Sex before marriage.....opinions

[phatboi408]

I was wondering about sex before marriage. I am 15 and my step dad (he is a dad to me than a step) always remind me that sex should be save to marriage. I hear people having sex in high school. Some people that I thought would not have sex too. I am a virgin and have been thinking should I have sex before I am married?
I know the risks involve like diseases and having a baby, but I want to know what are your opinions and some advice for a high schooler.

 

[phatboi408]

Let me see my dad is Jewish, My Mom is buddist, and I dont know what to believe but I am an Antheist. I dont have a religion. My dad does not go to the sinagoge and my mom does go to the temple once in a while. My mom is very conservative.

 

[FOL!!!]

Depends on your religion, what marriage means for you etc. For me, marriage means hardly anything...It only means some kind of stornger connection (divorcing seems harder than just quitting). So no sex before marriage would suck big time....

And you will probably always wonder how sex with other women is, because you probably marry once and have only sex with her.

 

[phatboi408]

My dad and mom would kill me if they find out.
My view is that if Im not going around and humping every girl I see then its ok as long as I know that she does not have a disiese.

 

[MidnightResistance]

I know the risks involve like diseases and having a baby, but I want to know what are your opinions and some advice for a high schooler.

This is prevented by a handy (and inexpensive) peice of rubber called a CONDOM

Always use one, even if a chick says she's on the pill.

This prevents infection and prevents some random wh0re from getting herself preggers in order for you to commit to her (and yes this happens at the age of 16).

 

[FOL!!!]

Well,I'm not a DJ,but I would say...You have to weigh the pro's vs the cons.. Areyour parents literally gonna kill you, then you could leave your parents (in general, that's not smart) or don't do it (there is always a chance they found out).

If they are just going to be mad...Then the madness will probably go away. But I'm not too experiences with religious people and this is a good reason why (you aren't allowed to determine what you want for yourself, alltough you are jsut 15...you need some course to sail)

 

[FOL!!!]

Originally posted by Othello
How will your parents find out?

Be realistic...there is always a fair chance (especially when it's not a one timer)

 

[phatboi408]

My parents will be very mad, but they wont kill me. If I am confortable I will.

 

[phatboi408]

Let me say my parents dont give me privacy. They give me some but they would check my email, so thats why I have my ways around it and my mom would sometime search my room when Im out. I dont want to say anything so she does not get mad. My mom grew up in Viet Nam in a strict household so that might be the proplem. and she complains about every little thing.

 

[phatboi408]

I do to my dad but its my mom thats driving me crazy. My dad is always changes my moms opinion. When I talk to my mom she talks about Viet Nam and how she didnt have a room etc. anf that im lucky. I know Im lucky.

 

[ikkenai]

Are you fricking joking me?

 

[libre]

Young boy

For me it wouldn't make sense to marry a woman without having had sex with her beforehand. Do, do it, but it doesn't have to be now. You can wait a couple of years beforehand. When you are getting closer to that moment, always keep a condom with you.

 

[Austizzle]

You have to test drive your car before you buy it! You have to make sure the interior is nice if you know what i mean

 

[RoeCyris]

i think alot of you (not all of you) are missing the point.

He wasnt asking YOU if HE was religious.
and what i mean by that is..
Some people don't have sex before marriage, not cuz of religion, but because of different values and morals.

Personally, i was one of these people for a long time, i was raised very conservativly and out of respect for myself and for women, sex was never an issues. Did it make me feel a bit out of place a few times? Sure. But waiting for marriage is not the worst thing in the world. You can still get a GF and still have fun with her. It all depends on what you believe and feel is right. I have changed what i personally think about sex before marriage by defining what sex is. To me, sex is intercorse WITHOUT a condom. I use condoms always so I would actually consider myself a virgin by MY personal standards. I wont have sex without a condom until I am married. To alot of people that is wierd but that is my beleif and you would be surprised how many women respect the ability to stand by your convictions on this issue.

and one question: the thread starter is not a girl so why are some of you guys doing c + f? either some of you are stuck in that mode or some of you can only pull it off online.

 

[diablo]

AE...

 

[Deep Dish]

I had an evolving standard of sex.

When I was a teenager, I wanted to wait until marriage. Eventually I saw how impractical and unnecessary it was; that I certainly wasn’t going to get married anytime soon, there’s nothing inherently wrong with pre-marital sex, and why not explore various people before knowing what type of person was for me. Later on, I wanted to wait until love. Eventually I saw how impractical and unnecessary it was; that I certainly wasn’t going to find love anytime soon, and not all sex need be “making love.” Later on, I wanted to wait for something special. Eventually I saw how impractical that was...

There are six sexual philosophies:

Traditional Repressive Asceticism
The much-touted values of the 1950's. Wait until marriage, courtship, etc.

Enlightened Asceticism
Monks. Withholding sex gets you closer to “god”

Humanistic Liberalism
Humans are inherently good and what’s wrong or right is up to the determination of the individual’s personal standards.

Humanistic Radicalism
Don’t knock it until you try it.

Fun Morality
Have sex because it feels good, have sex to satisfy the sexual needs of others, no-strings attached sex.

Hedonism
Orgies, etc.

Who is right? Everyone is right. I personally take the philosophy of humanistic liberalism.

 

[penkitten]

no matter what you do, you are the only one who has to wake up and look at yourself in the mirror.

you arent dumb, you know about std/i's.
you know your own morals and values.


and when all else fails, flip a coin.

 

[MetalFortress]

Originally posted by RoeCyris
To me, sex is intercorse WITHOUT a condom. I use condoms always so I would actually consider myself a virgin by MY personal standards. I wont have sex without a condom until I am married. To alot of people that is wierd but that is my beleif and you would be surprised how many women respect the ability to stand by your convictions on this issue.

You're an idiot. You shouldn't even have the right to reply in this thread. How stupid.

Originally posted by phatboi408
I was wondering about sex before marriage. I am 15 and my step dad (he is a dad to me than a step) always remind me that sex should be save to marriage. I hear people having sex in high school. Some people that I thought would not have sex too. I am a virgin and have been thinking should I have sex before I am married?
I know the risks involve like diseases and having a baby, but I want to know what are your opinions and some advice for a high schooler.

It depends on your priorities. I believe that generally, if you wait until marriage, your sex life will be better AFTER marriage, but only if you marry a girl who also stayed a virgin. If you do not wait, your sex life will cool off after marriage, and you will ultimately end up dissatisfied with the married sex life, and want more. I am personally saving it until marriage.

 

[RoeCyris]

Originally posted by MetalFortress
You're an idiot. You shouldn't even have the right to reply in this thread. How stupid.

why?

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by RoeCyris
why?

Let me try to help.

I want you to put both your hands on your head.

Okay?

All right, now, do you feel that thing that seems to be surrounding your head?

That's your ass.

I hope this clears up any confusion.