She sends mixed signals to me , what she wants?

[zorg198]

Hello All,

My name is Joseph and i am new here but i read the articles here all the time.:rockon:

I have a problem with a girl , figures hu... this is going to be long so watch out.


She work with me , she's a student who comes twice in a week.. she's beautiful and so on.

I don't know what's the deal with her , there one times i was needy her so i stopped it because i was faking it , i am not a type of guy who shoe's to much attention to people so it came to a situation i overdo it since i am not used to it.

after couple of days i just ignored her and she asked me to come and fix her computer , it came to a point that when i sit on her chair she sit down on the table and her legs and face was thrown me , asked me what;s new with me , when i go to study and so on...

one time i sent her a text msg and she didn't respond to it , this is the second time she did that so i just asked her on Facebook if sh can give me her number again , she sent me a msg back on Facebook and wrote me i was learning to a test , and she asked me : don't you have my number? you texted me few days ago....

yesterday i saw her and came to her and asked her how was the weekend she told me she was hanging out with her friends and asked me what i was doing , when i come and speak to her she sometimes look at me and sometimes look and turn away quickly....

Also , her sitting area is away from me so i can see her leaving the office but she came to me and said to me i am going home.

so what the hell she wants ? should i just walk away from this ?

 

[zorg198]

Anyone?

 

[zorg198]

i don't want to look needy so i don't call her or send text msg from the phone or from Facebook , i don't know how to behave with her. i think she clearly not interested because i invited her in the past to go to lunch and she declined and also yesterday she declined to my invitation to coffee... so guys, what should i do? please help.

 

[Leopold]

you dont do nothing and leave her alone, dont pay attention to her no more.

 

[zorg198]

you dont do nothing and leave her alone, dont pay attention to her no more.

ok , but is she interested or she just like to play games ?


I mean i will have a hard time to do that since i am the tech guy there so if she has a problem with her computer i will need to fix it.

so how should i behave once i will next to her?

forgot to mention- i talked with her on the phone last Thursday and asked her what she's doing tomorrow she told me since she had a very busy month with exams and so on she will host her girl friends over and have fun.

 

[Leopold]

Listen... I'm going to make things very simple.

It doesn't sound like she wants you. Even if she's playing games.... you refuse to play them. Simple, she must play by your rules, if she doesn't... she's out.

If your job is to fix her stuff... you do it. But no special treatment towards her. She cant have your attention for free like that.

Btw had you tried teasing her before? I usually tease woman a lot when they dont know crap about computers and do something bad. It always works for me. Anyhow... it seems too late for you.

You came off too strong and needy. Just forget about it and be polite. Dont ask her out no more nor give her any special treatment. Treat her like you would a man.

Big important thing... DO NOT FORGET YOUR SEXUALITY. Do not EVER EVER forget you are a man and like women. By all means be sexual in the future and let womenn know you are a MAN and not a woman with a penis. If you dont do this and then one day... bam you are sexual... OHGOD forbids you earned the CREEPER title.

 

[Iceberg]

ok , but is she interested or she just like to play games ?

Why do you think she's interested? I see NO signs of interest. Zero. Nothing. Nada. 0%.

 

[Mike32ct]

I can understand your initial confusion. Her flirty body language while you were fixing her computer got you thinking she wanted you.

BUT, she shows zero interest anywhere else. She doesn't want to meet up. She will barely look at you in person when you aren't doing computer work.

The bottom line: She's c@ck teasing you either for sick pleasure or ego boost and for faster IT tech support.

Continue doing computer work because that's your job, but just be polite and focus on business only. Don't give her ANY other attention. Outside of computer stuff, she doesn't EXIST. Remember, attention wh@res have one weak point: they hate to be ignored. Exploit this.

But most of all, forget about her and find other girls.

 

[zorg198]

understood, its difficult since she's the type of beauty i like but if i will continue like this it will only make it worse.

is there any way to fix this or its lost it chances? my friends said to me just tell her how you fell and ask her if she's into me... i said hell no.

 

[nismo-4]

Judge nismo has reviewed your case.

Do you realize that mixed signals is a display of low interest or lack thereof?

Hope is the AFC's wing. You're really winging it. She showed no interest until she wanted you fix her computer.

You are guilty of failure to read signals, failure to be sexual, and unauthorized use of a pedestal. I'm gonna fine you a hurt mind, 2 blue balls, and a trip to Orbiter City, Kentucky. Your failure to be sexual also got you a trip to Unwanted Wood, Alabama.

You need to move on and spin more plates, as that's the best thing that is for you. Your princess is in another castle. Stop worrying about this. You're only getting false hope. She's trying to keep you as an orbiter, when in actuality, she's an attention wh0re. Don't feed her. Ignore her (Go Ghost/ No Contact.) Let this go. DO IT NOW. So ordered.

Case closed.

 

[zorg198]

Judge nismo has reviewed your case.

Do you realize that mixed signals is a display of low interest or lack thereof?

Hope is the AFC's wing. You're really winging it. She showed no interest until she wanted you fix her computer.

You are guilty of failure to read signals, failure to be sexual, and unauthorized use of a pedestal. I'm gonna fine you a hurt mind, 2 blue balls, and a trip to Orbiter City, Kentucky. Your failure to be sexual also got you a trip to Unwanted Wood, Alabama.

You need to move on and spin more plates, as that's the best thing that is for you. Your princess is in another castle. Stop worrying about this. You're only getting false hope. She's trying to keep you as an orbiter, when in actuality, she's an attention wh0re. Don't feed her. Ignore her (Go Ghost/ No Contact.) Let this go. DO IT NOW. So ordered.

Case closed.

Understood , will do as advised and will report back

 

[ezio]

don't feed the attention *****s and don't go out of your way to be nice or helpful to her

 

[Leopold]

don't feed the attention *****s and don't go out of your way to be nice or helpful to her

Nor any other girl in the future.

 

[zorg198]

don't feed the attention *****s and don't go out of your way to be nice or helpful to her

This is what i have done this morning when i came to work , she didn't see me so i didn't say her hello or good morning or whatever , she wants something she knows what to do.

 

[zorg198]

I went to the cafeteria to make myself a coffee and she was there, she told me , Good morning Joseph, i also said good morning, she asked me why i am ignoring her? i said i told you good morning no? and then i left.

 

[zorg198]

As you said , she right away saw that i am not coming to tell her good morning she asked me why i am ignoring her. f#ck her...

 

[zorg198]

Dear Friends ,

After i made all the possible mistakes with the girl mentioned i would like your help to teach me how to behave right next time , can you please help me?

 

[zorg198]

help please

 

[Mike32ct]

You don't do anything wrong per se. She just wasn't that interested.

A lot of times we look for "mistakes," but it's really just a chick not being that interested, which is beyond our control.

 

[zorg198]

today she told me she's going out with someone and she didn't told me this because she didn't want to hurt my feelings and want to have nice work relationship. To tell the truth i fell fine ! i don't fell bad ... i now know it ended. how should i behave next to her when i will see her next week at work?