She got back to me after all...

[Santos]

SMS = cellphone instant messaging (in case you were wondering)

Well, I posted here a couple of days ago. I said that I'd been on a first date with this girl and things went ok, but could've been better.

I asked her last week Friday (via SMS) what she was doing that evening. She didn't answer. I sent her another one on Monday asking her if she wanted to go to dinner on Tuesday evening. No answer. I thought, well ok,ok I get the hint. So I just forget about it.

Then this morning (Wednesday) at 8:30 she sends me a "please call me" - a message with her number in it, the cellular network lets you send 'em for free.

I called her about an hour and a half after that and she's all like "sorry, I only got your message [about dinner tuesday] this morning" and mumbled something about her phone and then said she has no credit on her phone.

She says she wants to make it up to me, so we agree to go out for dinner on Thursday.

A bit odd to me, I sent the message on Monday and she only get's it now? This chick has a boyfriend and I've heard through sources she's not 100% happy with him.

What I think is she's either pissed with her boyfriend and is going out with me purely to show to him that she's desireable (they got into a fight about our last date) or maybe she's thought about me and decided i'm not so bad. Either way I think she's lying about something.

Well, I'm not that interested in this girl, at least not yet (she's about a 6.5). This date is mainly practice for me. I'm still a bit nervous about meeting the parents and the date (ca't imagine how I'd feel if she were a 10!). I think she's interesting but I'm not sure what I want yet.

Anyway, what do you guys think? Should I try get physical? I don't want to make her break up a 11 month relationship if I'm not 100% sure I want to be with her. But at the same time I don't won't to be LJBF'd. Comments?

Thanks
Santos

 

[Oscar Wilde]

I don't want to make her break up a 11 month relationship if I'm not 100% sure I want to be with her.

Dude, you aint breaking anything up. She's gonna break it up if she wants to, and nothing you do will change that. Don't even start to worry about that stuff.

Go for it, and enjoy. She'll let you know where her limits are.

Osc.

 

[Quick]

I can't figure out why you think she's worth the additional trouble of waiting for her to separate from her boyfriend and all of the time and drama that goes along with it. Getting with a girl is hard enough without her already being attached. I also can't figure out why you think that a girl that goes out on dates with new guys while in a committed relationship, is the type of girl you want to be in a relationship with. Oh yeah, and she lies. For some reason she changed her mind about seeing you again, but her original inclination was to leave you blowing in the wind.

Of course you should try to take it physical. That's all she's good for. I don't care how many third party sources tell you she's unhappy with her boyfriend, until she leaves him don't believe that she's planning to. If you want to be in a relationship with her, then tell her to give you a call after she leaves her current boyfriend.

 

[violator]

Yea, I agree with Quick that she was lying about getting your message late.

She most likely had problems with her BF and decided at the last minute to use you as her backup. In my opinion she has too much baggage to handle and is probably not worth the effort, especially if she is only a 6.5.

 

[silverwex]

Man, over here sms messaging is massive. And sometimes the networks are so busy it takes a day or two or five(!) for it to deliver. Just to let ya know its kinda normal over here.

 

[Santos]

Originally posted by silverwex
Man, over here sms messaging is massive. And sometimes the networks are so busy it takes a day or two or five(!) for it to deliver. Just to let ya know its kinda normal over here.

Yeah, it is over here too. But I've never heard of a delay for that long. I think I even got a delivery report for the message the same day I sent it, but can't remember.

Do you guys think I should casually bring it up on the way home tonight? (don't want to make the whole date go stale by asking at the begining ) Just say, so what's this story with your phone?

 

[echo1212]

Another prime example of why text messaging using a cell is by far one of the lamest and most afc things a guy could do. Lets see......I think I'll text this girl, hear nothing, text her again, hear nothing, wonder wtf is going on, be stressed out about it, wonder if shes just ignoring me or didnt get the message, allow her then to use the "oh I'm sorry I didn't get the message until just now" excuse, even though I sent it three years ago... instead of making a simple phone call and actually SPEAKING to someone personaly and avoiding all this crap. Then, to top it all off, I'll allow her to text message ME, saying to call ME, like Im some kind of pet dog, instead of her having the common courtesy to just dial my number and again, and I know this is hard, SPEAK to me personaly. Yeahhhh, texting is so awesome....righttttt. Discuss.