she interested?

[slickjesse]

i work with a hb9. through some neg hits and CF ive managed to raise her interest. one day a customer thought we were married so since then she's joked about us being married. tells people at work about how were married and we joke about how we're practicing to have babies. today she was very touchy with me. sometimes though when she had the chance to do something at work near me she didn't take it though. as we were leaving i asked what she was doing tonight. she said i dont know what about you. i said some friends were coming over and she should come. she asked if she knew any of them and i said no but itll be fun. she stood there quiet for a while with lots of "umms" and "hmms" and said that it might be weird since she doesn't know anyone. i gave her my number and told her to call if she decided to. well she called an hour later but i ended up not having the friend thing at my house...it was just me there. she said after work she went and layed in bed for an hour and got bored so she was meeting a friend of her who lives in the same apartment complex as me and i said they can come over and say hey. so they all came over and we talked for about 15 minutes. i was C/F....lots of laughing. her friend told the hb9 that she had to take her friends home cause they had to get some sleep, kind of like thats what were doing, do what you want. hb9 said "alright....see ya" and walked out...not really looking at me or anything. i know it seems like im anazlyzing every detail but i just want opinions...when around each other talking i get signals but it seems like she doesn't take opportunities that someone who liked me would take. am i reading into this to much and shes acting like a normal person who likes me or does this show she really has no real interest. thanks!

 

[Walden]

Dude you knew you were gonna get a dozen answers like this one but here we go.

I don't think anyone can tellf rom what you've posted it sound like it's be hard enough to tell if you were there.

It's good that she came over to visit, and she bough the friend so she wouldn't be akward without anyone she knew there. (Maybe you bneing there alone woulda looked like a bit of an ambush when she did turn up though ).

However there is only one way to find out if she likes you and we all know what that is right?

So ask her out and bust some kino on that a**

Good luck and good hunting.

 

[slickjesse]

yea i know...i usually have a better grasp on what a girl is thinking though so i just wanted opinions on this

 

[dionysius_d]

From that info its really impossible to read her mind.

At least she came to your place. It will not be hard to get her to go again, since you showed yourself not to be a desperado or rapist.

 

[becker]

Sounds similar to a situation of mine. In general, I feel that girls sometimes feel more comfortable being with other girls first before they jump into a one-on-one thing with you, especially if there are outside reasons why she shouldn't be alone with you. Examples would be that she has a BF, she works with you, etc. She probably also doesn't want to come off as desperate (which to me is stupid, but that's the way people feel sometimes).

I know kino is usually a test to use, but I think that it's also dangerous to use it so early in the game only because you might come off too strong for knowing her so little, and that might actually scare her off. I've known girls who I've kino'd but they didn't always respond well because I didn't know them well enough (I've learned my lesson from that).

If you ask me, she seems interested, but not comfortable yet. I base this on a few things you've said. She was touchy with you, she called you, and she agreed to come over to your place, even if it was for a short time. Girls are generally pretty subtle and some of the little things they do have more meaning than it seems, so you're not too far off in maybe keeping alert at least to the possible signals. Doesn't mean you need to make a move just because signals are there, because I tell you, it's not always good to come off as too strong. I'm in a situation where a girl with a BF seems to enjoy hanging out with me, and we have a lot in common and good chemistry, and she even introduced me to her parents, and I've gone over to her house. If a girl doesn't like you, she won't do this generally, just like this girl would not have called you or come to your place if she wasn't at least a little interested.

I've also experienced the whole brief, cold, "goodbye", where the girl sort of seems indifferent when she says goodbye to you, sort of leaving you standing there going "what am I, chopped liver?" I'd say don't sweat it too much, again, it may very likely be because the girl at this point is not comfortable expressing herself to you too much, or to make herself not seem too needy. Who knows. Give it a little more time, and keep your eyes open for signs, and keep us posted.