She says she's not interested, wants to be friends but 'definitely' want to meet up..

[twistedi]

We met up (online date) and we got on really well. I was cool, funny etc but I forgot to be alpha (naturally I am THE nice guy until I get them undressed and am then super alpha!, I am beginning to learn).

I got a text the morning afterwards saying she had a really nice time, thinks i'm lovely but doesn't think anything will 'happen' but does want to be friends. I sent a text saying 'wanna meet up for a stroll in the park sometime' (nothing more) and got a text back saying 'definitely'.

I don't have many options but should I
a) ignore her for a day and give her one day as an option to meet up
b) text straight back saying 'yes, pleeeeese, I was up all last night thinking of you' (this is a joke but not far off what I have done in the past!)
c) just forget her & go 'NEXT' (I don't have many other options at the mo and don't have much spare time but I am continuing to look around)
or
d) something else that someone could suggest (just don't contact for longer) but I like to strike while the 'iron' is still hot (and she did make it so)

My gut is that she could be interested but my appearance wasn't the best (had this dodgy rash on my face!), was a little rushed on the day and wasn't at my absolute best and could do better the next time.
(she only lives 10 mins away so it's not a biggy to meet up for an hour and see if I can turn things around)

 

[GotED?]

Personally I would be suprised if she really meant it when she said 'definitely'. You will probably experience serious flaking from her upcoming so be ready.

In reality I believe she was trying to reject you with the softest landing possible. She has ZERO sexual attraction for you, you are going to become her best girlfriend and b!tch on a leash. Do you really want to become a woman's pansy?

Women who just want you as a 'friend' are usually terminal attention wh0res anyways. They want a thousand orbiters, do you want to be another orbiter?

Use your life energy somewhere else more useful. Move on. Game over.

If you NEXT her, it may seriously undermine her decision making skills and she may come CHASING after you.

Usually - she's fooking another man already and a woman usually can't multi-task multiple partners if she has developed feelings or is infatuated with a man in her life already emotionally.

Good luck,

Exodus

 

[twistedi]

Thanks for your wisdom. I agree with everything you say. I think anything I will do will now just come across as desperate (because I'd have to be desperate). She will, from now on, be at the back of my mind where she belongs.

 

[GotED?]

The online dating thing is in itself a red flag.

Women (someone on here said this recently) who have been exposed to online dating will never be the same. They have hundreds of men wanting her attention; she at her best hides her attention wh0ring when you meet her but she KNOWS there are always better options online.

This is an issue because women exposed to online dating will never know when enough is enough. A woman is always contemplating if she can do better or 'upgrade'. You do not want a woman from online dating or one who has been on one.

It is just much higher quality women for you and less predictable pain in the end.

Look up meetup.com, you have a better chance finding quality based on common activities.

Good luck.

Exodus

 

[nismo-4]

Dump the b**ch. Your princess is in another castle.

Case closed. Exit stage left.

 

[PlayHer Man]

As the man you should be deciding the terms for your relationship, not her.

When a woman says she just wants to be "friends" just say: "We are not on the same page then. It was nice meeting you." Then disappear.

If you go to a seafood restaurant specifically for seafood and when you get there they say: "Sorry we are out of seafood. But we have chicken fingers!!"

Would you be the moron who sticks around hoping that maybe you'll eventually get some seafood? Why not go to ANOTHER restaurant that has what you want? Time is precious.. don't squander it.

 

[Fly By Night]

The online dating thing is in itself a red flag.

Women (someone on here said this recently) who have been exposed to online dating will never be the same. They have hundreds of men wanting her attention; she at her best hides her attention wh0ring when you meet her but she KNOWS there are always better options online.

This is an issue because women exposed to online dating will never know when enough is enough. A woman is always contemplating if she can do better or 'upgrade'. You do not want a woman from online dating or one who has been on one.

Yeah, in my experience, girls who use online dating sites can't get a guy in real life for a reason.

But pertaining to OP, I think you should have been more definitive when you asked her out on a stroll. You should have told her the time and place after you told her about the stroll, that way she has to say no if she's not interested (or come up with a bs reason to not go). If she said "definitely" to that, she would have been expected to show up. Since you put it so vaguely, she can say yes and not go anywhere with you.

 

[atree]

If my odds were 50% that I'd get together with this girl they are now about 10%. I should just go NEXT, and move on. It is the only option, the other is that I waste my time and get down that I get another rejection.

Dwelling on it will only make my cynical. She needs to fly and I need to spend my time working out how not to be so nice, more exciting and how to be more attractive.

 

[VladPatton]

C.
Don't be her girlfriend with a penis.