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should i bother replying to this singer (i.e. professional attentin wh0re)?

big weezy

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3 weeks ago i tried picking up this HB singer (professional attention wh0re) in the food court section of a health food supermarket. i went up to her and asked if the food was any good. it went on a while and she asked me to sit down (big mistake should have left then) i made her laugh and she said i should be in stand up comedy but then i got friendzoned when she started to go on and on about some internet convo she had the night before about some kid pretending to be a dj/producer.. she kept going on and on about it even when i changed subjects she kept going on about it. i said at one point 'you're probably too much of a good girl for me anyway' (i knew full well she isn't) when i went for the number she said 'i'll give you my number but only for friendship' there was hesitation from both sides and i go 'ok, but do you have a bf or something?' she goes 'no im just concentrating on myself right now' basically i made a joke that our meeting that night would help inspire her to write a hit song then i left. i didn't bother contacting her cos she friendzoned me and i had 2 other numbers that day.

after this past weekends situation in my other thread i just text her yesterday out of the blue for not particular reason other than attention wh0ring myself i guess.
me: hey there HB, did our meeting in the health food supermarket inspire you to write a hit record that night? haha. my muse abilities transcend more than just music. Big Weezy.
(24 hours later)
her: Hey hey! ... No dont give up the day job to become a muse! it can be a thankless job anyway ;)

i was considering replying with: 'im sure u can thank me in due course.. then again we established you're probably too much of a good girl for me anyway! ;) what sets u apart from the other pretty singers in town?'

then again i'm perfectly prepared to send nothing at all and just leaving it cos she friendzoned me when we met, and we both know theres no way to get out of it so is there much point in me continuing this?
 

thevilittletroll

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i see 2 big mistakes you made #1, you were too indirect with your interaction. she said you should be in comedy. its great that you made her laugh, but at no point did you reveal your intentions. you were just being the friendly funny guy. she friend zoned you because you were friendly and funny but not sexual. next time after you've opened and made her laugh be a little more direct. it should be obvious that you find her attractive, and that you are in fact flirting with her. state your intentions.

#2 you waited 3 weeks to follow up. forget about what you've seen in the movies about waiting 3 days or in your case 3 weeks to call a girl you've # closed. most girls that get approached regularly will forget 9 out of 10 guys they give their phone # to within a day or 2. so in the 3 weeks you allowed to pass without texting or calling her she's probablly given her phone # out to 20-30 guys. always follow up and set up the date within a day or 2.
 

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thevilittletroll said:
i see 2 big mistakes you made #1, you were too indirect with your interaction. she said you should be in comedy. its great that you made her laugh, but at no point did you reveal your intentions. you were just being the friendly funny guy. she friend zoned you because you were friendly and funny but not sexual. next time after you've opened and made her laugh be a little more direct. it should be obvious that you find her attractive, and that you are in fact flirting with her. state your intentions.

#2 you waited 3 weeks to follow up. forget about what you've seen in the movies about waiting 3 days or in your case 3 weeks to call a girl you've # closed. most girls that get approached regularly will forget 9 out of 10 guys they give their phone # to within a day or 2. so in the 3 weeks you allowed to pass without texting or calling her she's probablly given her phone # out to 20-30 guys. always follow up and set up the date within a day or 2.
no i was very clear with my intentions.. however the mistake i made was after 10mins of talking she invited me to sit down.. i should have left.

the only reason i waited 3 weeks to follow up is because i never actually intended to follow up as i knew i was friendzoned and i only sent a text i think cos i ran out of options and it was a punt.

i think i know the answer already, which is just delete the number (which i have) and forget about it. it'll be too much work to even get to meet her that's it's not worth the hassle and i'd be better off spending my energy finding new plates.
 

VladPatton

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I don't think you did anything wrong, man. In fact, sitting down with her for a short while was like an insta-date. At least you got to know her a little bit and found out she rambles on and on about a certain topic, and she stated she wants nothing else more than a friend.

You saw the goods, you opened the box, and you don't like the merchandise. Time to move on. There are a ton of kooks out there.
 
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