Ugh. I have some mixed feelings about what I'm going to write.
Went on a 3rd date with this girl - attractive, funny, laid back. Took her out to a concert (at a low key bar) had a great time, she was ALL over me. Constantly kissing me, touching me, telling me she couldn't help herself. Kept my frame tight and strong against her, never gave into her "I really like you, how do you feel" tests. Pushed her boundaries as far as KINO in public would go. We changed venues, had another drink...
All night she's telling me how she can't stop kissing me and that i'm bad news. Which was a great indicator of interest. She wants me to come over, make me dinner, all that fun stuff.
These 2 guys were sitting next to us, ended up chatting them up and pulling in a fun story of "how we met" (because they asked) - nailed that one, made up some story about how I was on a sail boat, she was on a party boat - saw me and she decided to SWIM to me. She ate it up. "I just had to swim to him" The dude even told her we look good together.
Get back to her place, at this point - she's sort of wasted. She invites me in. My senses tell me, okay - I'm a little intoxicated myself and my **** is not going to be hard if I escalate this to sex. She'll get mediocre sex at best. Was that a BETA thing for me to do? I held such a strong frame for the entire night right up until the end. lol
Get in, she's got ZERO energy at this point. I start pushing boundaries again, grabbing her ass, using hands to go all over; But I never really pushed it to anything substantial. Maybe I could of just kept going to see what happened, but I think questioning myself is more AFC/Beta than anything else.
I setup a 4th meet, at my place with movies and dinner..
Now I AM spinning plates, have 3 other women that I occasionally see and bang, but for whatever reason this girl has got me interested. I believe its because of the initial resistance she's been giving to be honest. These other slvts are cool and all but my interests quickly drops for them the quicker I get into the bedroom. I'm more of a one girl guy anyways, I do love the idea of spinning plates and being single and all that but I'd much rather have just one chick to bang out stuff with. That's my ultimate goal is just to find one chick rather than constantly spin plates. I use spinning plates to keep my confidence and ONEITIS at bay, but here not sure it's working. lol
I don't believe in that 3rd date rule crap and just go with my gut. I have no problems pushing into a girl, but someone who looks like they're gonna pass out at any moment from drinking too much - I feel like I would of done more damage in the long run or at least put up more resistance for the next time. But interested to know your guys thoughts.
Has anyone else experienced this?
Went on a 3rd date with this girl - attractive, funny, laid back. Took her out to a concert (at a low key bar) had a great time, she was ALL over me. Constantly kissing me, touching me, telling me she couldn't help herself. Kept my frame tight and strong against her, never gave into her "I really like you, how do you feel" tests. Pushed her boundaries as far as KINO in public would go. We changed venues, had another drink...
All night she's telling me how she can't stop kissing me and that i'm bad news. Which was a great indicator of interest. She wants me to come over, make me dinner, all that fun stuff.
These 2 guys were sitting next to us, ended up chatting them up and pulling in a fun story of "how we met" (because they asked) - nailed that one, made up some story about how I was on a sail boat, she was on a party boat - saw me and she decided to SWIM to me. She ate it up. "I just had to swim to him" The dude even told her we look good together.
Get back to her place, at this point - she's sort of wasted. She invites me in. My senses tell me, okay - I'm a little intoxicated myself and my **** is not going to be hard if I escalate this to sex. She'll get mediocre sex at best. Was that a BETA thing for me to do? I held such a strong frame for the entire night right up until the end. lol
Get in, she's got ZERO energy at this point. I start pushing boundaries again, grabbing her ass, using hands to go all over; But I never really pushed it to anything substantial. Maybe I could of just kept going to see what happened, but I think questioning myself is more AFC/Beta than anything else.
I setup a 4th meet, at my place with movies and dinner..
Now I AM spinning plates, have 3 other women that I occasionally see and bang, but for whatever reason this girl has got me interested. I believe its because of the initial resistance she's been giving to be honest. These other slvts are cool and all but my interests quickly drops for them the quicker I get into the bedroom. I'm more of a one girl guy anyways, I do love the idea of spinning plates and being single and all that but I'd much rather have just one chick to bang out stuff with. That's my ultimate goal is just to find one chick rather than constantly spin plates. I use spinning plates to keep my confidence and ONEITIS at bay, but here not sure it's working. lol
I don't believe in that 3rd date rule crap and just go with my gut. I have no problems pushing into a girl, but someone who looks like they're gonna pass out at any moment from drinking too much - I feel like I would of done more damage in the long run or at least put up more resistance for the next time. But interested to know your guys thoughts.
Has anyone else experienced this?