She's kinda seeing someone??

[One on One]

Now this girl tells me she's "kinda seeing" someone since January. Can't be that serious since she hasn't mentioned it in the month I've known her, but I think she might be telling me to forget about it. What do you think?

 

[Bonhomme]

******** translation

In most cases, that's real weak ******** for "you just don't do anything for me."

But if she's been really affectionate and playful with you, it could mean she finds you attractive, but is not available, or there's something incompatible about you that is a "deal-breaker."

 

[One on One]

A couple more points I should add:

1. She tells me she's "kinda seeing someone"
2. Then, she tells me she's "going to xxxxx on Thursday"
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   ******** translations would mean she's telling me she doesn't want to date me, but then #2 would tell me that she still wants to hang out.
   
   Now, she goes clubbing all the time and I haven't seen her with this guy (whom she met at the club). She grinds with me, she grinds with other guys. I know this "relationship" is no barrier. I'm going to assume that her IL in me has gone down, but I can still recover by going on the DL for a few weeks and then re-emerging a bit more outgoing. ****, all I want to do is get in her pants.

 

[Mr. Mystery]

Just stop worrying about IL period.

If you think she's sexy, talk to her. If she doesn't like you, oh well, you could give up or you could persist, but don't worry so much about what she thinks of you, that puts the ball in her court bigtime.

Mr. Mystery

 

[Dee-Zy]

Originally posted by dave134
Now this girl tells me she's "kinda seeing" someone since January. Can't be that serious since she hasn't mentioned it in the month I've known her, but I think she might be telling me to forget about it. What do you think?

And so are u - so what's the problem?

That's what u should of said N that's the mentality u should of have.

but what's done is done - she's not interested. Just couldn't say no to you/didn't want to hurt u

blablabla

GHOST

 

[Narcissisto]

I had a girl who was acting really playful with me in the bar and when I said, "You seem kinda cool. What's your number?" She said, "I'm kinda seeing someone." I immediately said, "You mean you only date ONE guy at a time?" I then started talking about how I'm into polyamory and that I couldn't just hang out with one girl at a time." I couldn't even finish what I was talking about before she cut me off with an abrupt "WE CAN STILL HANG OUT!" I took her number down, called her 4 days later, and tried setting something up. It was the weekend of the beginning of Spring Break. Bad timing. I worried about finding a job during the proceeding two months. I struggled to eat. I was experiencing poverty because I couldn't get unemployment or a job. I was ineligible for unemployment because I refused to find full-time work, which limited my selection. I was a full-time student, and it was too late to back out considering the tuition was already paid.

So, I can't really say she wasn't interested, because I never called back. You can't rely on women for **** to call you back even if they are interested, so if you are relying on them to call you, give it up right now. What this girl said to you was a s h i t-test. You failed. You know what to do next time.

 

[One on One]

Was it a test? Why would you say I failed?

I didn't act flustered when she said it and it was all natural. Sure, I could have responded with something C+F, but I think the key is I didn't get that deer in headlights look or what not.

Anyways, I knew I messed up at the club as I'm still an inexperienced clubber. I do have a chance to make it right, but I'm going to lay low. She is good about phone calls and might call me up to see what I'm doing this weekend. I'll avoid her until at least next week then and see if I can recover. She's a partier and good friend so I won't burn bridges, though. So, I'm sorta nexting her. Unfortunately, I don't have any other girls on my list (shoulda approached that damn starbucks girl today).