Share your success stories about being perceived in a more alpha light!

[Wodinart]

Hi guys,

Just an observation about the changing ways women react to my presence now that I've started putting some of the advice on this forum into practice. In the last fortnight alone, I've had comments on:

1) "a very different tone of voice for you" when I tried to be subtly sexual with a girl who definitely sees me as a friend who I've known for a couple of years.

2) my relaxed, ever so slightly nonchalant, "typical guy" posture, legs apart, fractionally slouched- never a way I'd sit in the past but something I've noticed myself doing more and more without making a conscious effort.

3) "lol, you're a guy, you have it easy"- a comment by a female friend who I have no intention of gaming pertaining to her relationship with her bf. Whereas in the past I would have listened to her worries like a faithful female/ AFC, I've now taken to poking fun at her when she complains.

Just thought I'd share a few basic successes to motivate those many guys posting about how difficult they are finding being in contact with women- with persistance, you can slowly become more alpha, get the ladies to see you as a man and not one of them, and notice some immediate results of your hard work.

Feel free to add your own success stories!

Wodinart

 

[kingsam]

-not being afraid of who you are, or not apologising for it (in body language, temperment...)
-not giving a ****e...within reason?
-not being afraid to talk to people you dont know, insteaed of holding back...people respond very positively 99% of the time!

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Woodinart, how have your guy freinds reacted to you becomming less beta?

 

[Wodinart]

Woodinart, how have your guy freinds reacted to you becomming less beta?

In varying ways, depending on their own status as males. Most of my closest friends are AFCs, so they've just passively accepted the fact that I take the lead in conversations now, have a large say in where we go out etc etc. With the guys in the year below (I'm in college), I have an even greater sense of being a leader rather than a follower now, which is awesome.

With the more alpha males it's a slightly different story. I've had to deal with quite a few AMOGs from THE alpha male in my social group over the last month or so, definitely more so than usual, which I take as a good sign. I'd like to think I'm slowly getting better at laughing these off/ deflecting them back onto the other guy/ changing the subject, but there is still the odd occasion when I get put down and can't think quickly enough to do anything about it. I'm sure this will improve with practice.

Did you have a similar experience with your guy friends, kingsam?

 

[kingsam]

In varying ways, depending on their own status as males. Most of my closest friends are AFCs, so they've just passively accepted the fact that I take the lead in conversations now, have a large say in where we go out etc etc. With the guys in the year below (I'm in college), I have an even greater sense of being a leader rather than a follower now, which is awesome.

With the more alpha males it's a slightly different story. I've had to deal with quite a few AMOGs from THE alpha male in my social group over the last month or so, definitely more so than usual, which I take as a good sign. I'd like to think I'm slowly getting better at laughing these off/ deflecting them back onto the other guy/ changing the subject, but there is still the odd occasion when I get put down and can't think quickly enough to do anything about it. I'm sure this will improve with practice.

Did you have a similar experience with your guy friends, kingsam?

the best thing you could have done is get more alpha in college, I kinda missed that - in hindsight I should have rose to the challenge and I didnt. Very annoying!

My responses are so so- mostly good … I think its people getting used to a “new you” can be a little difficult for them.
So I have a few various social groups, but on holiday last year (with high school type friends) one says to me "Sam go talk to those girls!" (I obviously was the man with the skills in his POV ?!) ... all of those group are clue less without any game at all (annoyingly one or two of them wouldn’t be that bad if they clued-up more...and id have some half wingman) .. last year on holiday with them I got some kind of snide comments...trying to rip on me - rather than vibing off each other and helping each other out... These guys really are DRY AFC – but don’t seem to realise or want to improve…?!
Historically I was fairly passive in this group so they are still not probably as used to a more assertive me... its getting better tho...

In my post grad class I got owned by a AMOG wanna-be (he wasn’t the AMOG but was maybe 2nd) this is only because he is a Complete bull****ter - every thing has an origin of truth but is completely exaggerated - some people see this (most just go along with it) and others don’t seem to notice it at all !
One time I was out at a bar with him and two girls from the class he almost starts a fight with this other group... so the other day he started going how im a pvssy for not backing him up ... this obviously made me look a wiener to a couple of other guys but I was totally stumped what to say back (without me looking like im just a little whiny biatch)...

(hope that makes sense!)