she was away but her response is not positive, should i wait a week?

[pete101]

i picked up a woman in a bookstore last Friday on good friday, it was an ok pick up. when it came to getting her number she did say 'i dont usually give out my number but i'm trying to be more open..' she didnt know it so she read it off her phonebook, when i took the no. and rang it, it didn't ring, so i assumed it was a fake no. she said she had no reception, i took her phone to check i didn't type in the wrong number.. it was the same one. i took that as a sign to split and leave irrespective if it was real or not and said i'd speak to her soon.

i sent a text on easter sunday:

hey HB, this is my no. it's the most important no. you'll ever save do you like croissants? i know this great croissant place that does the best continental treats amongst other delicacies, we should get together there today or tomorrow.

the text didn't deliver. so i assumed she did give me a fake no.

BUT fast forward to today, at 3pm it delivered! (she must have been away on holiday this past week)

at 8pm today i get a text from her:

hey pete... i actually arrived back this morning and i saw ur msg today. we should do that croissant place soon... take care

not exactly a very positive response..

i can also see that she's encouraging me to keep chasing without offering another time/day.

should i wait a week and then offer another time? (2 strikes rule)

i was tempted to offer a time tomorrow or sunday in the afternoon but that may make me look too available.

 

[Jariel]

The seduction community tries to conditions guys to be assertive when asking a woman out, giving a specific day and telling them to meet us rather than asking, but I don't believe it works so well in real life as it may not be convenient for her.

I believe it's better just to say something along the lines of "Fancy going there some time?" or "you free to meet up next week?"

If she responds positively, just ask what days suit her, then try to work out a convenient day for you both.

PUAs will tell you this won't work and it's too wussy, indirect or whatever, but that's how I ask 95% of my dates out.

It may be low interest, but it may just be inconvenient for her. Ask her again in 4 days or so, but try to find a convenient day.

 

[pete101]

do you think there's a difference between the US and the UK in regards to what works? I don't mean in 'principle' cos the principles are definitely the same, women are women, men are men, women are emotional, men are logical.

but i do find that the 'texting' issue is very different i.e. in the US texting tpo ask a girl out is considered wussy behavior and you should call instead, however in the UK texting is a legitimate form of asking a girl out, would you agree Jariel?

i think i know the answer to my own question in the thread above, i'll just send a 'ok' and leave it, let her ponder if i really mean ok or not..

if she doesn't get back to in the next week i'll ask her out sometime late next week.

 

[Johnnyventana]

Huh? What was wrong with her response? Did you want fireworks and a network tv special? Chill's! It was just fine and normal.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Huh? What was wrong with her response? Did you want fireworks and a network tv special? Chill's! It was just fine and normal.

While I agree with you I also slightly disagree at the same time.

On one hand Johnny is right, if she wasn't interested enough she wouldn't have even bothered texting you back.

As men we are conditioned to lead, she is leaving the door open for you to assert yourself and take charge; she's open to getting together at the place you mentioned.

Reason I disagree slightly is she didn't counter offer for a time and day that works for her. That to me would be the true sign of high interest, so its safe to assume her interest is there, but not through the roof yet.

So wait it out for a few days or more, then ask her out again.


I've learned over the years that you can analyze these situations to death, but in the end the true test of interest is if she is receptive to meeting you. If she is, then you've got your opportunity.









PIMP

 

[EvilAgenda]

You guys (pete101) fking analyze this sht too much.

Really, this game playing is one of the reasons women are winning. Fewer men around. Read books about being a man, cuz I don't think your father or anyone ever taught you how to be one.

Then you won't have problems asking and meeting a girl up for "croissants."

 

[Burroughs]

This one is super easy

Simply text a definite TIME and PLACE 4 croissants/donuts whatev sometime next week...convenient time of course after work.

IF she says no without a TIME OF HER OWN as an alternative...

she is not interested.

delete her number promptly

see how easy that was