Sex or Diner?!

[Made.To.Be.Great]

What's up, people!?

On campus I was flirting with this hot chick pretty hard... after a few times she just walked up to me, approached me, and gave me her name and number...

...I send her a few messages, we met, kissed each other and went even further...

...now the problem is, that most of the time she wants to come to my crib and just spend the time in bed... I personally would really like to have a LTR with this girl and now I'm scared that our relationship will not become very deep if we only have sex all the time. Maybe I should take her out to diner or go shopping or whatever...

...what do you think should I do in order to keep the girl for a long time??? Basically: sex vs. 'real dates'!?!

 

[DrDope]

Poor you. Your girlfriend wants sex all the time and you don't have to spend money on her. Why are you looking this gift horse in the mouth?

 

[Made.To.Be.Great]

I know this story might sound a little bit strange, but I'm REALLY looking for a LTR (of course, I would never tell or show her that)...

...I don't wanna have sex for the next four weeks and then get dumped...

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

A lot of guys here who ain't getting any probably thinking "you moron you got what all of us want!"

Well I am not one of those guys, and let me tell you that I empathize with your problem.

A lot of relationships fall apart quickly because they are too physical. If everytime you are left alone with her you end up screwing, that is not healthy. I would recommend taking her out to places where you can talk and are in public so you can both better control yourselves.

If you cannot builld a bond through talking the relationship is pretty much going to be as you said - based on screwing for a few weeks before you or her or both get bored and move on.

 

[undesputable]

just one questions....why are you looking for a gf? if gfs these days actually were of some help instead of just whining, wasting your time and money id probably wouldnt be asking you this.

 

[Made.To.Be.Great]

A lot of guys here who ain't getting any probably thinking "you moron you got what all of us want!"

Well I am not one of those guys, and let me tell you that I empathize with your problem.

A lot of relationships fall apart quickly because they are too physical. If everytime you are left alone with her you end up screwing, that is not healthy. I would recommend taking her out to places where you can talk and are in public so you can both better control yourselves.

If you cannot builld a bond through talking the relationship is pretty much going to be as you said - based on screwing for a few weeks before you or her or both get bored and move on.

...that's exactly what I'm talking about! I'm longing for a deeper connection... sex can be pretty superficial and become boring after a certain time!

I guess you are right and I have to take her on a nice date, where we can talk and get to know each other a little bit better!

Thanx!

just one questions....why are you looking for a gf? if gfs these days actually were of some help instead of just whining, wasting your time and money id probably wouldnt be asking you this.

...that's a very good question! I usually think very similar... but when a 'special' woman steps into my life and turns everything around I become very blind and romantic... fortunately or unfortunately?! I guess time will tell.........

 

[ghostin]

I had a relationship like that. We didn't have much of a connection but just had sex cuz the conversation with her would get stale and boring.

After 2 months i barely knew her.

 

[GrimPhallic]

I also know what you mean. I personally want a LTR and not just sex. I can get sex anytime I want it, and when you get it that much, you search for something else. I definately recommend taking her out on a date, let her know it is getting serious. Now me personally I am a nympho so sex anytime anywhere is great for me, and I have turned my girl into one too so I am good on that subject. (Infact on July 4th we fvcked in the woods at a park where we were at a cookout party). So I guess it just comes down to the fact that you have to find someone who either doesnt want it as much as you, or wants it the same amount as you. If the girl wants it more than you, it will never work out because you will lose interest...