She walked out on me last night, so I let her keep on walking

[Robert28]

So, been seeing this girl for about 4 weeks. Didn't see any major red flags with her, she wasn't aggravating, nothing really negative to say about her. We're sitting in my living room watching tv just chilling out, I'm sitting in my recliner and she's laying on the couch. I noticed she kept texting on her phone, didn't think anything of it. She hasn't said much to me but again, we are watching tv, I didn't think there was a problem. Then all of a sudden she stands up, grabs her sh!t and says "I'm going to have a drink with a friend". I just give her this dumfounded look and don't say a word but I'm thinking "well, bye Felicia!". She walks out, I don't chase her or say anything. I get a text later from her "why were you being mean to me tonight?". What???? I calmed myself before replying and replied "mean huh? who walked out on who?". Then she was like "you wouldn't cuddle with me, you know I need affection all the time and I cried in my car when you didn't come after me. I like to be chased" I'm thinking "where in the fvck did this bat crazy sh!t come from? you were normal up til now!". Then she tried to call me a couple of times but I didn't answer, I just told her I didn't want to talk and I was going to bed, have fun at the bar you wanted to go to so badly. I mean wtf, all of this because I wouldn't sit on the couch and cuddle with her one d@mn time??? It's not like she'd been off to sea the past 6 months in the Navy. We'd just spent the past two nights together and spend most of Christmas day together. The hell else does she want?

Haven't heard from her today, not sure if I will or not. Still scratching my head wth happened.lol I do know she goes out drinking with her ex boyfriends gay brother sometimes and he cant stand me I guess so I'm sure that's who she met up with last night. Stupid gays.

 

[VladPatton]

http://youtu.be/lbCyElB-gFc

 

[El Suave]

She was texting another guy that she met, probably not too long ago. Then, tried to start a fake fight with you so she can rationalize why she would be banging another guy that night. Went out, got drunk and banged or went down on that dude.

You will hear from her again, don't worry. It is up to you then if you want to believe her version of what happened that night.

 

[Robert28]

She was texting another guy that she met, probably not too long ago. Then, tried to start a fake fight with you so she can rationalize why she would be banging another guy that night. Went out, got drunk and banged or went down on that dude.

You will hear from her again, don't worry. It is up to you then if you want to believe her version of what happened that night.

Whatever ends up happening I'm 100% positive that I'll be made out to be the bad guy and she will play the victim all over town, even though she got up and walked out for no reason....or a stupid reason.lol

 

[El Suave]

Whatever ends up happening I'm 100% positive that I'll be made out to be the bad guy and she will play the victim all over town, even though she got up and walked out for no reason....or a stupid reason.lol

Duh... That goes without saying.

 

[Dreesy]

"I need constant attention"


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[GS750]

Some game playing/manipulation/chick rationalizing going on here...

So, been seeing this girl for about 4 weeks. Didn't see any major red flags with her, she wasn't aggravating, nothing really negative to say about her. It's only been 4 weeks. The mask hasn't come off yet. We're sitting in my living room watching tv just chilling out, I'm sitting in my recliner and she's laying on the couch. I noticed she kept texting on her phone, didn't think anything of it. She hasn't said much to me but again, we are watching tv, I didn't think there was a problem. oh but there is...you're not paying enough attention to her Then all of a sudden she stands up, grabs her sh!t and says "I'm going to have a drink with a friend". Haha..yeah right. A "friend". She wants you to try and get her to stay. I just give her this dumfounded look and don't say a word but I'm thinking "well, bye Felicia!". Excellently played.She walks out, I don't chase her or say anything. Again. Nice move. I'm sure she expected you to come after her.I get a text later from her "why were you being mean to me tonight?". "Why didn't you chase after me like a puppy dog? I need constant attention/validation".What???? I calmed myself before replying and replied "mean huh? who walked out on who?". Nice. Call the bytch on her bullsh*t. Then she was like "you wouldn't cuddle with me, you know I need affection all the time and I cried in my car when you didn't come after me. Oh Lord. She was pissed/surprised that you didn't come chasing after her like a beta herb.I like to be chased" "I'm used to being chased/pursued/fawned over by guys."I'm thinking "where in the fvck did this bat crazy sh!t come from? She's rationalizing some nonsense and playing some high school game, which is why it makes no sense to you.you were normal up til now!". Mask comes off...she's a childish pain in the ass.Then she tried to call me a couple of times but I didn't answer, I just told her I didn't want to talk and I was going to bed, have fun at the bar you wanted to go to so badly. Nice. Keep it under control.I mean wtf, all of this because I wouldn't sit on the couch and cuddle with her one d@mn time??? Not likely. She's up to something and using that as an excuse to rationalize her sh*t behavior.It's not like she'd been off to sea the past 6 months in the Navy. We'd just spent the past two nights together and spend most of Christmas day together. The hell else does she want? For you to be a fvcking mind reader. And to chase after her when she pulls some lame attempt to get your attention and acts like a child. You played it well.

Haven't heard from her today, not sure if I will or not. Don't answer it if you do.Still scratching my head wth happened.It's confusing because she's likely playing a game or not being honest with you.lol I do know she goes out drinking with her ex boyfriends gay brother sometimes and he cant stand me I guess so I'm sure that's who she met up with last night. Stupid gays.Gay dudes who are friends with girls are the biggest c0ckblockers known to man. They will throw a monkey wrench in your program any chance they get. They don't want you to score.

Great example of what to do when a chick acts like a spoiled pain in the ass. Repped ya.

 

[Zarky]

"I need constant attention"


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Exactly.

OP, who cares why she left? The b*tch basically told you she's a nut. She said she needs constant attention and she "likes to be chased." That means she's a control freak, which means you want to stay as far away from her as possible. No questions asked.

Women let you know who they are pretty quickly. Strangely, many men don't believe them when they do. This one just flashed a big neon sign at you. Did you read it and comprehend it? It's the most honest she'll ever be with you. "I am an attention wh0re and a control freak" is what she said. Hope you got it.

 

[om1xr]

:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

If you take girls and especially what they say too seriously then you are going to go insane. their ego need constant drama and emotional rollercoasters. when you didn't give her that she simply rationalized a way to create it and make you the cause of it because that's the only way they feel alive because most girls have no idea wtf they are doing in this dirt ball in the middle of nowhere if there are no men to fvck with.

never take girls seriously and learn how to have fun with their games and you will laugh your ass off every time they do this kind of sh!t. girls are simply crazy as fvck but they add some good spicy flavor to your life if you know how to handle them and be amused with their sh!t tests and their stupid manipulation games.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Y'know what's funny? When I got to the part where you said "We're sitting in my living room watching tv just chilling out, I'm sitting in my recliner and she's laying on the couch" - before I finished reading the rest, my first thought was "Hmm, why wasn't he cuddled up on the couch with her?" So, it was ironic to me then that the reason she said she got mad was because you weren't cuddling up with her. I dunno, for me, at least in those first few months, I'm usually trying to find every excuse to touch/grab/be near the girl I'm dating.

At any rate... this is not in any way rationalizing her behavior or how she felt about the incident, but it WAS the first thing I thought about when I came to that sentence.

 

[Robert28]

Y'know what's funny? When I got to the part where you said "We're sitting in my living room watching tv just chilling out, I'm sitting in my recliner and she's laying on the couch" - before I finished reading the rest, my first thought was "Hmm, why wasn't he cuddled up on the couch with her?" So, it was ironic to me then that the reason she said she got mad was because you weren't cuddling up with her. I dunno, for me, at least in those first few months, I'm usually trying to find every excuse to touch/grab/be near the girl I'm dating.

At any rate... this is not in any way rationalizing her behavior or how she felt about the incident, but it WAS the first thing I thought about when I came to that sentence.

I was always touchy feely with her and this was the first time we didn't. I mean she was sprawled out on the couch and I was comfortable sitting in my recliner, I didn't think there was a problem. All she had to say was "hey, come sit with me" or something like that. I see couples that have been dating and they aren't always hugged up on each other and there never seems to be a problem. Yeah, I can understand if I never showed her any affection, but one time??? Keep in mind this is a girl who after sex, rolls over and goes to sleep, doesn't want to cuddle. That was fine with me.lol

 

[Between_The_Lines]

Sounds extremely annoying and needy, to the point of resorting to childish manipulation to get her fix of attention. You sure you want to look after the emotional well being - and not sure how well it is - of this kind of girl?

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Yeah - this sounds like a a collage of a few things: (a) a sh*t test, (b) neediness on her part, and (c) an excuse to start a fight so she can feel some kind of emotional up and down (most girls have a need for this that guys will never get). Regardless, the only way you can win is to NOT react to it. If you give her attention when she does crap like this she's only going to do it more. So, she knows your number - if it were me, I'd wait for her to call me while focusing on other women.

 

[SamTheHobit]

This sounds like a very manipulative women.

If anything does progress further between you two, be very careful.

 

[Robert28]

I seriously doubt I'll hear from her again. Hope I don't actually. I will admit that I learned a new lesson about women and what's important to them when it comes to dating these days and that is: you can cheat on them, slap them around, treat them like absolute @$$, and those are all forgivable sins BUT if you don't always text them first or show them attention 24/7 that is unforgivable to them. They'd rather you not be busy and work at a crap job as long as you have time to text them all day as opposed to someone who works hard and is busy during the day. I say this because this girls last boyfriend was a 30 year old jersey wearing, Fast and Furious driving, no ambition, no money, worked as a bag boy at a grocery store who she stayed with for years because he texted her because he didn't have sh!t else to do. You have to constantly prove to women every min of every day that you like them or else they start to doubt it and once that doubt creeps in you are done. That hamster starts spinning and it's all downhill from then on.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

I dealt with something similiar last Christmas, the nice guy in me came out & spent to much time with her, introduced to my close friends etc. Things are going great than bam here comes sabotaging b*tch attitude just when you thought things were good.

F*ck that sh*t man you can do better. It sounds like you where aware of plenty of redflags, you will hear from her again all sad & sorry for her sh*tty attitude & blaming it on work/holiday stress.....a bunch crap! You know what you need to do.

 

[Robert28]

I dealt with something similiar last Christmas, the nice guy in me came out & spent to much time with her, introduced to my close friends etc. Things are going great than bam here comes sabotaging b*tch attitude just when you thought things were good.

F*ck that sh*t man you can do better. It sounds like you where aware of plenty of redflags, you will hear from her again all sad & sorry for her sh*tty attitude & blaming it on work/holiday stress.....a bunch crap! You know what you need to do.

That's the thing, I sensed the relationship was moving way too fast and did all I could to slow it down but the more I tried the faster that train got out of control. You think you're doing everything right and then BAM! they hit you with the pickiest bullcrap and make a big deal out of it. She could have caught me with 7 slvts in my bed all at once and that wouldn't have pissed her off as much as the fact that I rarely texted her first or didn't cuddle with her one time or reassure her constantly that I liked her.The sad thing is this girl was 26 years old and acting like this.

 

[GS750]

I hate it when that happens. You can literally sense that she is trying to move the relationship into serious mode, too much too soon. Almost makes you wonder if she is into you...or just looking to be in a relationship just to be in one. But girls like that jump from d*ck to d*ck like a traffic light changes so you may have dodged a bullet in the long run. BTL is right, girls like that are needy and are manipulators and need constant attention/validation. Likely low self esteem. Gets annoying after a while.

 

[Zarky]

I seriously doubt I'll hear from her again. Hope I don't actually. I will admit that I learned a new lesson about women...

Nah man. This was one chick. To extrapolate this experience to include "all women" is folly. There are 3,499,999,999 other women in teh world. Not all of them are going to be exactly like this one.

 

[zekko]

Yeah - this sounds like a a collage of a few things: (a) a sh*t test, (b) neediness on her part, and (c) an excuse to start a fight so she can feel some kind of emotional up and down

Yep. That whole business about "Why didn't you come after me? I like to be chased". Yeah, I bet she does. But it sounds like someone needs to grow up. Either she's a complete wh0re using this as an excuse to go bang somebody else or she's simply immature. Sounds like the OP handled it correctly.