Severe One-itis

[tigerstyle]

Firstly, I am a new here, so a brief hello is in order:
Hello!

Now the juice. I've been lurking for a while, and I've made my way through a decent portion of the DJ bible, but I've yet to finish it. I'm also about to embark on the DJ bootcamp, as I think it would help me out quite significantly (once I have the time. As a theatre major, the vast majority of my life is siphoned into theatre related activities and I don't have much time for anything else, though this next week is the end of my current show and I'll have a lot more time.

Anyway, that about brings us to where I am today. There is this particular girl I've been crushing on for a good few weeks (but I don't see her often, so it's been much of an "out of sight out of mind" thing). She's a friend of friends, and as such, I really don't know her at all. Which is strange, because I'm really interested in her (big time one-itis)... all I have to go off of is the fact that she is a solid HB8, and her friends (my friends) have nothing but good things to say about her.

At any rate, I was at a party last night and being slightly intoxicated, I mentioned my interest to a good friend of hers.. AFC to the core. At any rate, I was clued in to the fact that she'd be going to a party tonight (the party in which I just got back from).

It was a lot of good fun, to be sure. It was a "black and white" party that some friends were hosting, and the option was left open to either dress "down" or dress "up." I of course chose to dress up, and it worked in my favor... I was in a nice black suit, looking sharp. I don't know if it is a good thing or not (I'm assuming it is), but I was getting plenty of compliments from various people right in front of this girl. Anyway. I finally started to chat her up and it went very well right off the bat. Good interest signs, etc. After about ten minutes there was a lull in the conversation, and I figured instead of standing around like a fool I would wander off and find some other conversation to be had. This basically happened a good three or four times throughout the night -- I end up chatting her up, then leaving, only to come back at a later point. Things are seemingly going well.

At one point, I noticed she was glancing at me from across the room, and I kept returning the glances, and finally I beamed a big smile at her and she returned it. Again, things are going well.

At any rate, this continued throughout the night, and there was clearly another guy trying to get her attention -- she was holding hands with him at one point on this couch, I was rightly pissed (at myself), but then she said she had to go do something and he said "but come back!" and she never did, so I took that as a good sign.

To get to the end of this story, I finally decided that I wanted to go home, and so I went to get her number. It worked, and I got the number, but I felt like a complete tool. I'm pretty sure the first words out of my mouth were "so are you game for coffee this week?" *sigh*. She said yes, I love coffee, and I got her number. Again, it seemingly went fine and I did indeed get the digits, it just felt contrived and stupid.

I know there is a better way I should have went about this, so I'd love to hear your advice.

Hopefully when I call here in a day or so, I'll get that first date and I can improve some game by then.

 

[ketostix]

Doesn't sound like you could really done better than this. Unless there's some part that you haven't mentioned and don't know about, like she hooked up with some other guy at the party. The line. "Are you game for coffeee this week", I thought was good. Maybe you could've isolated her and hooked up with her that night, but it sounds like you'll get another chance to do that later on. Besides a lot of same night hookups never turn into anything meaningful and lasting.

 

[tigerstyle]

Unless there's some part that you haven't mentioned and don't know about, like she hooked up with some other guy at the party.

True, true... though I don't think this was the case. The party was only about 40 people strong, with about 80% of everyone knowing each other. All the rooms were locked save one, which belonged to the host, so nothing was going on in there. The only two places to be were in the main room of the place, or out on the deck where people were smoking hookah. Granted, I don't know her well, but she doesn't strike me as the type that would hook up with someone in front of people (nor was she intoxicated enough to do so).

The line. "Are you game for coffeee this week", I thought was good.

Now that I think about it, it wasn't half bad. I just sorta felt like it could have been a little smoother. I think the main thing that threw me off wasn't the line itself, but rather, after I said it when we were saying good night I went in for a 'side hug' for some final kino when someone started talking to her so she paused, and it was semi-awkward.

Maybe you could've isolated her and hooked up with her that night, but it sounds like you'll get another chance to do that later on. Besides a lot of same night hookups never turn into anything meaningful and lasting.

Good point, and I agree. While I am certainly not opposed to hooking up with her, I am glad I did not, as I can see she is someone who I'd like to go long term with. We shall see!