The other day i went to this store in my university with a couple friends and I started talking to this girl that works there. I got her number and we started texting for awhile. I was making her laugh and she was really responding to my flirting and complimenting me. Than after a pretty long conversation, where I was really starting to think " Alright this chick wants me," you know, i was at that point with this chick. Shes asks me if she can ask me a question and makes me promise not to get offended. I was like yeah why not. She asks me if im gay. Ive never been asked this before, ive known gay dudes in highschool and in college who have told me I dont look gay. I told her i was offended. It really bugged me. I stopped talking to her. I mean yeah I dress nice, enjoying work out, and enjoy talking with others, but I dont think that makes me gay. This really turned me off to her, so ill probably take my good vibes else where. I wont be changing my style because of this chick, but i would like to know what the best thing to do/ say when a girl asks you this. Does it mean anything? Or does it just mean she thinks I look like a gay dude? Why the F would she give me her number? I dont get it cause I was walk upright and display dominant body language.
She asked me if i was gay?
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Mike32ct
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If a guy asks if a female is lesbian, he has committed hate speech and will be tarred and feathered. Or if he asks if a guy is gay and it turns out that he is, he is guilty of homophobic hate speech as well. But women, the experts at lefttist PC procedures, are allowed to openly inquire about a man's suspected orientation and it's perfectly ok.
Don't change anything about yourself. Just delete her number and don't speak to her again.
Don't change anything about yourself. Just delete her number and don't speak to her again.
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I see women asking men about this a lot. They seem to think they all have gaydar and can tell if a man is gay. Its funny because some of the guys they date usually end up being gay or were involved in gay acts and me as a man and a few other people could see they were gay or bi or whatever label fits them. I say pound her *****
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it was a sh!t test. and you failed. miserably.
her: are you gay?
you: yes. so we'll only be doing anal.
her: are you gay?
you: yes. so we'll only be doing anal.
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If a girl asked me if I was gay I would assume she wanted me to make a move on her or ask her out.
Remember women are emotional, she must have felt rejection and wanted validation.
My answer "If I told you I was gay can we have a sleep over?"
Remember women are emotional, she must have felt rejection and wanted validation.
My answer "If I told you I was gay can we have a sleep over?"
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Some Chick asked me that I told her "No....I like animals I bang my dog quite often" hahahahaha
Skyline
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Her: "are you gay?"
Me: "Kiss me and find out" +smirk
Me: "Kiss me and find out" +smirk
devilkingx2
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if she's asking you that, she either thinks you're gay or isn't sure because you give off an ambiguous vibe
neither is a good thing
neither is a good thing
VladPatton
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Should of just laughed it off and said no. She could just be a social retard and think most guys that work out and look decent are gay, and just didn't wanna waste her time from the get-go, so she asked without a filter, blatantly. I'd chalk it up to just a dumb girl.
I wouldn't loose my cool, lots of chicks are socially awkward and put their foot in their mouths. Sylvester's reply of ''we'll only doing anal'' is brilliant LOL
I wouldn't loose my cool, lots of chicks are socially awkward and put their foot in their mouths. Sylvester's reply of ''we'll only doing anal'' is brilliant LOL
narcissist
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devilkingx2 said:
Not true.. She could be asking him to test out the waters and see if she is dealing with someone she could potentially like or not.. Someone she would like - can go along withy the joke and turn it around by using it to flirt with her.. Beta - gets offended and upset
The only reason why she'd be using it as a **** test would be if shes at least mildly interested. Women have to do sh1t tests especially if they are hot because they have thousands of guys to weed out..
I look at sh1t tests as a good thing. It shows me shes testing me because she is interested. Its second nature for women to sh1t test guys they like.. Women dont sh1t test guys they dont like, I have found in my experience. They just make it obvious they ain't interested.
narcissist
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ChemGod said:
You live and you learn brother!
Good that you understand where you went wrong and have learned from the mistake! We need more people like you, who can ACTUALLY learn from their blunders... Good for your brotha
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massive failure - She is looking to bang you and doesn't want baggage. I know a gal who had 3 kids and got married only to leave her for another man..LOL. She probably had some guy burn her and doesn't want to deal with it. so, its a screening question. That's it.. period.... Sometimes, it all ain't about you!!!! that you got offended? what are you? ----a wuss. Call her up and she will probably spread like peanut butter if you want it.
haha yeah I have always believed in learning from my mistakes, not just with girls but with everything in life. Thats why mistakes are there right? Why waste a good mistake by not learning from it? lol I wish more people would think like this too, instead of getting bummed out and letting their mistakes bar them from future endeavors.narcissist said:You live and you learn brother!
Good that you understand where you went wrong and have learned from the mistake! We need more people like you, who can ACTUALLY learn from their blunders... Good for your brotha
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haha I totally blew this one, I texted her back and she just gave me a short reply, a text that i obviously wouldnt reply too lmao. Probably wont ever talk to her again. Oh well though, she had a cute face but idk how to describe it but she looked pretty fat from the waist down, I knew I didnt want her as a GF when i first saw her. It also sucks cause she works at the library and I go there to study sometimes, so i would have to ask her to get a study room or check out books. That was actually my first cold approach, which turned out to be really fun and a lot easier than Id expected, so I really want to do it more often. It was also going pretty well until I ruined it hahaha. Glad it happened though, cause Im totally ready for it if it happens again. I didnt realize girls tested dudes like that, she was a couple years older than me too. I kind of want a girl to ask me that again so i can use the "kiss me and find out" line, haha that one is great.
Whether it was a test or not you failed.
People sometimes make awkward comments. We all do it. The cool people laugh off the awkward comments because they have high self-esteem and high humility. The doormats get quiet because they have low self-esteem and high humility. The awkward get angry because they have low self-esteem and low humility.
Dude...who cares? Who really cares after high school if somebody thinks we look gay. You know you aren't, your family knows you aren't, your friends know you're not, the girls you've been with know you're not. If this girl thinks you are so what?
You would win if you laughed it off or had some kind of witty comeback. You would be more likely to get her respect and, in the end, would respect yourself more.
People sometimes make awkward comments. We all do it. The cool people laugh off the awkward comments because they have high self-esteem and high humility. The doormats get quiet because they have low self-esteem and high humility. The awkward get angry because they have low self-esteem and low humility.
Dude...who cares? Who really cares after high school if somebody thinks we look gay. You know you aren't, your family knows you aren't, your friends know you're not, the girls you've been with know you're not. If this girl thinks you are so what?
You would win if you laughed it off or had some kind of witty comeback. You would be more likely to get her respect and, in the end, would respect yourself more.
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This is from the "Things Women Say and What They Really Mean" under Don Juan Tips sub forum.
But as a Don Juan, you should never let things from the external world affect you. She got a rise out of you, and you failed because you've reacted offensively. Always remember to keep your cool. Words are just words. Don't give power to them. If you're going to continue pursuing this girl, then remember she knows one of your weakness. If it happens again, then don't let it affect you.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=195993
But as a Don Juan, you should never let things from the external world affect you. She got a rise out of you, and you failed because you've reacted offensively. Always remember to keep your cool. Words are just words. Don't give power to them. If you're going to continue pursuing this girl, then remember she knows one of your weakness. If it happens again, then don't let it affect you.
