Should I Call Her Out for standing me up?

[soulforge]

So been seeing this girl for 3 months.

We had a date planned for tonight, I clearly and specifically arranged everything 3 days ago. She was meant to leave work and come straight to my house.

She went out drinking last night & my gut instinct tells me that she been upto something.

Tonight was our date, and she didn't turn up (Flaked)

She has text me tonight and is acting like nothing has happened, she is putting on an act like the date wasn't even in place. Like its all good.

Do I call her out and let her know that you didn't turn up for the date?

Or simply send her a text saying, I had a good day thanks, and just next her?

I am ready to next her, she has been playing games like this for a while when it comes to dates. Even though I Arrange a date, she still expects me to give chase on the day of the date.

I arranged the date, time, location and left the ball in her court... But she didn't turn up, because I didn't chase her.

Sooo... Tell her that she should have told me that she wasn't going to meet?

Or simply next this disrespectful 304???

 

[SW15]

Nexting is usually more useful than calling women out for bad behavior.

 

[EyeBRollin]

I would have already deleted her number. She stood you up after 3 months of dating. Unacceptable.

 

[soulforge]

Call her out and next her. If you were a high value male, with lots of women throwing themselves at you, you wouldn't put up with that kind of behavior.

I wouldn't give too much explanation, I would tell her "We had a date planned and you didn't show up, I don't deal with women who waste my time, have a nice life"

Not many guys have the balls to say it, mean it and walk it. At least she will respect you for it.

This is what I Feel like doing.... However she knows EXACTLY what she has done.

This Fukin cvnt didn't even feel the need to even send me a text and say sorry I ain't coming.

Instead she acting like nothing happened.

I could call her out a little then next... Or simply never talk to her again.

I even booked a fukin table for us, in a restaurant..

 

[soulforge]

I would have already deleted her number. She stood you up after 3 months of dating. Unacceptable.

Bruv only last weekend she was asking me the meet her family and go on a holiday with her and family.

She went out drinking last night, and something has changed... My feeling is she got another date lined up tonight or she fuked someone else.

Do you think I should tell her, that she should have cancelled the date in advance

 

[2Rocky]

What did the girl you took on the date you had planned for her have to say about it?

Nothing says to a woman she is replaceable like showing you can replace her. That's the reason behind asking women to do things with you that you are going to do anyway.

Hell, I would have moved the reservation back an hour and called my mom/sister/cousin/aunt/ guy buddy to ask if they wanted to go to dinner.

Then send a picture to the flaker when she reengaged. "You and I had reservations for Chez Robert, but I found someone else. "

At least it was just a reservation...Didn't cost you anything to cancel.

 

[soulforge]

What did the girl you took on the date you had planned for her have to say about it?

Nothing says to a woman she is replaceable like showing you can replace her. That's the reason behind asking women to do things with you that you are going to do anyway.

Hell, I would have moved the reservation back an hour and called my mom/sister/cousin/aunt/ guy buddy to ask if they wanted to go to dinner.

Then send a picture to the flaker when she reengaged. "You and I had reservations for Chez Robert, but i found someone else. "

At least it was just a reservation...Didn't cost you anything to cancel.

She messaged me tonight, and asked me about my day. She is PRETENDING that the date was never in place.

I also know why she flaked... She went out drinking last night... She either fuked someone or she got super drunk and doesn't have the energy to meet me tonight.

Both reasons are a NEXT

I can either next and ignore this h0e from here on... Or I call her out a little, then next her?

I kinda feel like calling her out a little

 

[EyeBRollin]

I kinda feel like calling her out a little

What do you gain by calling her out?

 

[soulforge]

What do you gain by calling her out?

I want her to realise that she fuked up by standing me up after 3 months of seeing eachother.

But I understand you bruv.... She absolutely KNOWS what she did tonight. She knows deep inside that she stood me up.

So calling her out, pointing out what she did wrong is fukin useless.

I even had a table booked for a restaurant

 

[2Rocky]

I'd only call her out if you had hard evidence she went on another date or home with a dude.

As long as you wonder.....let her wonder as well.

 

[soulforge]

I'd only call her out if you had hard evidence she went on another date or home with a dude.

As long as you wonder.....let her wonder as well.

I don't have evidence... But my gut instinct is rarely wrong... Something seemed off from when she went out drinking on Friday night and now this flake?

I feel like calling her out... However deep inside she KNOWS that she was meant to meet me tonight... So why point out the obvious to her? She knows she let me down.

I think the best strategy might be simply to next her... And let this little disrespectful cvnt wonder!

 

[BPH]

I would only call her out in the sense that you tell her what she did wrong and why you're going to stop seeing her. And then actually follow through.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Tonight was our date, and she didn't turn up (Flaked)

just ghost her @$$

 

[Gamisch]

My geuss is that you KNOW exactly what to do now, but perhaps you hope someone will say something like; " ah, the hell with it ,this is just women. Pretend like nothing happened, smile it all away and keep it moving? You had a hotter one recently? No? Then you should forgive her, understand her blablabla"

I assume this is the 24 y.o Russian girl. And imo she showed you the ultimate disrespect. No need to over analyze this. Turn the situation around; imagine dealing with a woman and being so comfortable you don't even feel the need to notify her it's a flake. That basically means you are willing to cut ties at ANY moment.

It could be your colleague, mother ,best friend ect. Nobody has the right to mess with your time , sincere intentions and effort like this.

you gotta let this one go for now, I am sorry.

 

[pipeman84]

You spent 3 months with a hoe like this? Her behavior is so egregious it's hard to believe she didn't give out hoe vibe on the 1st date. How'd you meet her?

 

[Dr.Suave]

Ghost/Next her.

 

[soulforge]

just ghost her @$$

Bruv i was absolutely specific about the date. Even told her we going to a restaurant for a meal (table booked and paid for by me)

I noticed something about this 304... Even when I arrange a date, she doesn't turn up, unless I message her again & reconfirm the date.

I'm done with her now, I think ghosting is the best way forward... I honestly don't feel like I owe her an explanation. She fukin KNOWS she was meant to meet me tonight

 

[EyeBRollin]

I noticed something about this 304... Even when I arrange a date, she doesn't turn up, unless I message her again & reconfirm the date.

So she’s never been that interested in you.

 

[soulforge]

My geuss is that you KNOW exactly what to do now, but perhaps you hope someone will say something like; " ah, the hell with it ,this is just women. Pretend like nothing happened, smile it all away and keep it moving? You had a hotter one recently? No? Then you should forgive her, understand her blablabla"

I assume this is the 24 y.o Russian girl. And imo she showed you the ultimate disrespect. No need to over analyze this. Turn the situation around; imagine dealing with a woman and being so comfortable you don't even feel the need to notify her it's a flake. That basically means you are willing to cut ties at ANY moment.

It could be your colleague, mother ,best friend ect. Nobody has the right to mess with your time , sincere intentions and effort like this.

you gotta let this one go for now, I am sorry.

Absolutely agree with this.... I will simply ghost her

 

[soulforge]

So she’s never been that interested in you.

Only 3 days ago, she was telling me how she wants me to go on holiday with her and her family lol wtf