sexual, masturbation, porn addiction

[ROOKIE OF THE YEAR]

This darn issue is bothering my lifestyle, especially my bedtime (can't sleep cuz feeling horny and nervous). I really need help, especially from people here who experience this in the past. The most messed part is that i most into "1 girl and couple guys orgy" or as you guys called gangbang. Please help.

 

[ROOKIE OF THE YEAR]

is it too late to recover. I'm trying, but i guessed talking it out is one of the best ways.

 

[ROOKIE OF THE YEAR]

Well?

 

[Potbelly]

Delete all the pornography off your computer. Also, condition a thought to your mind that stops you from masturbating. For me, there are 2-3 songs I can listen to that brings out a more serene version of myself and the urge goes away. Find something like that or a picture or postcard and keep it with you at all times or at home.

 

[Unregistered]

Look past your present situation. Think about how you'll feel afterward, not how you feel now.

Ask yourself "Is this the best use of my time?" "What is the best use of my time" Whatever your answer is, do that instead.

Fill your life with activity. You shouldn't have problems sleeping if you've had an effective day.

 

[SamePendo]

Enter my 6 months no masturbation thread. When I made that challenge, I was very, very messed up by porn. Not blaming porn, it was my fault not to control myself.

Be that you enter there, or you do something else, it has to be with your infinite discipline. That{s the name of the game.

 

[Badmannaz]

:crackup:

damn you like to watch the gangbang!!...remedy..i'd say get a girl...

 

[bbestar]

Enter my 6 months no masturbation thread. When I made that challenge, I was very, very messed up by porn. Not blaming porn, it was my fault not to control myself.

Be that you enter there, or you do something else, it has to be with your infinite discipline. That{s the name of the game.

I agree samependo, I would say this thread has saved my life.

rookie of the year, Im thinking you are living in a fantasy. You are looking for that fantasy situation on the internet.
You have to accept what is Reality, true life Reality that You will never ever find satisfaction in porn or masturbation.
Jealosy also comes into mind, you fear loss of pleasure, loss of women, loss of your worldly ways.

The key to this World Wide dilemma is to realize porn and masturbation will never truely eternally satisfy the soul. To begin to understand from the word of God that Christ Jesus is the living water that will eternally satisfy.

This speak to believers in Christ but the let the literary and poetic words give imagination to your mind.
Romans Chapter 12
verse 1
I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.

verse 2
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

verse 3
For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith.

 

[Deadly_Assassin]

rookie of the year, I am in the same boat as you. I was thinking maybe we could start up a similar thread like samependo where we report on it everyday if we masturbated and looked at porn or not? I mean I like watching gangbangs, I masturbate pretty much every night or I dont go to sleep.

We need sexual gratification but we are cheating ourselves by masturbating. In a way we are kinda gay cos we are wanking male sexual organs.

 

[Keeper]

Rookie - damn that sucks. But you're on your way already...

AT LEAST YOU'VE DISCOVERED YOUR PROBLEM! So you know what to solve.

Stop masterbating and delete the porn. Whenever you feel the urge to gave a go at your meat, force yourself to do something... like go in public. Go for walk or someplace where you CAN'T jerk off. Better yet, someplace to occupy your mind.

If you're having trouble falling asleep at night. Here's a technique to help you: slow down your thoughts. If you're thinking: **** I'm horny. Then repeat that over and over in your mind... veeeerrrrryyyyyyy slooooooowwwlllyyyyy... over and over. You'll see, it'll help.

 

[Gubby]

Channel your energy into something else.

I found that I need regular exercise to be able to rest properly, I go swimming every day.

In "think and Grow Rich", Napoleon Hill says for success you should channel your sexual energy into your goals.

Pook painted an image of a world where everything we do is part of a "dance of the sexes", and as feminism took away what is masculine and feminine, we can only resort to erotica to make us feel like a man or a woman.

Bandler said, in a book about hypnosis I am reading, that every habit has a purpose behind it. If you want to get over a habit, you must ask yourself, "what purpose does this habit fulfill and what can I do to fulfill it in a more constructive way?" I think you masturbate because you have "masculine energy" that can not be spent any other way. You must channel your masculine energy. Take action to achieve your goals. If you have no goals, make some.

The reason I have such an in-depth answer to this is because I have been thinking about it myself. I've found recently that I was incapable of going more than two days without masturbation (and that's when I tried hard not to), and because of masturbation I became emasculate, energy-less and desireless. I have a goal to only masturbate once a week from now on.

Good luck man.

 

[undesputable]

you got to have will power to stop masturbating so much. I know what youre saying about not being able to go to sleep until you rub one out....In those cases there is nothing else that will stop you from masturbating. During the day you can easily avoid it by doing something else but when youre about to go to sleep there is nothing else to do, you just want to go to sleep and as soon as you masturbate youll go to sleep so it doesnt get any harder than that.

 

[Deadly_Assassin]

yea it has become a major problem for me, If i dont masturbate at night, I can't go to sleep. I just lay there wide awake. Most of the time I only masturbate to put myself to sleep.

 

[AudiTy]

I agree with most of you, and yes masturbation is an evil yet fulfilling habbit. It is hard to give up, just as smoking is, simply because it satisfies a need; it relieves you of a problem you created yourself. We don't need to smoke, but we do because it's calms us down when we're stressed, or just purely because we're used to having something in our hand. But it's important to remember what caused the problem in the first place.

Think of the addictive substances in a cigarette as your need for masturbation. You have this urge to light up a cigarette, and a sigh of relief comes over you as the smoke passes down your throat into your lungs, you are finally satisfied.

Now think of each time you masturbate as a cigarette being smoked. Each time the warm globules of jizzm erupt from your member you get that satisfied feeling as you did when you lit up the cigarette after a hard day at work. But the real problem started when you began obsessing about doing it, luckily for you masturbation is not addictive!

It's time for change. You don't have to delete every last relic of porn, this would be almost impossible for an 'addict' to do straight away, but you may eventually realise after time that you don't need it as much as you thought, all along.

Just take the advice above. Do anything to take your mind off the woman you're never going to meet. Masturbating isn't that important. It seems the ultimate solution is to find real women to have sex with. It's true what they say about the mind not being able to distinguish imagination from reality, but nothing beats actually being the guy who cums all over her chops.

 

[DJsparky]

Go out there and arrange a gangbang yourself, preferebly with a group of women, if there not up for it theres a new perfume scent that attracts women called "chloroform" (sp)

 

[spider_007]

If you ever get horny and you wana jerk it, imagine that your grandfather/grandmother (or who ever is dead in your family) IS WATHCING YOU.

for me, this kills the mood on the spot.

 

[amoka]

Try to find a hobby ie... robot assembling, board games, etc.

 

[ROOKIE OF THE YEAR]

i just maturbated again. FVCK. I deleted all the porns, but badjojo.com always came up to my mind. Oh well, i guess this is something that i need to take a day at a time i guess. I never did choke the chain for 2 days straight, am i making some progress or not enough?

 

[English]

Remove PC

Try removing your PC for a couple of months after deleting all your porn, then masturbate once or twice a day at most! Or move your PC into a room that your parents are often in. Masturbating is healthy, but porn is not. Try erotic stories if you find it seriously hard to keep off porn, then continue to water it down.

 

[Roly]

If you ever get horny and you wana jerk it, imagine that your grandfather/grandmother (or who ever is dead in your family) IS WATHCING YOU.

for me, this kills the mood on the spot.

:crackup: