ever ridden the bus? it freaking sucks, especially at night.
No, it's not "nice", it is just considerate. You're not taking her to buy her groceries or shopping, aren't you? You're just saving her --what, let's see, 30 mins in car must be like 1 to 1:30 hours by bus-- just to see you.
But really, why are you picking places 30 minutes away from her home? you're not picking special/popular/upscale/expensive date places just to impress her, aren't you? There should be simple coffeehouses / eateries / bars near every neighborhood. Simple logistics. If the place is 5-10 mins away you could even pick her up and drop her off without being "nice" at all and build intimacy. Were you really planning on kissing her and then dropping her off at the bus stop? if that isn't awkward, I don't know what is.
In my experience, the best makeout sessions are to be had before dropping the girl off. It can only get better from there (yes, getting invited inside IS NATURAL after getting her all wet from a great makeout session). It's not going to happen like: -"Ok, so here we are, see you later" -"Oh, wanna come inside?", unless she's a straight hore. You build intimacy gradually. Argh!!!
If you're not making out and/or heavily touching by now, which is the third date, you are definitely f-n up in a major way; I don't care how many times you say "she's not like that".
I mean, she has already demonstrated that she's interested enough to ride the f-n bus to see you. What's the problem with dropping her off? Have you ever ridden the bus? it freaking sucks, especially at night.
No, it's not "nice", it is just considerate. You're not taking her to buy her groceries or shopping, aren't you? You're just saving her --what, let's see, 30 mins in car must be like 1 to 1:30 hours by bus-- just to see you.
But really, why are you picking places 30 minutes away from her home? you're not picking special/popular/upscale/expensive date places just to impress her, aren't you? There should be simple coffeehouses / eateries / bars near every neighborhood. Simple logistics. If the place is 5-10 mins away you could even pick her up and drop her off without being "nice" at all and build intimacy. Were you really planning on kissing her and then dropping her off at the bus stop? if that isn't awkward, I don't know what is.
In my experience, the best makeout sessions are to be had before dropping the girl off. It can only get better from there (yes, getting invited inside IS NATURAL after getting her all wet from a great makeout session). It's not going to happen like: -"Ok, so here we are, see you later" -"Oh, wanna come inside?", unless she's a straight hore. You build intimacy gradually. Argh!!!
If you're not making out and/or heavily touching by now, which is the third date, you are definitely f-n up in a major way; I don't care how many times you say "she's not like that".
sexysuave
Senior Don Juan
Oh boy....
oneitissssssssss
, sucks don't it? lollet us know how things go please, I'm interested to find out. Sounds like you're not taking any other advice on this girl from anyone, so at least let us know how things do or do not progress..
and have you made a move on her yet? how were the first 2 'dates'
any making out?
It depends how far do you live from each other? When first starting dating it's not a bad idea to take her places you already know since you're comfortable there. Later on you can try out different places that you and her probably haven't gone to.keemojung said:
Just remember not to do everything for her but think of you as well. Trying out new things will improve you as a person. So don't get caught up with taking her to all the places you already know just cause it will be new and exciting for her. Try going places where you don't know so you can experience something new.
Mr Wright
Master Don Juan
Take her home because you're a nice guy. You can be a nice guy without being a "nice guy", i live by a simple mantra. Treat every woman as you would want a guy to treat my sister, and i wouldnt want her walking the streets on her own at night.
