anyone who knows bi-polar knows what im talikng about. i cant leave her i love her too much. she says she will get better after we are married. so i set the marriage date for august. i dont wanna lose her or see her with another guy
she has SEVERE bi-polar disorder. am i trapped?
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Let me ask you this, are you stupid? She'll get better after the marriage? LMFAO!
Why don't you wanna see her with another man? If she's so ****ed up why do you want her? What exactly makes you think she's bi-polar? Explain...
Why don't you wanna see her with another man? If she's so ****ed up why do you want her? What exactly makes you think she's bi-polar? Explain...
PuertoRican_Lover
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Marriage is not a solution to her woes or for her bipolar personality!
Deal with this problem first before even considering marriage - wait for a few years to determine if you want to deal with this for the rest of your life!!
In the title of your thread you capitalized the word SEVERE - be careful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Do not get married until you know what you have!!
Deal with this problem first before even considering marriage - wait for a few years to determine if you want to deal with this for the rest of your life!!
In the title of your thread you capitalized the word SEVERE - be careful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Do not get married until you know what you have!!
Georgie24,
It is my regret to inform you that unless she is heavily medicated and is good about taking that medication, the only man that is good for her is the one with the straight jacket. If you enter into a marriage with her, it will be unhappy. Before women are married they are on there best behavior. Once that ring is on all bets are off. And if she is problematic now, just wait till she has trapped herself a man. The fellow to marry her will be in for a rude suprise. Some bi-polar patients in rough and rocky marriages tend to make the domestic situation a dangerous one. There have been plenty of news reports about bi-polar people killing their spouse's and children. Not only that the bi-polar disorder is one that can be past on to their children. Would anyone want to pass on such a disability and hardship onto their child? No child asks to be born with such an affliction, and what parent would honestly ask their child to bear such a burden. Then there is the finanical situation, the average married couple with 2.3 kids is strapped for cash as is. Couple that with medical bills, special classes, extra care and being the only legally sane parent makes all these responsibilites impossible to juggle. For a person to say things will get better if you do this for me, knowing that they have a problem can not be all that loving. They are saying that you have a problem you need to fix. When in fact it is there problem they need to get under control with proper medical attention. It would be like an alcoholic saying that once you buy the liquor store I won't need to drink so much since its all around me and will lose its thrill. Should someone enter into an unhappy marriage knowingly. Knowingly pass on a terrible affliction to their children and knowingly face financial ruin. These questions beg yet another, is she knowingly using her terrible affliction to trap you and push you into a marriage. If you think about what she is saying, it sounds like: "Marry me and I'll be cured. If you don't I'll continue to have these problems, so how could you not marry me?" This ulitmatium is unfair, where is the love when someone is willing to push such a demand on you. Are you trained to deal with someone of this magintude of an affliction, are you willingly to deal with the fact that she is probably not going to get better. The fact that medical studies have shown bipolar patients get only worse over time. The fact that if you two have children they will face their mothers fate. It sounds like your response to her claim is one made out of obligation. You believe you can save someone from this terrible affliction and believing you have the power to cure her you feel obliged to act. She is willing to use guilt, obligation, and her affliction as tools to trap you and blind reason. If you marry her, one day when you are old and dying you will look back on your life. Will you more guility for not marrying a woman who is unstable and abusive, or even more guility for not marrying the right woman who would truely love you and not pose such hardships and control upon you?
You asked us a question, but these are things for you to answer.
-Grey Fox
It is my regret to inform you that unless she is heavily medicated and is good about taking that medication, the only man that is good for her is the one with the straight jacket. If you enter into a marriage with her, it will be unhappy. Before women are married they are on there best behavior. Once that ring is on all bets are off. And if she is problematic now, just wait till she has trapped herself a man. The fellow to marry her will be in for a rude suprise. Some bi-polar patients in rough and rocky marriages tend to make the domestic situation a dangerous one. There have been plenty of news reports about bi-polar people killing their spouse's and children. Not only that the bi-polar disorder is one that can be past on to their children. Would anyone want to pass on such a disability and hardship onto their child? No child asks to be born with such an affliction, and what parent would honestly ask their child to bear such a burden. Then there is the finanical situation, the average married couple with 2.3 kids is strapped for cash as is. Couple that with medical bills, special classes, extra care and being the only legally sane parent makes all these responsibilites impossible to juggle. For a person to say things will get better if you do this for me, knowing that they have a problem can not be all that loving. They are saying that you have a problem you need to fix. When in fact it is there problem they need to get under control with proper medical attention. It would be like an alcoholic saying that once you buy the liquor store I won't need to drink so much since its all around me and will lose its thrill. Should someone enter into an unhappy marriage knowingly. Knowingly pass on a terrible affliction to their children and knowingly face financial ruin. These questions beg yet another, is she knowingly using her terrible affliction to trap you and push you into a marriage. If you think about what she is saying, it sounds like: "Marry me and I'll be cured. If you don't I'll continue to have these problems, so how could you not marry me?" This ulitmatium is unfair, where is the love when someone is willing to push such a demand on you. Are you trained to deal with someone of this magintude of an affliction, are you willingly to deal with the fact that she is probably not going to get better. The fact that medical studies have shown bipolar patients get only worse over time. The fact that if you two have children they will face their mothers fate. It sounds like your response to her claim is one made out of obligation. You believe you can save someone from this terrible affliction and believing you have the power to cure her you feel obliged to act. She is willing to use guilt, obligation, and her affliction as tools to trap you and blind reason. If you marry her, one day when you are old and dying you will look back on your life. Will you more guility for not marrying a woman who is unstable and abusive, or even more guility for not marrying the right woman who would truely love you and not pose such hardships and control upon you?
You asked us a question, but these are things for you to answer.
-Grey Fox
I pitty you my friend. I was married to a bipolar and was actually given the choice to either marry her or she kills herself. I chose unwisely.
After my separation she never killed herself but to this day makes my life hell.
Do not feel sorry for this person because even though she has bipolar she is not a child and she can make her own choices.
There is treatment and counseling you know?
Do not feel responsible for her because she will drag you down to hell with her. Hell..
I pitty you because you say you love her. I learned my lesson and it is that we are all replaceable no matter how much love at present.
It is a living hell and it is not going to change regardless of the conditions. Always an emotional rollercoaster and never a happy situation.
After long years I could finally see the light at the end of the tunnel. I wish I had the same choice I had at that time....
Choose wisely my friend 'cause it is a fvcking living hell. Poor basard...
After my separation she never killed herself but to this day makes my life hell.
Do not feel sorry for this person because even though she has bipolar she is not a child and she can make her own choices.
There is treatment and counseling you know?
Do not feel responsible for her because she will drag you down to hell with her. Hell..
I pitty you because you say you love her. I learned my lesson and it is that we are all replaceable no matter how much love at present.
It is a living hell and it is not going to change regardless of the conditions. Always an emotional rollercoaster and never a happy situation.
After long years I could finally see the light at the end of the tunnel. I wish I had the same choice I had at that time....
Choose wisely my friend 'cause it is a fvcking living hell. Poor basard...
I've honestly never really understood bi polar, although I do have a 35 year old female friend with it.
She's a sweet woman who got married this year to a good guy she met while on vacation (they lived with each other maybe 6 months before getting married). I want the best for her, but I think she rushed into marriage to have kids since her biological clock was ticking. Will it last much longer after she gets kids? Who knows.
Bi Polar can come and go for long stretches. Even many years. What can you expect from a bi polar after marriage? Does it ever work out, even in the most optimistic of circumstances?
She's a sweet woman who got married this year to a good guy she met while on vacation (they lived with each other maybe 6 months before getting married). I want the best for her, but I think she rushed into marriage to have kids since her biological clock was ticking. Will it last much longer after she gets kids? Who knows.
Bi Polar can come and go for long stretches. Even many years. What can you expect from a bi polar after marriage? Does it ever work out, even in the most optimistic of circumstances?
Jvesti
Master Don Juan
I think this is a joke. This has to be one. If I cared enough I might just have looked into it.
MacDiddy
Master Don Juan
What is Bi-Polar, what are the symptoms and how do bi-polar people behave?
WaterTiger
Master Don Juan
Bi-Polaror "Manic-Depressive" are people who have drastic mood swings. They are dancing on the table at a party one night, but the next afternoon they are thinking of commiting suicide. I found the following link....
Copied from:http://www.healthyplace.com/communities/bipolar/nimh/recognition.html
Bipolar disorder involves cycles of mania and depression.
Signs and symptoms of mania include discrete periods of:
*Increased energy, activity, restlessness, racing thoughts, and rapid talking
*Excessive "high" or euphoric feelings
*Extreme irritability and distractibility
*Unrealistic beliefs in one's abilities and powers
*Uncharacteristically poor judgment
*A sustained period of behavior that is different from usual
*Increased sexual drive
*Abuse of drugs, particularly cocaine, alcohol, and sleeping medications
*Provocative, intrusive, or aggressive behavior
*Denial that anything is wrong
Signs and symptoms of depression include discrete periods of:
*Persistent sad, anxious, or empty mood
*Feelings of hopelessness or pessimism
*Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, or helplessness
*Loss of interest or pleasure in ordinary activities, including sex
*Decreased energy, a feeling of fatigue or of being "slowed down"
*Difficulty concentrating, remembering, making decisions
*Restlessness or irritability
*Sleep disturbances
*Loss of appetite and weight, or weight gain
*Chronic pain or other persistent bodily symptoms that are not caused by physical disease
*Thoughts of death or suicide; suicide attempts
It may be helpful to think of the various mood states in manic-depressive illness as a spectrum or continuous range. At one end is severe depression, which shades into moderate depression; then come mild and brief mood disturbances that many people call "the blues," then normal mood, then hypomania (a mild form of mania), and then mania.
Some people with untreated bipolar disorder have repeated depressions and only an occasional episode of hypomania (bipolar II). In the other extreme, mania may be the main problem and depression may occur only infrequently. In fact, symptoms of mania and depression may be mixed together in a single "mixed" bipolar state.
Descriptions provided by patients themselves offer valuable insights into the various mood states associated with bipolar disorder:
Copied from:http://www.healthyplace.com/communities/bipolar/nimh/recognition.html
Bipolar disorder involves cycles of mania and depression.
Signs and symptoms of mania include discrete periods of:
*Increased energy, activity, restlessness, racing thoughts, and rapid talking
*Excessive "high" or euphoric feelings
*Extreme irritability and distractibility
*Unrealistic beliefs in one's abilities and powers
*Uncharacteristically poor judgment
*A sustained period of behavior that is different from usual
*Increased sexual drive
*Abuse of drugs, particularly cocaine, alcohol, and sleeping medications
*Provocative, intrusive, or aggressive behavior
*Denial that anything is wrong
Signs and symptoms of depression include discrete periods of:
*Persistent sad, anxious, or empty mood
*Feelings of hopelessness or pessimism
*Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, or helplessness
*Loss of interest or pleasure in ordinary activities, including sex
*Decreased energy, a feeling of fatigue or of being "slowed down"
*Difficulty concentrating, remembering, making decisions
*Restlessness or irritability
*Sleep disturbances
*Loss of appetite and weight, or weight gain
*Chronic pain or other persistent bodily symptoms that are not caused by physical disease
*Thoughts of death or suicide; suicide attempts
It may be helpful to think of the various mood states in manic-depressive illness as a spectrum or continuous range. At one end is severe depression, which shades into moderate depression; then come mild and brief mood disturbances that many people call "the blues," then normal mood, then hypomania (a mild form of mania), and then mania.
Some people with untreated bipolar disorder have repeated depressions and only an occasional episode of hypomania (bipolar II). In the other extreme, mania may be the main problem and depression may occur only infrequently. In fact, symptoms of mania and depression may be mixed together in a single "mixed" bipolar state.
Descriptions provided by patients themselves offer valuable insights into the various mood states associated with bipolar disorder:
'bi-polar' as you call it can be broken down into several subtypes. Some people never or rarely experience the manic highs of
the stereotyped description. Medication helps alot, and can suppress the cyclic part of it quite well. I have known many people who have had this disorder, and my advice would be close to Grey fox and
Charmaleo. Charmaleo knows it well - if you try to leave her she could very likely try suicide or do self-destructive things that will really bother you (a method of controlling you) or if she has a mania that is not regulated she might do something completely crazy. She will not likely get better 'after she's married' - more likely she will draw you into her web of manipulation and covert activities and you'll regret it ! I would recommend you get out of this situation.
the stereotyped description. Medication helps alot, and can suppress the cyclic part of it quite well. I have known many people who have had this disorder, and my advice would be close to Grey fox and
Charmaleo. Charmaleo knows it well - if you try to leave her she could very likely try suicide or do self-destructive things that will really bother you (a method of controlling you) or if she has a mania that is not regulated she might do something completely crazy. She will not likely get better 'after she's married' - more likely she will draw you into her web of manipulation and covert activities and you'll regret it ! I would recommend you get out of this situation.
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it finaly happend. she caught me while i was asleep, we tussled for a good 2 hours, i could only hold her wrists for so long before her nails ran rampant across my body, im scratched from head to toe, i saved my face the most it only got 2 scratches . i have full five fingered DEEP scrathces all across my chest stomache back shoulders.
if she doesnt get medical attention then im leaving her
if she doesnt get medical attention then im leaving her
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TesuqueRed
Master Don Juan
mods?
either it's a sick joke or someone needs professional help
either it's a sick joke or someone needs professional help
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
Sorry but I don't believe a word of this bulllshyt post. For all we know this sick fuvk has the disease.
PIMP
"Sorry but I don't believe a word of this bulllshyt post. For all we know this sick fuvk has the disease."
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LOL I don't know whether it's true or not but it sounds pretty real to me. It sounds like a joke but a person with Bipolar will do those things to you and more.
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LOL I don't know whether it's true or not but it sounds pretty real to me. It sounds like a joke but a person with Bipolar will do those things to you and more.
maranathaman
Master Don Juan
This sounds like...
"Bi-Polaror "Manic-Depressive" are people who have drastic mood swings. They are dancing on the table at a party one night, but the next afternoon they are thinking of commiting suicide."
This sounds like MOST of the women I've ever known!
"Bi-Polaror "Manic-Depressive" are people who have drastic mood swings. They are dancing on the table at a party one night, but the next afternoon they are thinking of commiting suicide."
This sounds like MOST of the women I've ever known!
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ok ok.........stop trolling, this isn't funny......
Other than that, what Grey Fox I agree with 100%.
One of my ex's was bipolar....I also did a uni psyc paper on it...
Other than that, what Grey Fox I agree with 100%.
One of my ex's was bipolar....I also did a uni psyc paper on it...
Oh my god man I hate to see this type of thing. I hope you get my message. Am I correct in reading that she has severe bi-polar disorder. It will get better after you're married??
Man thats crazy. Do you realize what it means to be bi-polar. She is basically two different people. One manic personality disorder and one alter ego dreamwolrd personality to back it up.
I had a one year long term relationship with a bipolar chick and she was mild. It was total hell for me. There was no logic to anything she did and she drained all the energy from me by being an emotional basket case.
You love her and don't want to see her with anyone else. First get that together. I'm sure other ****s have been inside her and if you marry her in her state now other ****s will continue to be in there. And if you truly love her, give her the recommended amount of time 2+ years to fully recover before you attempt to make yourself her better half.
Don't look to sosuave for stuff like this. You need to a see a relationship counselor and both of you probably need shrinks. If not that then at least take a trip to fastseduction.com. I may sound harsh but trust me, this is defiantly my good deed for the day. Good luck man, look for the light.
-Fireboy
Man thats crazy. Do you realize what it means to be bi-polar. She is basically two different people. One manic personality disorder and one alter ego dreamwolrd personality to back it up.
I had a one year long term relationship with a bipolar chick and she was mild. It was total hell for me. There was no logic to anything she did and she drained all the energy from me by being an emotional basket case.
You love her and don't want to see her with anyone else. First get that together. I'm sure other ****s have been inside her and if you marry her in her state now other ****s will continue to be in there. And if you truly love her, give her the recommended amount of time 2+ years to fully recover before you attempt to make yourself her better half.
Don't look to sosuave for stuff like this. You need to a see a relationship counselor and both of you probably need shrinks. If not that then at least take a trip to fastseduction.com. I may sound harsh but trust me, this is defiantly my good deed for the day. Good luck man, look for the light.
-Fireboy
It's a common fact that 50% of women suffer from bipolar episode once/several times in their life times. But only half of that 50% are true bipolar people. That's why you have a lot of guys complaining about bipolar women because up to 25% of women have it!
How can you tell if they're bipolar? If they tell you to meet them up, it'll always be a "My way, or the highway" with little flexibility.. if they say.. "Oh you're too busy tonight? then how about tomorrow,, but call me" (******** means "*******, I want you groveling tonight for me, ha ha ha watch me ignore your calls tomorrow)
Sometimes they also are very wishy washy.. they'll talk about how they want to go ice skating, hiking, look at the stars with you, and a week later when you mention going out to do any of those things..they'll sound disintrested or if they say YES to the date..expect them on the last minute to cancel out.
Bipolar is different from women that act hot/cold on you. They tend to act more manipulative/secretive/and controlling.
How can you tell if they're bipolar? If they tell you to meet them up, it'll always be a "My way, or the highway" with little flexibility.. if they say.. "Oh you're too busy tonight? then how about tomorrow,, but call me" (******** means "*******, I want you groveling tonight for me, ha ha ha watch me ignore your calls tomorrow)
Sometimes they also are very wishy washy.. they'll talk about how they want to go ice skating, hiking, look at the stars with you, and a week later when you mention going out to do any of those things..they'll sound disintrested or if they say YES to the date..expect them on the last minute to cancel out.
Bipolar is different from women that act hot/cold on you. They tend to act more manipulative/secretive/and controlling.