A few months back I approached an attractive girl at an event. We hit it off, hung out a bit before she left town; because she lived out-of-state, all we did was talk. Three months into talking to her, she wanted to fly down and come see me.
She came into town and we had a really great time. However, there’s a problem. She is just under 25, and is looking to get married in about two years. I, on the other hand, at 26, am just about getting ready to complete my PhD, and applying to medical school this year. Therefore, the idea of settling down isn’t something important to me right now. My main foci are setting myself up for a good career and seeing that my ambitions are reality.
I’ve worked very hard to get to my current position and more hard work lies in store. The fact that I have these goals and don’t have enough money stashed up trouble her, especially as it relates to settling down. It seems to me she wants to have things easy. I warned her that even if we got married, life wouldn’t be the picturesque, easygoing fantasy she’s conjured up for herself, at least not until I’m done with my training. She knows I'll be set ultimately, but is worried about the initial few years. Her resolution is for us to just try and see where things go. Personally, I don’t even want to try anymore knowing were she stands.
She’s very attracted to me and thinks I’m awesome and all that, but she’s worried I won’t be ready to settle down, and even if I did I wouldn’t be able to take care of her. What’s weird is that she has a decent job, or maybe she’s looking to be a stay-at-home mom as she is quite traditional.
I meet a good number of girls, but this girl seems a little bit different. So far I’ve kept my distance and I will limit contact.
Is my decision to let her alone a good move on my part? This is a girl for whom I could potentially have strong feelings, and I would rather be cautious and save myself the impending disappointment.
She came into town and we had a really great time. However, there’s a problem. She is just under 25, and is looking to get married in about two years. I, on the other hand, at 26, am just about getting ready to complete my PhD, and applying to medical school this year. Therefore, the idea of settling down isn’t something important to me right now. My main foci are setting myself up for a good career and seeing that my ambitions are reality.
I’ve worked very hard to get to my current position and more hard work lies in store. The fact that I have these goals and don’t have enough money stashed up trouble her, especially as it relates to settling down. It seems to me she wants to have things easy. I warned her that even if we got married, life wouldn’t be the picturesque, easygoing fantasy she’s conjured up for herself, at least not until I’m done with my training. She knows I'll be set ultimately, but is worried about the initial few years. Her resolution is for us to just try and see where things go. Personally, I don’t even want to try anymore knowing were she stands.
She’s very attracted to me and thinks I’m awesome and all that, but she’s worried I won’t be ready to settle down, and even if I did I wouldn’t be able to take care of her. What’s weird is that she has a decent job, or maybe she’s looking to be a stay-at-home mom as she is quite traditional.
I meet a good number of girls, but this girl seems a little bit different. So far I’ve kept my distance and I will limit contact.
Is my decision to let her alone a good move on my part? This is a girl for whom I could potentially have strong feelings, and I would rather be cautious and save myself the impending disappointment.
