Ok, this is where we are with this now. I got her number, but knowing that her thing is she seemingly likes that guys call her and she doesn't pick up I also got her email address. I took the email address route. We talked here and there for a couple of weeks, I gave her my number. The next weekend, two weeks into this, I get a text from her letting me know that "xxxx club is so cozy and fun". i was busy that night and i didn't reply until the next day. my reply was "that place is great...but i prefer xxxx instead. hope you had fun, but that place is kind of stale imo."
that esculated things to where she called me immediately after. now this is 3 weeks in and we still haven't met up. i took my lunch one day and called her and told her to meet me. we met, had a fun 30 minutes. i'm sarcastic, quick and will poke. she's sarcastic and tries to keep up, but on my worst day i'm quicker and smarter than this chic. i start with the idea that i know you have a ***** to barter with, but what else do you have.
so i set something up for the weekend, an afternoon outing. well i cancelled the day before. went on a coffee date the next day, 1 hour and then i had to break out and film. we have a few more emails that turned to her and i emailing a ton during the past week. it got the point where she started downing guys and dates and how nobody can get it right. i know she was conning me to get what she waited, but i took the bait for the challenge. i told her i know her better than she thinks i do and i would "crush" it.
she's into horror films so i took her on a picnic to an old, beautiful cemetery. prepared all the food, i can cook from being raised by a southern grandmother. when she took off her sunglasses to look me in the eyes i knew i was killing it. we talk then she has to break for a party and i have to break to go to a party the magazine i am part owner of was throwing for the ufc fight. she texts me later that night and says "my friends think you have my number and i've met someone just like me". wrong...i'm not like you, i'm just trying to keep the upper hand which guys seem to fail with you.
the one think i can't stand is how she has this really negative views on guys. i got so tired of her talking **** that i told her she was either a) a lesbian and needs o come out and live a happy life or b) some guy has hurt her in the past and now she hates men. when you get over this anger, let me know. i would make fun of her comments. her newest thing was how she wants to work out and get buff and put on muscle...hence my lesbian comments. i told her i only hang out with girls who like being cute girls. she's gorgeous and energetic, but like i said i'm the catch this time. f it, i'm at the age and the state of mind with myself where i can piece together everything i've done with women in relationships or single, coupled with this site and listening to "the black phillip show" to form my own philosophy. and i don't think that's what a lot of guys get here. you don't apply this stuff at face value, you work it into who you are and your philosophy.
anyway. one thing i do remember is i told her to bring an empty wine bottle. i put some flowers in there and knowing she's an emotional person i took the flowers and told her we'd walk around and find some graves that needed some positivity. sure enough, worked like a charm. on the way there i pointed out a huge tomb that looked like a house. told her that's my grave and she said "your wife will be lucky to be in there with you". my reply was "you are already thinking of the after life with me, so sweat". sarcastically.
anyway, at the end she hugs me, looks at me and i kiss closed it and sent her on her way. while i was walking away she yelled at me and told me "you did great"...no idea what that even means. i looked at her, tapped my chest and threw up the number 1 and said "i know". **** it, i can't drop and let her think she's better than me. i've learned that at the heart of things by nature women want to you to be better than them. when they realize you are not they will walk away.
i got an email from her saying "let's hang out again soon". i replied with "wow, so awesome i am lucky enough to get another 2 hours with you". and i got "you are a decent human being, so why not?". i didn't like that, so now i've gone no contact...didn't even reply to that email and don't plan to. she shouldn't be validating me, i should validate her. and i also want her to be straight and not come up with an excuse to "hang out" again. i'll ask you when i'm ready.
don't get me wrong, she's cute and i'd love to hit it. i've been with almost 100 women in the past 10 years from working in bars and doing art work with a touring band...so ***** is easy and while i want to blow this chic up that's not my focus. i kind of want to beat her at her own game and i am guessing that just going no contact and doing my own thing this week is going to throw her off.
i asked my friend why she would hook me up with this hardcore and jaded chic and her reply was "we felt it was time that she met someone who can give it back to her". anyway, yeah i do have the confidence to take this creature on.
and oh, i have been disqualifying myself a lot with comments like "i don't have the energy at this point in my life to get you, but i can help you find your perfect match" and "i get why you are hardcore, i'm the same way and i can't find any women that i've invited into my life that i can't walk way from". it's her game that i'm throwing back at her. she also has a guy friend who i make fun of. and any time she tries to validate i told her that all i think of is "two girls, one cup" as it's a testament to women.
