She Can't Come

[T.T. Boy]

I've tried everything I can think of, but I can't get my girlfriend to orgasm. I even resorted to eating her out, which I had never done before, but to no avail.

Anything I can do?

 

[YoureSoSexy]

Well maybe you can't make her come because you've never eaten her out before. Trust me, it takes time to learn how to perfect it. Think of it like learning a foreign language...it takes time to master. The best thing to do is to not think about it. Take your time and do it naturally. If you try to hurry up or get frustrated you'll never get her off. Also, tell her to show you what feels good...get her involved...let her play with herself for a little bit. I guess the main thing is to not get so down on yourself. It will happen when it happens, so don't sweat it.

 

[Howie Farkes]

Have a look here for some ideas... (it's in the DJ Bible).

Sir_Chancealot's Advanced Sexual Techniques

 

[G_S]

watch some lesbian porno.

 

[trajhenkhet]

How long would you say forplay lasts?

 

[Legend]

get a new girl friend

 

[iqqi]

some girls just can't, or it takes them later in life to be able to. honestly, don't sweat it, unless she says she usually does orgasm

 

[G_S]

Steal your mom's vibrator and see if that works.

 

[sAxyguy83]

I'm very surprised nobody mentioned this before:

She's probably too tense. If she's nervous or stressed, it can really interfere, especially if you're putting pressure on her. Back off some, and take it slow. Tell her to just relax and enjoy herself, and not focus so much on the grand finale. Mayb start the encounter w/ a massage?

A couple of other things you might try - Make sure you've tried the G. Some women can't orgasm easily w/o stimulation there. Also, you might suggest that she take up masturbation, to get more familiar and comfortable with her own body.

 

[playfulboy]

I even resorted to eating her out, which I had never done before, but to no avail.

Whoah horsey - you went AS FAR as giving her Oral!!!

That is probably one of the most powerful weapons in your arsenal.

I had a playmate visit for a few days recently and despite knowing from Day 1 that I would get laid, I played it cool and made sure there was lots of foreplay prior to fvcking her.

One of the teases was Oral Sex - she had 4 orgasms from that and needless to say, when we actually had intercourse she had several more.

Give her a good half hour of oral - explore all of her vagina, give her a vaginal massage as part of it (massage her labia with your fingers the same way you would her shoulders or back) and make her feel yummy.

While licking her ****oris, insert a couple of fingers inside her and massage her G-spot - the two sensations combined will drive her wild.

All that said, some women have difficulty achieving orgasm, but even the most tense woman can *** if you take the time to really explore her well.

 

[TesuqueRed]

Iqqi and a few others had some very good points.

You didn't say what age she was--that often figures into it. They can be uptight and ambivalent about sex for quite awhile--the younger, the more uptight (once they get past 30, though, YOU will need to strap on seat belts!!!)

I heard only 30% of women come vaginally.

More come orally.

Some need a different partner.

Some never come.

Others are gay.

Others still are too young and not developed enough or comfortable enough with themselves to allow it.

Anyway--is she enjoying it otherwise? Don't sweat it, then...

 

[iqqi]

Give her a good half hour of oral - explore all of her vagina, give her a vaginal massage as part of it (massage her labia with your fingers the same way you would her shoulders or back) and make her feel yummy.

wow. almost had an orgasm just reading this....