She wants to leave "a few things" at my place

[JohnJones]

she comes over to my place 2-3 times a week now, we have s3x and then most nights she leaves pretty quickly. About once a week she stays over.

She asked if she could leave a comb at my place and I said yes, with some comment about how it better not take up too much space.

I believe the comb was a test. She probably carries one in her purse anyway.

Yesterday she told me that she was going to bring some more stuff (toothbrush, contact solution, etc.)

I really have no problem with this but don't want her to push too far: I have too many bad experiences of girls loosing control of themselves, pressing hard, and then looking at you funny because you didn't slam the brakes on for her.

Is it just toiletries or is it a test?

 

[seulaxplaya]

open your eyes

aight man thats good that your getting da ass. but look at the situation. she use to stay over every once in awhile and leave right away usually. now shes moving her basics in. meaning shes planning on being there way way more. therefore not giving you any space. shes escalting this relationship to serious proportions and you are just going along with it.


---remember you are not territory to be marked--

 

[Quick]

It depends on what you want. She's obviously planning to stay a while. When she leaves her stuff, that means she's unconcerned that your relationship will end any time soon. You saying yes is agreeing that she's here to stay.

Have you guys had the commitment talk yet?

 

[spanky]

She's moving in, my man! Trust me. Decide what you want and go from there.

 

[InLawsHateMe]

I've got some of my clothes and a care kit over my gf's place, and she's got some at mine, it's just practical. Packing for the weekend or for the night sometimes is BS... and then there are times when staying the night is more fun when you know you can get up the next day and get ready for work, knowing you don't have to rush home at 5am, to get ready, cuz your clothes and a spare toothbrush is over there.

Now if she's starting to bring her cat ovver, and she's picking out curtains.. ya got to put a foot down then.

 

[JohnJones]

Quick:

We just did "I love you" a few weeks back.

This weekend we went out, sang kareoke, had unbelievably good sex and she just started blurting things out: I love you, you can lean on me, I know you can't tell me everything that goes on in your head, and something about how she's always had reservations after sex (enjoyed it but always left with a wierd feeling after) but not now with us...

She has not brought up commitment, but she also has a way of assuming things too.

Truth be told, commitment is what I want. She's great (not perfect, but great).

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by JohnJones
She has not brought up commitment, but she also has a way of assuming things too.

Truth be told, commitment is what I want. She's great (not perfect, but great).

Alright, I suggest shaking her up a little. Next time at dinner, out of the blue just ask her "What do you want from me?"

She'll be taken aback for a second but keep a straight face, look at her and say nothing until she answers. If she opens up and comes clean about wanting something more permanent it will show that she isn't necessarily a game player (sneaking things over to your place).

Get it out into the open and then the two of you can move forward without much confusion.

 

[ShortTimer]

Here's what you need to do:

Set up some space in your bathroom where girls can leave their things. Baskets, cabinet space or whatever will do fine. Then make up two or three "fake" baskets or shelves with girly stuff on them (lipstick, nail polish whatever) and put lables on them with different girl's names. The next time this chick wants to leave something just tell her to put it next to the other stuff and you'll get around to putting a label on it.

That should keep her from wanting to leave **** around your place anymore.

 

[myfriendblu]

She is marking her territory. Its like a dog lifting its leg and pis sing on the four corners of its yard. She is inadvertantly doing this, without realizing it, so there is no use in confronting her. I would have never let the comb stay, your screwed now.

 

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by JohnJones
She's great (not perfect, but great).

oh boy. famous last words right there.

 

[Krassus]

Sounds like she wants commitment, and since you don't seem to have a problem with that, there really isn't anything you should do. Don't "shake her up" as someone else mentioned - what the hell for? Whatever you're doing is obviously working already, right?

 

[Bonhomme]

Famous last words?

Looks like he's just being realistic, myfriendblu.

Props to you, JJ. Too many guys are too easily dissatisfied with a good thing, and end up pissing it away. I know. I've done it, and regretted it.

I agree with Krassus. If you want a commitment, this is a very good sign.

 

[Player_Supreme]

1. it's called marking her territory. this is where you can see why a dog is called a "b8itch" and a woman as well. dogs mark there territory too.
2. your lost bro...from the first time she left that comb. Now if you say something it will cause a big scene.
3. I never let anyone leave anything anymore. But I do catch them trying...one left a few bobbypins...another clumps of hair...one some hair styling gel...they do this to tell the others of their presence. one even wrote in lipstick on my bathroom mirror cause she new another was on the way over later and that I wouldn't be going back in there...women are sneaky bro...you gotta stay up on your game to stay ahead of them.

 

[Helter Skelter]

What is it with you guys?

God forbid someone finds a girl they really like or LOVE (the horror as all the DJ's GASP!)

What's the problem with somebody being happy with a girl?

Misery loves company I guess!!

Dorks!!

 

[Player_Supreme]

"What is it with you guys?

God forbid someone finds a girl they really like or LOVE (the horror as all the DJ's GASP!)

What's the problem with somebody being happy with a girl?

Misery loves company I guess!!

Dorks!!"

Well then why don't you go out and find yourself a woman Helmutz the putz. DJ's are here to learn how to get laid. Why are you here?