I called to set it up and she said that her friend would probably tag along. I said no that's pretty weird, its a mood killer. So she ends up calling me creepy and I tell her I'm not down for a third wheel.
We go back and forth through texts after the initial call and I give her a final option to salvage it and meet up minus her friend I even say not to respond unless she is ok with it and that I would delete her number if I don't hear anything by tomorrow no hard feelings.
She ended up apologizing and agreed to get together later this week.
What I want to know is this normal and did I do the right thing? When she said friend immediately in my mind I said hellllll noooo. I remember reading don't agree to meet her friends until you are together otherwise it's just a huge ****block.
I understand why she wants to bring a friend due to not knowing me 100% for safety and to see if her friend accepts me. But I'll be damned if I'm going to have a third-wheel tagging along when I want it to be private and focused on me and her.
No lie though the phone call I gave her was cringe worthy, I ****ing rehearsed that **** and it made it worse LOL
. I was so nervous and talked way to fast. Here was our dialogue as I can remember it.
ME: Hey [her name], its [my name]! I'm actually going to be heading out here in a few minutes so I will need to make this conversation short. So I will get straight to the point, me and you [x place] on [either wed or thurs] sound good?
HER: Yeah, I work on thursday so wednesday would be good.
ME: What time are you free?
HER: I get out of class around 3
ME: Ok 4:30 it is, that ok? Weds 4:30 I will pick you up.
HER: I will just meet you there I can drive, my friend will probably be with me is that fine?
ME: No that's weird
HER: She will want to come even if I tell her not to
ME: ... Yeah lets just do it another day then, text me whatever day you are good for. [At this point I was pretty much like **** it, balls in her court if she don't get back to me oh well. I was just ready to hang up asap.]
The text doesn't do the awkwardness justice haha, like I said I rehearsed and was nervous so it didn't come out natural; I talked so fast also. As soon as I hung up I was like damn... I messed that one up BAD.
Then we went into text shortly after, she sent a message first:
HER:"You know that came off really creepy right? XD"
ME: Yeah, as soon as I hung up I immediately thought "awkward". Why would you bring a friend on the first get together. I'm interested in you not your friend.
[Text's went back and forth with me saying I understand and gave her the choice whether she wants to meet, if not then I will move on. She eventually agrees]
Now could be highly likely she will flake regardless, but I don't care. I was ready to mark this one as failed attempt/rejection number 1 and move on immediately at the end of the phone call. Like I said that convo was so brief and rushed (my fault) and it was a lesson learned; don't rehearse it makes things worse because it felt like I was reading lines off a piece of paper haha!
*Edit*
Also is it normal to feel MORE nervous in a phone call rather than face to face? Because man I was nervous as hell sitting there getting ready to call but I really don't think I would be like that in person.
We go back and forth through texts after the initial call and I give her a final option to salvage it and meet up minus her friend I even say not to respond unless she is ok with it and that I would delete her number if I don't hear anything by tomorrow no hard feelings.
She ended up apologizing and agreed to get together later this week.
What I want to know is this normal and did I do the right thing? When she said friend immediately in my mind I said hellllll noooo. I remember reading don't agree to meet her friends until you are together otherwise it's just a huge ****block.
I understand why she wants to bring a friend due to not knowing me 100% for safety and to see if her friend accepts me. But I'll be damned if I'm going to have a third-wheel tagging along when I want it to be private and focused on me and her.
No lie though the phone call I gave her was cringe worthy, I ****ing rehearsed that **** and it made it worse LOL
. I was so nervous and talked way to fast. Here was our dialogue as I can remember it.ME: Hey [her name], its [my name]! I'm actually going to be heading out here in a few minutes so I will need to make this conversation short. So I will get straight to the point, me and you [x place] on [either wed or thurs] sound good?
HER: Yeah, I work on thursday so wednesday would be good.
ME: What time are you free?
HER: I get out of class around 3
ME: Ok 4:30 it is, that ok? Weds 4:30 I will pick you up.
HER: I will just meet you there I can drive, my friend will probably be with me is that fine?
ME: No that's weird
HER: She will want to come even if I tell her not to
ME: ... Yeah lets just do it another day then, text me whatever day you are good for. [At this point I was pretty much like **** it, balls in her court if she don't get back to me oh well. I was just ready to hang up asap.]
The text doesn't do the awkwardness justice haha, like I said I rehearsed and was nervous so it didn't come out natural; I talked so fast also. As soon as I hung up I was like damn... I messed that one up BAD.
Then we went into text shortly after, she sent a message first:
HER:"You know that came off really creepy right? XD"
ME: Yeah, as soon as I hung up I immediately thought "awkward". Why would you bring a friend on the first get together. I'm interested in you not your friend.
[Text's went back and forth with me saying I understand and gave her the choice whether she wants to meet, if not then I will move on. She eventually agrees]
Now could be highly likely she will flake regardless, but I don't care. I was ready to mark this one as failed attempt/rejection number 1 and move on immediately at the end of the phone call. Like I said that convo was so brief and rushed (my fault) and it was a lesson learned; don't rehearse it makes things worse because it felt like I was reading lines off a piece of paper haha!
*Edit*
Also is it normal to feel MORE nervous in a phone call rather than face to face? Because man I was nervous as hell sitting there getting ready to call but I really don't think I would be like that in person.
