Yeah, it's natural.
The trick is to regulate the process of developing feelings for her. First you see the girl and think to yourself
"Wow, she looks pretty!". Then when she smiles to you, you build up more attraction to her. Then when she talks to you in a positive way, smiles at you, laughs at your jokes, touches your arm when she talks to you etc. your attraction to her builds up and up. You go out on a date, you kiss her, she tells you she likes you etc. etc. it all builds up your attraction to her more and more. Then you fvck her, then this, then that, your attraction keeps building up, the fire within you keeps growing stronger.
And the stronger that fire grows, the harder it becomes to control it. Your desire for her spins out of control very quickly and before you know it, you're a fool in love, you have oneitis and have brought yourself in a very vulnerable position. Now, when the girl acts distant or acts negative in any other way, you feel sad or frustrated. Your emotions are now living their own life, you cannot control them anymore. Instead, they control you and they control your actions. Your mind tells you what's the right thing to do in different situations, but your actions are no longer controlled by your mind or what you think, no, they are now controlled by your emotions and what you feel. So you will act stupid and fvck everything up for yourself, because you allowed your emotions to spin out of control.
So again, you need to regulate that process of building up attraction and feelings for her, you need to slow that process down. It's all a matter of mastering your own emotions.
If you met a new girl and notice that your thoughs are going towards her all day long, even though you just had one date with her, then you know that things are already spinning out of control and you need to fight it. How? By actively pushing those thoughts of her out of your mind when they pop up!
Obviously, that's quite difficult
It feels good when you're daydreaming about her, thinking back of last night, when she laid in your arms etc. Puts a smile on your face and makes you feel wonderful, right?
Yet, if you allow yourself to get carried away by these things and keep thinking of her all day long, you are allowing your feelings to spin out of control. And the more they spin out of control, the less able you are to control your actions. But gaming women is all about making calculated actions, and you won't be able to make the right actions anymore when your feelings spin out of control! So you have to make a conscious effort to control your thoughts and feelings, you have to force yourself to stop daydreaming about her etc.
That's why it is so important to master the principle of 'NO CONTACT'. Going 'no contact' usually happens after you broke up with a girl. She majorly disrespected you, she cheated on you or whatever, so you break up with her and know that you have to move on from her. But your keep longing back for her after the breakup, so you need to make that longing disappear. That's why you block her number, block her email, unfriend her on facebook etc. You have to get her out of your mind, just as if you are going through rehab with drugs. Your feelings keep longing for her, but you know that you have to move on from her, so you force your thoughts and feelings away from her.
That's what you do after you break up with a girl. But in a way, you have to do the exact same thing when you are GETTING TO KNOW a girl!! When you notice that your feelings are spinning out of control, you have to fight them, just as you fight them after a breakup. The difference is that you try to totally erase them after a breakup, but when you get to know a girl, you just try to SLOW THEM DOWN, not erase them. But it's the same principle, you must fight your own feelings and keep them under control.
For example, suppose you met a girl, went on a few dates and eventually fvcked her. At that point, your emotions for her might be quite strong already, you feel butterflies in your stomach etc. The girl keeps texting you the next day, she tells you how great you made her feel last night, how much she wants to be with you again and all kinds of other sweet things. It makes you feel so fvcking great, like you're on top of the world! SUCH BLISS!! (but....emotions are spinning out of control!)
So today is monday and the two of you already agreed to meet up again on Friday. You can't wait until the days pass and it will be Friday, so you can see her again! But then she texts you:
"I want to see you so bad, I'm gonna cancel my yoga class tonight so we can meetup and don't have to wait until Friday. Do you think you can make it tonight?" You're filled with joy when you read her text, the thought of seeing her tonight instead of having to wait until Friday, makes you feel wonderful! You actually agreed to hang out with your pals tonight, but you'll gladly call that off and go to your sweet lover, right? So you text her
"Are you kidding me, of course I'll be able to make it tonight! See you then, babe!" And another passionate night filled with joy ensues... Oh, how sweet life can be!!
Yeah...but if you know what's good for you, you just go through with hanging out with your pals that night and just wait until Friday. Why? First, because you make her wait and that way you keep her interest level high
But more importantly, and in relation to the subject we are talking about, you will slow down your own feelings by doing this. You are keeping your own feelings in check, you are preventng your feelings from spinning out of control. Your desire tells you that you want to rush over to her place tonight, you long to see her so much. And you must keep that longing under control, you must slow it down or else it will spin out of control. So just like the guy who just broke up with his girlfriend and went no contact, you also have to go no contact. Not forever, like the guy who broke up with his gf, but just for the next few days until it's Friday, which is when you had initially agreed to meet up again.
It's these type of decisions that you have to train yourself in when you get to know a girl. Forcing yourself to stop daydreaming about her, forcing yourself not to take every opportunity to meet up with her etc. In all those situations, your desire tells you one thing, but you have to act against it. By doing those things, you slow don the process of developing feelings for her, and prevent your emotions to spin out of control. If you don't do this, you will lose control and find yourself in a weak and vulnerable position veeeery quickly. You'll start making foolish actions and fvck things up, then the girl will lose interest, she will grab the frame and make you her emotional slave, or she will cheat on you, or whatever! The situation will turn bad for you, one way or the other.
To make a long story short, you have to learn how to master your own desires, your thoughts and your emotions. You can do this by practising RESTRAINT. Restrain your feelings as they develop, prevent them from spinning out of control. Do not just give into your desires all the time without any restraint, keep them under control and regulate them!
Easier said than done, but practise makes perfect. Just stay conscious about these things while dealing with women. You'll probably fail at it 9 out of 10 times, but as you keep trying, you will get better at it. Eventually, you'll fail at it 8 out of 10 times, then 7 out of 10 times, and so on. And one day eventually, you'll be a fvcking lady killer who does not let his feelings spin out of control and games hot women by the dozen! Just be willing to put in the hard work and keep improving. You have to go through many fails in order to become a winner, you can't do everything right from the start. You'll have to deal with many women, make the same mistakes over and over, learn from them and improve.
I believe Scott is gonna pursue this girl after all. He's gonna crash and burn and he will feel sh!tty afterwards. But you know what? He will have learned a valuable lesson and improve from it! That's just the way it has to be. Each time you make a mistake with a woman, you will think twice about doing it with the next woman. Rinse and repeat, deal with lots of women and keep improving throughout all those affairs, then you'll become a DJ eventually.
