she came up to me

[histandard]

its crazy how a nice ensemble brings about attention. Went to a nice outside bar after work the other day and I couldnt take my eyes off of a girl working, in my book she was easily an 8.8-9/10.

A friend of mine (who also works there) comes up to me and says "Nikki (the niner) thinks you're really sexy." It blew my mind because I did not see her notice me. I ignore it for a little, and Nikki boldly comes up to me while im sitting with about 4 guys. I politely stand up, have a succinct conversation and request her #. she provides.

ive been traveling for work for the past week and we've exchanged a few texts. I usually, with pretty high success, hang out with a girl I meet within a couple days. But I havent had the chance to follow my routine, since Ive been away. Here is the advice I need:

Given how we met, and how short our conversation was (30 seconds long), and how our conversation has been very general thus far, what is my next move? Idk why I am so confused about this! Do I become very forward and and request a hangout as soon as I am back? Or should I visit her at work, given the context.

Please discuss Thanks!

 

[bigneil]

Blow her off for a few days, then text "I'll be back on (whatever) day and was planning on going to (your favorite place) if you'd like to join me."

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Blow her off for a few days, then text "I'll be back on (whatever) day and was planning on going to (your favorite place) if you'd like to join me."

Ummm no... don't do this! Sorry Neil I know you mean well but hot damn you are a supplicating gypsy if you do that!

OP, your over-analyzing because you have her on a pedestal because of her looks. If you keep that mindset you will lose because sub-conciously you will be seeking approval instead of the other way around.

It doesn't matter that you only had a 30 second conversation; she gets hit on allllll the time; at work, outside of work, in her dreams.

Your absence is actually INCREASING your value, so just play it cool and hit her up in a couple days and set up something casual preferably during the week like Happy Hour or something.

Tease her, take the lead and make her follow.

If you do this right she will be on you; if you do it wrong, your just the next chump to admire her looks and strike out.






PIMP

 

[yuppaz]

She thinks YOU are sexy. That isn't exactly a girl who is unsure if she would be into you or not...she already is. Listen to Pimp - chill about the girls looks, and remember that YOU are the one she was bold enough to come on to... Don't sweat trying to make her interested, she already is.