She's disrespectful or am I too sensitive?

[Alpheta]

I'm with this one girl who as a joke from time to time tells me to shut up or says I'll smack you or calls me "you lil chit" all of course as a joke when I'm being sarcastic etc.

Well recently she started saying it too much and it got me irritated so I told her that I don't like her attitude and she has to stop. Well she did for a while and then she starts again and I know it was by purpose. I told her agin and then she stopped.

Now this is like the third time I'm telling her and I don't think she's taking me too seriously.

What shall I do ? Am I being over sensitive? I mean I try to laugh it off sometimes but then she gets a bit carried away sometimes so yea.

 

[kraytkiller]

If you told her to stop, that you didnt like it, and you were serious about it and direct, that is very obviously... disrespectful.

If I, as a man to another man, called you a ball licker, you asked me to stop, I called you a ball licker several times the next day, you asked me to stop, and I called you a little ball licker the next day... well that would be fighting words, wouldn't it? Or atleast, blatlantly disrespectful.

There's no reason to take her disrespect, because she has a vagina.

Now the queston is, what are you going to do about it? Personally, I'd tell her, one more time, looking her dead in the eyes, no smile on my face, 'Don't call me that again.' And say only that. If she says something like 'why?' I'd say 'Because I don't like it, and I find it disrespectful.' And if she does anything but agree from that point on, she's a dumba** and/or playing games.


But if she respected your wishes, again, briefly, and then returned to doing it, I'd drop her from my life (personally, pet peeve of mine)

 

[pyros]

she's testing you and she has little respect for you.

It happened to me once with a chick. It doesnt matter if you tell her two or 100 times, after you tell her max twice, you withdraw attention, ie, you start to be 'busy' when she wants to see you.

She either changes her behaviour or if she's lost all respect for you she will just stop seing you when you become distant. She wants to dominate you and make you her little b-itch. Of course she's not gonna tell you this directly.

Up to you, but as I said, it doesnt make a difference if you tell her again.

 

[Boxer00]

Now this is like the third time I'm telling her and I don't think she's taking me too seriously.

What shall I do ? Am I being over sensitive? I mean I try to laugh it off sometimes but then she gets a bit carried away sometimes so yea.

How you go about telling women is the key. If you aren't telling them in a confident powerful way they won't take you seriously. Make it clear what you don't tolerate and if she continues let her go. Some people will keep doing things you don't like. Start cutting them off after they refuse to listen. If they continue get rid of them.

I'd tell her, one more time, looking her dead in the eyes, no smile on my face, 'Don't call me that again.' And say only that. If she says something like 'why?' I'd say 'Because I don't like it, and I find it disrespectful.' And if she does anything but agree from that point on, she's a dumba** and/or playing games.

How many more times does he have to tell her he doesn't like it? He already told her at least three times. She knows he doesn't like, but continues to do it anyway. The point is not to argue about it with women. Make it clear what you don't tolerate and be done with it. If she continues with it you dump her for being disrespectful.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

She's trying to may you her b1tch-boy. You have to cut her off if she does it again, explain you will not tolerate this disrespect.

Or you can do it back to her, but you will get mud on yourself as well. But you can start calling her "h0e", "b1tch", something really degrading... See if she takes it.

 

[Peña]

3 times to tell her is enough man. Do not laugh off what you do not like. She does not respect you wanting to make you the fool. No need for that. Tell her to get lost.

 

[soulforge]

I have been in a similar situation as yourself.. believe me, if you keep letting it go, she will get worse with her disrespect.. clearly tell her you do not like it one more time..

If she carries on, then get rid of her.. the one i was seeing, kept calling me a 'small man' because i am 5ft7 tall.. i workout, so i have big chest, shoulders arms etc..

But because i am not exactly tall, she would call me small, or tiny every other day.. got to the point where it was starting to pisss me off..

There is no point in calling names back, because it then becomes a slanging match..

The one i was seeing, i eventually dumped her for disrespecful behaviour.. i once left my wallet in the car by mistake, as we was walking upto a cafe for some food..

She called me a 'really dumb' 3 times, this his how i5 starts and if you let it go, she will spiral out of control

 

[Alpheta]

To be honest,I do say some real nasy shiz that warrants that talk but I think I will say it to her one more time, telling her I will walk if she disrepects me in anyway again.

 

[Alpheta]

should I bring it up in our next convo or wait for her to slip up?lol

 

[pyros]

it seems OP dont understand what is going on.

If doesnt matter if you tell her you're goin to 'leave' her if she keeps doing it, you just do it without telling her. And as I said, the problem here is that she doesnt respect you so there is not much you can do, besides withdrawing attention, hoping she will get the hint, and then keep banging her some more until she starts doing it again.

What I say is just a temporary fix, cause the root of the problem is her lack of respect for you, and if a woman doesnt respect her man...well, she's not attracted to him either, and there is no future.

 

[Alpheta]

it seems OP dont understand what is going on.

If doesnt matter if you tell her you're goin to 'leave' her if she keeps doing it, you just do it without telling her. And as I said, the problem here is that she doesnt respect you so there is not much you can do, besides withdrawing attention, hoping she will get the hint, and then keep banging her some more until she starts doing it again.

What I say is just a temporary fix, cause the root of the problem is her lack of respect for you, and if a woman doesnt respect her man...well, she's not attracted to him either, and there is no future.

The thing is, I have said or I say some real nast stuff to her or sometimes im real inappropriate. I've made her cry a few times too. So I guess its my fault too.

I like her very much but now from the responses above, seem like I may have to let go.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

These things start out small... And they snowball till you are telling us:

1. She treats me worse than dirt!
2. She takes me out and humiliates me in front of people, where I have no come back
3. She flirts right in front of me and acts like I'm not even there.

With this b1tch-boy game she's playing, she might not do it out of a lack of respect. Because she might do it to EVERYONE. But if you take it, she will not respect you.

You can dump her and tell her why. If you liked her outside of that, she may stop.

But I think she's a bully and will never stop.

 

[FairShake]

Why not both?

If she does something after you tell her not to it is disrespectful.

If you are getting butt hurt over her teasing you even though you tease her you are too sensitive.

You need to find the right balance in your relationship between respect and joking around. Many relationships do.

 

[Alpheta]

These things start out small... And they snowball till you are telling us:

1. She treats me worse than dirt!
2. She takes me out and humiliates me in front of people, where I have no come back
3. She flirts right in front of me and acts like I'm not even there.

With this b1tch-boy game she's playing, she might not do it out of a lack of respect. Because she might do it to EVERYONE. But if you take it, she will not respect you.

You can dump her and tell her why. If you liked her outside of that, she may stop.

But I think she's a bully and will never stop.

The thing is its not a bullying thing. Shed listens to everything i say (mostly) and its either my way or the high way. Like i said ive been a total douche myself and she has said herself that its unfair how i can say what i want and she is restricted.

Just yesterday she went on saying 'shut up' etc after i kept insisting on something inappropriate. I did however then tell her to stop otherwise it wont be good. She stopped. But now i feel likeits happening too often. Im seeing her this sunday and shell call me today but I feel so annoyed at this moment in time.

I feel like bringing it up and tell her straight up.If she disrespects again then its all done and dusted.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

The thing is its not a bullying thing. Shed listens to everything i say (mostly) and its either my way or the high way. Like i said ive been a total douche myself and she has said herself that its unfair how i can say what i want and she is restricted.

Just yesterday she went on saying 'shut up' etc after i kept insisting on something inappropriate. I did however then tell her to stop otherwise it wont be good. She stopped. But now i feel likeits happening too often. Im seeing her this sunday and shell call me today but I feel so annoyed at this moment in time.

I feel like bringing it up and tell her straight up.If she disrespects again then its all done and dusted.

Maybe you where overpowering her and building up anger and resentment in her. And she was trying to level things, so your stuff took it's toll on her and this is how she repays you.

Maybe you guys can find a happy median. If you are happy with the other aspects of the relationship I would try to sort this section out.

 

[soulforge]

it seems OP dont understand what is going on.

If doesnt matter if you tell her you're goin to 'leave' her if she keeps doing it, you just do it without telling her. And as I said, the problem here is that she doesnt respect you so there is not much you can do, besides withdrawing attention, hoping she will get the hint, and then keep banging her some more until she starts doing it again.

What I say is just a temporary fix, cause the root of the problem is her lack of respect for you, and if a woman doesnt respect her man...well, she's not attracted to him either, and there is no future.

I agree with this.. if op has told her once or twice he finds it disrespecful and she continues to behave in this manner, then telling her you will leave won't change a damn thing..

 

[soulforge]

The thing is, I have said or I say some real nast stuff to her or sometimes im real inappropriate. I've made her cry a few times too. So I guess its my fault too.

I like her very much but now from the responses above, seem like I may have to let go.

You need to curb your own behaviour towards her.. act more mature.. dont create an environment of disrespect.. you are doing this to yourself.

From now on do not talk to her like crap, and see if she treats you with some respect back.. if she still continues to be disrespect you, then drop this hoe

 

[soulforge]

What you are essentially saying is, that you want to carry on talking to her like crap, or you have been talking or treating her like crap..

But now you are getting all butt hurt, because she is rebeling back? Or is becoming resentful towards you?

 

[Alpheta]

What you are essentially saying is, that you want to carry on talking to her like crap, or you have been talking or treating her like crap..

But now you are getting all butt hurt, because she is rebeling back? Or is becoming resentful towards you?

No I get that. I have treated her bad. I insult her and make her feel real insecure. I realise she get *****y after. wrong I know and I believe its the reason for her reaction.

Ive realised when I act more serious and mature she is more submissive etc.

I think ill change my attitude however, when she calls today I will deffinately facetime (ldr) her and tell her straight up.

 

[El Payaso]

You can't make her stop. You have to realize that you can't control people's actions. You can only control your reaction to their actions. If she is disrespectful despite your warning, then you cut her off.

When I first started dating my girlfriend, she would put her wet towel out of the shower on my bed. I told her I didn't like it and she said "stop bring so petty".

I simply told her "Well, that's the last time you'll be doing it". She got all mad and walked out of the house. I just chuckled and didn't say a word to her. It didn't take up to 12 hours before she was frantically calling and texting me to apologize.

She not only doesn't do that anymore. She now makes the bed and tidies my room every morning before she leaves.

You have to show a woman that you're willing to walk away because you don't give a sh!t about her disrespectful behavior.

You give a woman ONE warning or notice and if she doesn't comply or at the very least try to offer a reasonable compromise, you walk away.

It stems from an abundance mindset. If your mindset is still stuck on her being "the one", you will forever worship her and be too scared to walk away no matter how disrespectful she is.

TLDR, give her one warning then walk away.