Should I date this woman which has a boyfriend?

[ItsFate451]

Sorry for my poor english, but what do you mean by "escalate fast"? And what would be the point of inviting her to my place?

By making a move. If she’s saying yes to meeting you at your place, she’s letting you know she’s up to hooking up in some way. But again don’t take her seriously and don’t try to make her your gf. She’s already proven she’s untrustworthy.

 

[Ralph33]

Yea for the most part they didn't hide the fact they had boyfriends. Some underplayed them as just seeing them. But that's only because they didn't want to come off as wrong.

Would you say she's still worth the risk even thought she lied?

 

[jaymbrs]

Would you say she's still worth the risk even thought she lied?

Honestly my outlook will prob differ a lot from yours. I live in the US and personally if a girl was trying to hide her boyfriend from me, it means she just wants to have sex with me. So I would pursue. But I don't know what that translates to over where you live.

 

[Ralph33]

You are coming too much from a thought process of serial monogamy. Like you are going to wife her up or something.

Mate, just about every woman you'll ever be with, you'll be upsetting like 50 guys in the process. Can't be worrying about all that.

You are free single and looking to have a mingle. Her boyfriend is her problem, not yours.

I probably have oneitis on her. I'll just tell her to call me when she's single. I don't feel like I'm ready for a relationship anyway.
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[Ralph33]

Sounds like you're putting a lot of needless pressure on yourself. Things don't need to be so all or nithing, you know?

I'm sorry I didn't quiet get that (English isn't my first language), are you telling me to just leave the situation or give it a shot?

 

[Ralph33]

My bad. Typo and stuff.

I get the sense that you place more importance on women than they actually deserve. Because you said that you've never had a ltr, and your behaviour with this one and not "being ready".

Sort of like a perfectionist or something like that.

Ok what would you recommend I should do in this case? ( I know I sound a bit depressed)

 

[mrgoodstuff]

You are coming too much from a thought process of serial monogamy. Like you are going to wife her up or something.

Mate, just about every woman you'll ever be with, you'll be upsetting like 50 guys in the process. Can't be worrying about all that.

You are free single and looking to have a mingle. Her boyfriend is her problem, not yours.

Your thought process is if she's married she's single?

 

[redskinsfan92]

I'm confused and don't know what to do. I have never been in a long term relationship.

I talked to a girl that I like a lot at my college, I simply showed interest in knowing her and she immediately liked me, to be clear none of us told each other we love each other or how we feel to one another, but the signs are clear that she's into me since she likes getting near me, the way she talks and her fake laugh at my ****ty jokes.

I started vetting her through social media and observing her from distances, it turns out she has a boyfriend, I indirectly asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no.
She tries to hide the fact that she has a boyfriend in some certain situation, such as, when some friends near us ask her what her relationship is with this guy she tries to avoid the question or simply says nothing, so I won't know about it.

She told me if we can go hang out together like watch a movie or something. I said yes, but days passed and I never did, we haven't talked much recently.

They are still together. I am more attractive than her boyfriend, but I'm also a boring person that has some loose screws. She's the shy type of girl, she doesn't seem to have many friends either.

I am afraid if I tell her to break up with her boyfriend for me she might regret it later. What if things don't work out with me and her then I'd feel guilty for ruining her relationship with the previous guy.

Only read title. Answer is no.

 

[greatsnake]

the chick should be kept as a plate. You don't want to date a chick that has the mentality of cheating.