She is playing mind games way too much - dominating me

[jagr84]

Hey guys

My story is kinda fkd up, and she maybe is. Let me start by saying she is a dime, very attractive, guys are chasing her like crazy. She is demand. We don't go to the same school however when we first saw eachother we held gaze. I am trying to sum up btw... We saw eachother unexpectedly couple of times always felt a connection. Whatever

She made the initial contact by texting me, have no idea how she got my number. She kept coming back even after I made stupid dumb moves... This is when I realized oh hey she is very sweet but huh...
We had a nice conversation and then I said we should go out to eat together, she said that it was a good idea with a smiley, then ended the conversation. Its been like 2 weeks and she didnt talked to me at all. I talked to her but she didnt reply. A mutual friend (her ex) posted an old pic of her kissing him on his cheek. I requested her on social medias and she doesnt respond but respond to random muscular guys hahaha


You have to understand that she has a HUGE ego, out of this world and is immature. She knows exactly its driving me nuts but I am keeping my composure. My question is (I never had a problem of getting out of a womans trap but the one is different) What to do when she texts me again ? Having a relationship with this girl seems unlikely but I want at least something coming out of it

Thank you
Peter

 

[Tictac]

No one can dominate you without your permission.

 

[expos]

Its been like 2 weeks and she didnt talked to me at all. I talked to her but she didnt reply.

That is your answer.

My favorite line to use in this case "A girl will move mountains to be with you if she wants you."

Every LTR I had started with a girl who had a high interest level in the beginning. The stars are aligned and all you have to do is show up. There is no guesswork or games and it's fireworks from the start.

I suggest you go after a different girl. This one sounds like she'll give you nothing but issues if you indeed make her your girlfriend.

I'd also like to add that MOST of the hot ones are trouble. Every hot girl I've gotten with had a lot of problems or hangups that never allowed me to feel comfortable. It's just the way it is. They are entitled because they've always gotten attention and they are masters at blowing guys off because they do it so often.

 

[The LadyKiller]

I'd also like to add that MOST of the hot ones are trouble. Every hot girl I've gotten with had a lot of problems or hangups that never allowed me to feel comfortable. It's just the way it is. They are entitled because they've always gotten attention and they are masters at blowing guys off because they do it so often.

Expos is right. I'm dealing with this myself. Went on a date with HB9 a couple weeks ago that went well. I then was out of town for a week, ever since it's been sh*t tests galore.

Jagr84 - like in your case, the HB has resorted to playing games. While I might be annoyed on the inside, I don't let it show (I'm a rock). The thing to do might be to ignore her for a little while and see if she comes back to you. That'll answer your question.

 

[compleks]

Don't message her again, and focus your energy into other women.
As soon as you get a few more prospects this one wont seem nearly as interesting.

If she does come back, so be it. But make sure you're in high demand and not too interested or available.

 

[nismo-4]

Women who are interested in you won't confuse you. She wouldn't play mind games like this with Brad Pitt.

In shorter terms: She ain't interested.

Case closed. Get out of my court.

 

[thunder_god]

Just go no contact on her ass!

 

[jagr84]

Read all your messages got it, thx for all recommendation I would defintly ignore her, but this one got my attention

Women who are interested in you won't confuse you. She wouldn't play mind games like this with Brad Pitt.

In shorter terms: She ain't interested.

Case closed. Get out of my court.

You know that some women play games on purpose to make a guy chase even more or to make them look in high demand? I am pretty sure you are aware of it...

And Remember she is one who texted me out of nowhere, I was not gonna do any move. She probably searched for my number for a long time, I am not trying to prove something, just sayin‘.

 

[Atom Smasher]

"A girl will move mountains to be with you if she wants you."

This.

This very phrase used to be my signature here for years till I changed it.

I like how you say "When she texts me", OP. LOL, she's not going to text you, rest assured. You have target fixation and you need to let her go completely. You're fantasizing about something that isn't even there. Women are fickle and can do a complete 180 because they don't like the way you sneeze or a myriad of other stupid reasons.

She's gone. Cut bait and fish elsewhere.

 

[jagr84]

My thoughts in bold



Here is what I would do. Forget about her until she reaches out. When she says "What's up" immediately say "Are you free to go out this week?" If the answer is anything but yes, delete the number. Because I am a crusty oldfart, I would probably even add "Just gonna go ahead and delete your number now" Because she gets her way all the time and is always chased, Ironically, the man who treats her like she "ain't all that" is the one who will likely get her attention. "Girls dig jerks" kinda thing.

Hahaha Classic, I appreciate. I already forgot about her. And Yes, I ve given her too much attention calling her hottie, when to be honest she aint all that, she is good but ... anyway . all I need is to do a 180.

Such a shame, I used to be in control. I would do my jerk and not reply and she would say ????

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Here is what I would do. Forget about her until she reaches out. When she says "What's up" immediately say "Are you free to go out this week?" If the answer is anything but yes, delete the number. Because I am a crusty oldfart, I would probably even add "Just gonna go ahead and delete your number now" Because she gets her way all the time and is always chased, Ironically, the man who treats her like she "ain't all that" is the one who will likely get her attention. "Girls dig jerks" kinda thing.

Bad advice Mauser.

All this communicates to the girl is that you let her get to you, got frustrated and most importantly don't know the way the game works.

The problem here is the OP hasn't proven that he is attractive and the MAN. She is running things and he is too afraid to be bold because he doesn't want to get rejected, hence why he posted this thread.

I don't agree with Nismo either or the majority of what this board tends to rehash. "Girls that are interested won't confuse you." -- that's a true statement, but girls have varying degrees of interest in you initially. What you do from the point attraction is established will either elevate it or drop it.

I'm all for going after girls who show strong interest, but then again most the girls who are super hot present more of a challenge than this cute to average girls.

OP you didn't do anything to increase attraction with this girl. If you want her, go get her. Waiting for her to text you? Not how its done.










PIMP

 

[VladPatton]

Next that biaaatch!

I don't care if she's a 12, bro! She treats you like liquid shıt! Get rid of that bıtch from you life, save your self respect and find a girl that is into you. This is just an attention whóre riding the cóck carousel, like 90% of hot girls out there. She stopped contacting you because there's a mile-long picket fence of cóck surrounding her. Don't wait for her. Move on.

 

[jagr84]

I'm all for going after girls who show strong interest, but then again most the girls who are super hot present more of a challenge than this cute to average girls.

OP you didn't do anything to increase attraction with this girl. If you want her, go get her. Waiting for her to text you? Not how its done.

Exactly, what I ve been trying to tell everyone (not in this board). Of course hot girls are gonna play more than the average oone.

And honestly, I have some plan to increase my attraction with this girl and its simple. Show no affection and go out on dates/parties (dont worry she will see through my insta or fb)

She stopped contacting you because there's a mile-long picket fence of cóck surrounding her. Don't wait for her. Move on.

Just to clarify she is not the type of girl to sleep around. At least, she is very picky and your right on the second part.

 

[jagr84]

Well that girl is back
I asked if she wanted to go to the spa someday
again playing hard to get.... she said not really but asked for more details (when & where) then she said she might come, like the location made her change idea. From that moment, I knew exactly that she is indeed playing hard to get way too hard and now its kind of backfiring. Anyway for sure I wont get my hopes too high on this one...

 

[jagr84]

I contacted her.... asking directly.
But I did talked to her (hey/hi) in the past and had no answer.

 

[goldengoose]

For the record, if you're trying to increase attraction you are already losing in the game. This girl should already be attracted to you. You shouldn't try to increase something that she should already have. If you're trying to increase attraction, you're trying to qualify yourself to her. Hot chicks will disqualify guys just on that. While you're trying to increase your attraction, there is another guy who she is already attracted to who she will give all her time and body to.

Give it up, this girl isn't interested in you. She is ignoring all your offers and you're just giving her a bigger ego as you're chasing her.

This is very easy to see

She made the initial contact by texting me, have no idea how she got my number.

She was interested because she initiated contact. Interested girls do that.

She kept coming back even after I made stupid dumb moves... This is when I realized oh hey she is very sweet but huh...

Your stupid dumb moves turned her off. That's what did you in. This is why she is ignoring you. The more you chase her the more you are going to keep her turned off. Adding more dumb moves isn't going to help your cause. Quit chasing her.

We had a nice conversation and then I said we should go out to eat together, she said that it was a good idea with a smiley, then ended the conversation. Its been like 2 weeks and she didnt talked to me at all. I talked to her but she didnt reply. A mutual friend (her ex) posted an old pic of her kissing him on his cheek. I requested her on social medias and she doesnt respond but respond to random muscular guys hahaha

Well that girl is back
I asked if she wanted to go to the spa someday
again playing hard to get.... she said not really but asked for more details (when & where) then she said she might come, like the location made her change idea. From that moment, I knew exactly that she is indeed playing hard to get way too hard and now its kind of backfiring. Anyway for sure I wont get my hopes too high on this one...


I contacted her.... asking directly.
But I did talked to her (hey/hi) in the past and had no answer.

Does this sound like an interested girl? She declines your offers and doesn't respond. She is keeping you around as an orbiter stringing you along. You are just showing off your AFCness by chasing her.

Chicks who want you don't that, they say yes and they show up. Chicks that are DTF don't play hard to get, they come over and fvck. You have no idea if she is the type to sleep around. You don't know what she does behind the scenes. Guys who chase end up having all their time go to waste.

 

[jagr84]

I see the point your trying to make but How am I qualifying myself to her ? Lol All I did was ask if she wanted to hang out in a spa with different ppl, actually its not even a spa, I dont know the name. Havent spoken to her in like 3 weeks
I am not even gonna respond to your last paragraph.

 

[goldengoose]

All I did was ask if she wanted to hang out in a spa with different ppl, actually its not even a spa, I dont know the name. Havent spoken to her in like 3 weeks.

Well, you should be more clear about what you write. How am I supposed to know what you said when you don't write it in your post?

You story appears to be changing by the way. This is what you wrote earlier today.

Well that girl is back
I asked if she wanted to go to the spa someday
again playing hard to get.... she said not really but asked for more details (when & where) then she said she might come, like the location made her change idea. From that moment, I knew exactly that she is indeed playing hard to get way too hard and now its kind of backfiring. Anyway for sure I wont get my hopes too high on this one...

This implies that you spoke with her today or yesterday because you said "she is back". No mention of going with other people and you knew it was a spa and the location. Obviously you knew the name and location because you said it "made her change her idea"

All I did was ask if she wanted to hang out in a spa with different ppl, actually its not even a spa, I dont know the name. Havent spoken to her in like 3 weeks.

Now you say it was with other people, you don't know the name, not a spa, and you haven't spoken in 3 weeks. What's up with that? Why would you invite a chick to hang out at a place you aren't even sure about? Doesn't make a damn bit of sense to me. Sounds to me like you're trolling here dude.

 

[jagr84]

Now you say it was with other people, you don't know the name, not a spa, and you haven't spoken in 3 weeks. What's up with that? Why would you invite a chick to hang out at a place you aren't even sure about? Doesn't make a damn bit of sense to me. Sounds to me like you're trolling here dude.

The story is so confusing that I dont know how to explain, thats the reality. I spoke to her a day ago now, I said she is back as in ‘oh here is something new’ and yep its been like 2-3 weeks I havent texted her. What I am trying to say is that its not actually a spa, its more like a place where you can relax, eat, train & do anything you want. I said that one of my friend was going to ‘hook’ me up to have access to this location so logically she must know that I was not going to be alone. Now I see its right here that I didnt mention it and it created massive confusion.

When I said it made her ‘change idea’ I was referring to the fact that initally she seemed reluctant when I made the proposition but still asked for details. When I told her some details, she did a 180.

 

[Cloudtopsun2100]

Scanned through your release and its obvious she is a waste of time. Sure she is a dime but her personality is a zero, might as well find a new dime that isnt too busy inhaling her own farts while at home looking at the dudes fawning all over her