She did the pullback, now who's move is it?

[finn_dogg]

This girl I was DJing did the pullback thing to me right when college got out and we left for our homes. She only lives like 20 minutes away from me so it's not like we won't see each other over the summer, but my question is this. I asked her if she wanted to go to a Twins' game on the 18th, but she said she had her grandma's birthday that day, but that later in the summer would work when things calmed down. The week school got out, we didn't talk as much as we did in previous couple of weeks. We were both busy with finals (I know I was!).

So my question is it feels like she did the pullback thing to me and I'm kinda wondering what the next move is and who's move is it??? I haven't talked to her in like 5 days and I am wondering about how long I should give her if she is pulling back. Should just let her contact me and I go on living my life (like I am now) until then. One more thing, in your past experiences, if a girl does a pullback, has it been positive results afterwards or negative? Thanks!

 

[Don Rageta]

Big Fat 'NEXT'

 

[violator]

Just lay off her for a while. Better yet, put her in the back burner and go find other girls to play with during the summer. The thing you want to avoid is developing oneitis with her or any other girl.

If she is interested in you, she will eventually come around. In fact it is a good test of her IL.

Sometimes the results can be positive. One girl I was dating and developed oneitis for pulled away and I ignored her for a while. As the result her IL shot up and she ended up doing the chasing.
But, I had already met a girl I liked better so I nexted her.

 

[Toke]

Well fin dogg, if it makes you feel any better, I'm in the exact same position as you.

Girl I've known for years, broke up with her BF, we made out. Then got busy with exams. Then she's just continues not to talk to me. We live far apart so ICQ was our link before, she no longer has ICQ. I've emailed her twice, she replied to the first, the second was just a few hours back.

I, like you, am forced to sit back and wait... sucks dont it?

 

[Howie Farkes]

I think what you've got to remember is that you can never know beforehand whether the girl is doing a "pull-back" or has permanently lost interest. So you've just got to treat the situation as if she is not gonna come back.

That way, you get to see/date/fu(k other girls and if she does come back - great whatever - if not, well you've already moved on. (And ironically the fact that you're seeing/dating/fu(king other girls will increase the chances of her return if she is pulling-back.)

 

[Starman]

howie is right,

I had a few chicks do the pullback and I ignored them..and like lost ducks they came quacking back..but then when I payed them attention, they pulled back again..yoyo not fun