Settings sights TOO high Good thing or Bad

[K2000kidd]

Hey guys, I've been around a while and improved a lot since finding the site. Now i find i'm almost super confident and talking more and more to 7/8s and yes i get shut down rather quickly but i find myself disqualifying her for having kids or working at a fast food restaurant and moving on. I get a lot of "I can't believe you even tried to get HER number" or suggestions that i need to aim a lot "lower" from friends, family and coworkers along with comments like "Your not exactly Brad Pitt." Can DJs be brainwashed into thinking they're something they're not? Is this healthy? Do we really care??

I firmly believe females operate on a different level then us and don't REALLY want Brad Pitt but someone that thinks he is.

 

[Iceberg]

Having high standards isn't a bad thing. Unless of course, you're not getting laid at all. Then, I suppose that's reality's way of telling you that you need to be a bit more realistic.

 

[MM92]

I actually agree with you. Confidence is a massive factor. I regularly see average guys with 7s and 8s and this isn't all to do with looks. My friend who is at uni actually told me a story of when he went to this bar and there was one female that stood out, a stunning blonde. All these guys that were slightly better looking than him were stood in awe watching this girl. My mate approached her and got talking to her and said she must get approached a lot. Her reply was actually that no, she doesn't. My mate realised the reason was that people saw her as out of their league and didn't have the bottle. He spent a while talking to her as other guys just stood and stared while he chatted her up. Not sure how far he actually got but she was friendly.

Since this he regularly approaches 8s and 9s (real ones, not fantasy ones) as you never know, he could be their type. Remember, if you don't shoot then you don't score.

 

[ChocolateMilkFactory]

You're not alone in this. Since the discovery of Don Juanism, I believe the 'think you are brad pit' spirit is what we are suppose to work with. And you gotta work with it in perfection of being yourself. What better way of being yourself than being an alpha male?

You don't expect the journey to the top to be a smooth ride, and you don't expect every girl you meet out there to jump right on your boner as not every girl out there is ready to be approached at that particular time you feel like picking her up. She might just be really busy with something else on her mind.

I believe everything is about timing. And you can't just slow down on your progress because of some few speed bumps.Do your thang and fvck whatever anyone is telling you. You know better. Chat up random girls to at least improve your conditioning and when it comes to the real deal, you only get better.

As for me, I'm afraid of riding on motorcycles and angry persian women holding knives, but when it comes to rejection, I'm fresh out of fvcks to give.

I could go all-day!

 

[K2000kidd]

In all honesty I'm maybe a 4/5 looks wise not that it really matters. If i had to paint a picture imagine Seth Rogen at 5' 10" 175 lbs. I'm a roofer by trade and have a solid brick shthouse type build if that really helps at all. I like the idea of "If you dont shoot you don't score. I find now physical attraction plays a major role in my decision where as before i'd fk anything to avoid being alone on a friday night.

My sister suggested i put up an online profile on POF and see what type of women message me to get a feel for where i stand attractiveness wise. But i feel POF is just a bottom of the barrel website for single mommies and bipolar chicks.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Nothing wrong with shooting for the stars. The other day I saw a chubby guy walking out of a Chinese restaurant with a solid HB9 so you never know.

I don't recommend using POF either. Online dating is generally not an indicator of a man's true attractiveness. I was rejected left and right online, but was dating much better looking women through work and friends. That place is a sewer where fat chicks plain janes think their made of gold. Those low lifes are on there for a reason.

 

[BigJimbo]

Brad Pitt is getting other guys older leftovers. Is that what you really want in America? I am confused.

http://topnews.in/files/billy bob.jpg
Dude, are you jealous of a feminine man like Brad Pitt still? He also was dating Robin Givens after Mike Tyson banged her. Yuck! He tends to go for what a gay man thinks a straight man wants to date.

http://rollingstone.com.br/media/images/medium/2008/10/23/img_5155_john-casablancas.jpg
If you are going to be jealous of an American why not be jealous of Casablancas (shown with a young Claudia Schiffer)? Hell, even he had to flee America because the pickings were getting too slim. But hey, he doesn't fit gay Hollywood's image of what is sexy in a man.

http://i.models.com/fashionweek/shows/SS06EML2/John_Casablancas_eddie_tr.jpg
Sorry, these guys just don't fit your 16 year old American boy image of who is winning.

http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-45clQvETKhI/TdVoPWd-hgI/AAAAAAAAAhA/lckxLUCS7Qk/s1600/brad-Pitt.jpg
But this does. Yummy. Definitely not gay. No. Never.

 

[MisterD]

I don't lower my standards, and I never will.

Several reasons why:

-I don't let pu$$y determine my value. If I want a hot chick, I'm getting a hot chick. If it takes a few rejections to get there, whatever. but i'm not gonna let a dryspell force me to lower my standards, thus completing the self fullfilling prophecy that you can't do better. i'm not gonna say well, most really hot girls turn me down, the pu$$y has spoken; i will now bang fat chicks. that's not me. pu$$y doesn't rule my life. if i'm in a dryspell i focus on my other interests.

-Looks/attraction is subjective. We've all seen guys that physically, should not even be friend zoned by a hot chick, let alone actually bang her. And I'm sure it infuriates/confuses us. It's because we all have different likes/dislikes. Just because a chick is hot doesn't mean all she wants are model guys with perfect abs. If one hot girl turns you down, it doesn't mean another will. Just like we have our own preferences, a 5 to me may be a 7 to someone else. It's the same with women. i might be a low number to one chick and a high number to another

i know what i like and i go after it. that means sometimes i don't score as much as i could be scoring, but i'm satisifed when i do score. quality over quantity for me

if you feel like your standards are too high, don't lower them--increase your own value so you can land what you're looking for

 

[PapiChulo]

It's the women and gino-centered males think that you aim too high or hit on somebody out of their league. We all know on here, that the golden pus$y is a myth. Regarding "dumpster divining"- my friend did that, and he had pretty low self-esteem.

 

[AlexLefty]

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Yes, you want to think your the ****, that's confidence, confidence is attractive
Obviously you don't want your expectations to be unrealistic...keep them achievable