she dj'ed me, threw off my game! help!

[golf299]

I totally suck!

ok, so there's a girl in one of my classes and i got her number last week. i called her on tuesday and asked her if she would like to join me for some coffee later that night. she said she already had plans, but she wanted to meet about 1/2 hr before class to go over some stuff for the class. i show up today and she immediately comes and sits where i am sitting. her body language and eye contact were excellent. plenty of laughing, smiling. at the break we get half way through class we leave the room together. i'm planning on djing her at this point.

but...SHE started djing ME!! she started in with heavy kino and that was about it. but that was enough to totally throw off my game. i got nervous. i tried to kino her back but it was forced and im sure she could sense it. i didnt know what to do or how to act for some reason. i dont know if she likes me, but im sure she was at least not repulsed by me. but now im afraid that i may have f'ed it up. how can i get back into the game?

i need your help more than ever guys to get me back on track! thanks

 

[golf299]

c'mon guys...im lost here...

 

[HuuBinh]

You should have thrown some C&F at her for kinoing you. Use CF to get back on track. But, i really don't think that she's djing u though, maybe she's interested in you.

 

[Bonhomme]

Just play it cool.

Playing a bit hard to get is perfectly OK. She may be wondering if you're interested ... which is not a bad place to be.

Show a bit of interest, but don't go overboard etiher way. You should be just fine. No rush.

 

[Slickster]

Re: Just play it cool.

Originally posted by Bonhomme
Playing a bit hard to get is perfectly OK. She may be wondering if you're interested ... which is not a bad place to be.

Show a bit of interest, but don't go overboard etiher way. You should be just fine. No rush.

Good advice. She's into you. Just don't be one of those guys posting "She likes me too much and I lost interest"

 

[DEKKA]

when chicks start to kino YOU... its time to roll big boy... i was in my car two weeks ago with this 24 y/o named jessica who had come over to my apartment with a friend for a party and asked if she could drive my dodge stealth. anyway point is she decided to start some kino herself... when i gave her a sly look like "you wanna **** me dont you" and i just went in for the kiss... well she slid over the center console after about 5 mins of heavy macking and onto my lap (remember this is all happening in a graveyard of all places. yadda yadda i was fingering her... yadda yadda we got out and she gave me like the awesomet bj outside my car. she left her sweater at my house so i think shes planning a return trip. haha

 

[golf299]

thanks for the advice guys...i'll let you know what happens monday after class...im planning on asking her to go grab something to eat/drink after class (we get out after 8pm)

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

Originally posted by HuuBinh
You should have thrown some C&F at her for kinoing you. Use CF to get back on track. But, i really don't think that she's djing u though, maybe she's interested in you.

Yeah. Usually when a girl uses kino it isn't really DJing so much as showing her high IL. I am the self-proclaimed Kino-Queen... for women it's not really a "technique"...

 

[So pimp its scary]

Whenever that happens, I like to sit back and let the woman do all the seducing.... it's great to not have to put much effort into the relationship.

Once the chick starts pursuing you, it's in the bag, you just have to not say anything stupid before getting her in the sack. You got it made... just focus on the goal, and don't turn all wussbag-ish.

 

[DEKKA]

agreed... women are so subtle but if shes fvcking kinoin you it means either a. you missed all her previous signs and she wants to **** you or b. you missed all her previous signs and she wants to **** you.

 

[golf299]

Well, here's the update I'm sure you've all been anxiously awaiting...

Short answer: I failed.

Longer version: I talked with her after class...it was just me, her and this older guy. When we finally all left the classroom she headed towards her car which was in the total opposite direction of mine, but then she says, “i'll walk this way”--in my direction.

We went downstairs and finally reached a point where we had to split and we said our goodbyes. I let her walk like 150yards away and then I yelled to get her attention. We caught back up to each other and I played a dummy saying “do you live around here? Well, i just moved here, is there any place near that I can get a quick snack, like icecream or something?”

she gave me directions to a couple places but said that this one place was the best. I had been getting a good feeling from her. But I lamely said, “well, if you want to come that's where i'll be.---she didn't show.

i guess i didnt actually ask her or tell her to come with me, which could be a big reason as to why she didnt show up...maybe not wanting to look desperate. i'll do my best to remedy the situation monday... "hey, I'm going back to that ice cream place again after class, you should come with me."....we shall see what happens

 

[golf299]

UPDATE!

well i saw her tonight and did my best to make good... i started in with cf and even a little kino. she seemed to be taking it all very well, even though i thought i really screwed up last week. we both got to class early so we got to spend a lot time together this week.

all seemed good. after class, i was like "are you coming to "that place" with me tonight?" and she said "no". haha! wtf?! so i was like "why not?" to which she replied, "i dont know". at this point we went our separate ways and i have to say 'next'

but what i dont understand is what went wrong. there were enough buying signs it seemed. she mentioned something about "all her guy friends"--so, maybe she is an AW, but she didnt seem like one. any ideas guys?

thanks...

 

[violator]

Until you go out on a real date with her, it will be pretty difficult to guage her IL or true motives. Just because a girl touches you, doesn't automatically mean that she wants to fyck you. She could be a sunshine girl, you know one of them touchy feely girls who always have a smile on their faces or an Attention Wh0re.

The only way you are going to find out is by asking her out on a date and going for the kiss close. This is the best indicator of IL in my experience.

 

[vdk]

try cutting all contact with her ie. 'challenge'.

 

[golf299]

Update, Advice?

I thought i would update the situation and seek a bit more advice... i have pretty much cut all contact with this girl....not all the way, but drastically reduced. i dont wait for her after class or try to always talk to her. im always friendly and happy around her. during class we'll make eye contact periodically and smile, and sometimes even communicate a little bit through facial expressions... just stupid playful stuff. i can see her looking my way out of the corner of my eye a lot during class even though the chalkboard is the other direction....

im totally lost. what do you do in this situation? i mean, shes giving me buying signs but when i asked her out a couple weeks ago she's like 'no', but 'i dont know why'. doesnt make sense to me...

advice anyone?

 

[chicago#one]

oh man

Ask her out on a fvcking date next time you see her. If you see her again and you don't everyone here is going to kick your @ss.

 

[legolas]

Re: Update, Advice?

Originally posted by golf299
I thought i would update the situation and seek a bit more advice... i have pretty much cut all contact with this girl....not all the way, but drastically reduced. i dont wait for her after class or try to always talk to her. im always friendly and happy around her. during class we'll make eye contact periodically and smile, and sometimes even communicate a little bit through facial expressions... just stupid playful stuff. i can see her looking my way out of the corner of my eye a lot during class even though the chalkboard is the other direction....

im totally lost. what do you do in this situation? i mean, shes giving me buying signs but when i asked her out a couple weeks ago she's like 'no', but 'i dont know why'. doesnt make sense to me...

advice anyone?

Yeah, you need to learn the language called ********.

When a girl says no, it doesn't neccessarily mean no, unles she's trying to stop your advances.

Never ask a girl "why not" because you're going to get consfuing answers like "I don't know" When she said no, you say something like "Okay but you don't know what you're missing" The reason she says "I don't know" is because she doesn't want to be direct and flat out say "I'm not that interested in you, and going to 'that place' doesn't feel like a good thing to do at this point" If you built up the interest some more, you'd have a different answer.

Your mistake here is that you're taking her words at face value, and this is bad thing to do with girls, since they have so much at stake if they speak directly that they would rather, say things like "I don't know," than fully explain themselves.