She tells me too much

[Reto]

Ok. I've been seeing this chick for a couple of months. (It seems I keep meeting the same types of chicks. This kind of happened with the last one).

Anyway, she tells me that some guy asked her to lunch. She said no. But he was like "I'm married, I'm not interested in you in that way". Well, sure enough, he called her yesterday. She didn't go, but she obviously gave him her ph #.

Recently, her sister's boy friend has started calling her to "talk". They've talked in the past. Her sister does not know. He actually left her 3 v/m's yesterday. I told her he's got the hots for her. She's "like no he doesn't. Besides I'm not attracted to him in that way".

So, my question is, do I put up with this sh8t? I really think she's doing some serious flirting to get this type of attention. I like her, but not enough to put up with this.

It may be a test. But I'm tired of tests. I may flunk this one on purpose.

Any thoughts or opinions? Any similar experiences? How did you handle them? Should I just tell her I don't want to hear about it? Am I over reacting?

You know, her telling me all this is slowing erasing any attraction I have for her...

 

[vdk]

when a girl gives you shiat, you NEXT her. If you tolerate her flirting with other people it means she has little respect for you. Little respect means almost 0% of a potential relationship. Just wait until she intitiates a date or something, just dont put any effort in yourself. This is a test for her, if she is really interested in you.

Regarding tests. If you are confident enough and have been reading the bible, you shouldnt be worrying about tests. Dj's are about confidence and self control. Dont think she is better than you.

 

[Liz]

Originally posted by Reto

Anyway, she tells me that some guy asked her to lunch. She said no. But he was like "I'm married, I'm not interested in you in that way". Well, sure enough, he called her yesterday. She didn't go, but she obviously gave him her ph #.

She did give him her phone # and that is the number one mistake. If she wasn't interested in at least the attention she would have thought about you and told the guy that she shouldn't let him call her because you might have a problem with it.

Recently, her sister's boy friend has started calling her to "talk". They've talked in the past. Her sister does not know. He actually left her 3 v/m's yesterday. I told her he's got the hots for her. She's "like no he doesn't. Besides I'm not attracted to him in that way".

If she's talking to the sister's boyfriend and not the sister and the sister doesn't know there is a little more than a "talk" going on. I'm not saying that she is cheating, but she is getting extra attention from him and that is what she is looking for.

So, my question is, do I put up with this sh8t? I really think she's doing some serious flirting to get this type of attention. I like her, but not enough to put up with this.

Only you can choose what you are willing to put up with. The type of chyck you have on your hands is what guys like to call an "attention wh0re" She feeds off the attention and feels down if she isn't getting attention from any guy in a ten mile radius. This may not be something that you are willing to put up with and Nobody here will blame you for telling her to hit the road.

It may be a test. But I'm tired of tests. I may flunk this one on purpose.

This is not a test, it is just the way she is.

Liz

 

[dirt]

Yep. What they said. Sounds to me like she's not ready for a committed relationship with one guy. Don't let her keep stringing you along. Take the initiative.

Oh... and tell the sister. Thats bull****.