Semi-erection because of a lack of attraction

[MoMoses]

Guys,

Yesterday I spend the night at a girl's place. I met her 2 weeks ago in a supermarket. Did a pretty solid approach, talked for a few minutes, got her number and things just kinda happened from that point on.

I remember that I thought she was pretty hot, but yesterday we went on a date and I saw her without her facemask. Well.. I was kinda disappointed. And on top of that she had these really small boobs and I didn't like her perfume. Weird.. a perfume has never bothered me before. In fact, I didn't like anything about her. I just wasn't attracted. She wasn't even all that much fun.

But hey, I did my thing, bought us some wine and went for it. We ended up at her place and things turned hot and heavy, but I wasn't really feeling it. I really didn't feel very attracted to her but was still looking for some sex.

And then it happened.. I lead her to her bathroom and as much as I tried... I just couldn't get a full erection. It was just kinda hanging there like a national flag looks when a country is in mourning. You know, half mast hehe. For some miraculous reason I succeeded in penetrating her and a full erection followed soon after but I got spooked. This has never happened to me before. In fact I had great sex with another woman last saturday.

Did some of you have a similar experience once? I'm not worried because I get horny as hell when I'm with a hot woman, but I didn't like it that my body kinda went 'meh' on this girl because I wasn't attracted. Maybe I should have ended the date and just walked instead of thinking about getting some.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Guys,

Yesterday I spend the night at a girl's place. I met her 2 weeks ago in a supermarket. Did a pretty solid approach, talked for a few minutes, got her number and things just kinda happened from that point on.

I remember that I thought she was pretty hot, but yesterday we went on a date and I saw her without her facemask. Well.. I was kinda disappointed. And on top of that she had these really small boobs and I didn't like her perfume. Weird.. a perfume has never bothered me before. In fact, I didn't like anything about her. I just wasn't attracted. She wasn't even all that much fun.

But hey, I did my thing, bought us some wine and went for it. We ended up at her place and things turned hot and heavy, but I wasn't really feeling it. I really didn't feel very attracted to her but was still looking for some sex.

And then it happened.. I lead her to her bathroom and as much as I tried... I just couldn't get a full erection. It was just kinda hanging there like a national flag looks when a country is in mourning. You know, half mast hehe. For some miraculous reason I succeeded in penetrating her and a full erection followed soon after but I got spooked. This has never happened to me before. In fact I had great sex with another woman last saturday.

Did some of you have a similar experience once? I'm not worried because I get horny as hell when I'm with a hot woman, but I didn't like it that my body kinda went 'meh' on this girl because I wasn't attracted. Maybe I should have ended the date and just walked instead of thinking about getting some.

Don't force those types of situations because they can mess up your mind and mess up your erections. I'd try once again if you feel like laying with her. Let her give you head, and relax and just enjoy it.

 

[TheProspect]

You seemed to have already identified the problem. You just didn't find her that physically attractive, and you mentioned that she wasn't much fun either.

I think most of us have bagged a girl or two that have failed to meet our little fella's standard of attraction. I have compromised a few times just for the sake of getting laid.

Sometimes even if the girl isn't the hottest girl I've ever been with, she can make up for it by exhibiting enthusiasm, submissiveness, and raw desire for me, or even just being fun to be around.

The opposite is also true, sometimes a girl has an insufferable personality but she's hot enough that my unit can get the job done. Although admittedly, as of late the novelty of hot women has worn off and I need to enjoy other aspects of chick (like I mentioned) beyond just her looks. For example, I bagged the hottest looking chick I've been with back in the Fall, but after a few lays with her, she lacked in so many other areas I quickly lost sexual attraction and gave her the slow fade.

 

[TheNewStyle123]

Guys,

Yesterday I spend the night at a girl's place. I met her 2 weeks ago in a supermarket. Did a pretty solid approach, talked for a few minutes, got her number and things just kinda happened from that point on.

I remember that I thought she was pretty hot, but yesterday we went on a date and I saw her without her facemask. Well.. I was kinda disappointed. And on top of that she had these really small boobs and I didn't like her perfume. Weird.. a perfume has never bothered me before. In fact, I didn't like anything about her. I just wasn't attracted. She wasn't even all that much fun.

But hey, I did my thing, bought us some wine and went for it. We ended up at her place and things turned hot and heavy, but I wasn't really feeling it. I really didn't feel very attracted to her but was still looking for some sex.

And then it happened.. I lead her to her bathroom and as much as I tried... I just couldn't get a full erection. It was just kinda hanging there like a national flag looks when a country is in mourning. You know, half mast hehe. For some miraculous reason I succeeded in penetrating her and a full erection followed soon after but I got spooked. This has never happened to me before. In fact I had great sex with another woman last saturday.

Did some of you have a similar experience once? I'm not worried because I get horny as hell when I'm with a hot woman, but I didn't like it that my body kinda went 'meh' on this girl because I wasn't attracted. Maybe I should have ended the date and just walked instead of thinking about getting some.

Hey man, still a success because you still bucked. Don't feel too bad about it - trust me, I've had times where it just stopped at the "half mast" position and there was no penetration or sex! Sometimes due to performance anxiety, or sometimes because I just wasn't feeling the girl.

Your piece isn't a machine. Sometimes if you aren't feeling it you just aren't feeling it. If you bucked another girl last Saturday it is likely more an issue with this current girl and not you.

 

[TheProspect]

Don't force those types of situations because they can mess up your mind and mess up your erections. I'd try once again if you feel like laying with her. Let her give you head, and relax and just enjoy it.

Bad enough head can make erection problems worse in my experience lol.

Usually when I have a bit of trouble getting a full erection, it helps if I get hard enough just to penetrate her, and then I can achieve a full erection by hitting it at my tempo for a minute or two, then I'm good to go.

 

[TheNewStyle123]

Bad enough head can make erection problems worse in my experience lol.

Usually when I have a bit of trouble getting a full erection, it helps if I get hard enough just to penetrate her, and then I can achieve a full erection by hitting it at my tempo for a minute or two, then I'm good to go.

Agreed^^

Occasionally head will have the opposite effect for me as well. Then the girl just ends up sucking me limp and I continue to get more and more into my own head with the mentality that the pressure is now on to get hard. If I'm half mast and penetrate, especially in a position I like and begin at a tempo of my choice then it becomes effortless.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Guys,

Yesterday I spend the night at a girl's place. I met her 2 weeks ago in a supermarket. Did a pretty solid approach, talked for a few minutes, got her number and things just kinda happened from that point on.

I remember that I thought she was pretty hot, but yesterday we went on a date and I saw her without her facemask. Well.. I was kinda disappointed. And on top of that she had these really small boobs and I didn't like her perfume. Weird.. a perfume has never bothered me before. In fact, I didn't like anything about her. I just wasn't attracted. She wasn't even all that much fun.

But hey, I did my thing, bought us some wine and went for it. We ended up at her place and things turned hot and heavy, but I wasn't really feeling it. I really didn't feel very attracted to her but was still looking for some sex.

And then it happened.. I lead her to her bathroom and as much as I tried... I just couldn't get a full erection. It was just kinda hanging there like a national flag looks when a country is in mourning. You know, half mast hehe. For some miraculous reason I succeeded in penetrating her and a full erection followed soon after but I got spooked. This has never happened to me before. In fact I had great sex with another woman last saturday.

Did some of you have a similar experience once? I'm not worried because I get horny as hell when I'm with a hot woman, but I didn't like it that my body kinda went 'meh' on this girl because I wasn't attracted. Maybe I should have ended the date and just walked instead of thinking about getting some.

For as much as this is kind of a hilarious situation and it is humorous, yes, take that as a learning experience.

Never have sex for the sake of sex and having "another notch in your belt". If your penis is telling you it's not cutting it, then simply remove yourself from the situation. Forcing yourself to have sex with a girl you are not physically or even worse mentally attracted to is simply disrespecting your body. If you are an attractive male, know your worth, and have set high standards you will feel much better about your masculinity when you do have sex.

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[TheProspect]

Never have sex for the sake of sex and having "another notch in your belt".

Half the forum just became celibate.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Bad enough head can make erection problems worse in my experience lol.

Usually when I have a bit of trouble getting a full erection, it helps if I get hard enough just to penetrate her, and then I can achieve a full erection by hitting it at my tempo for a minute or two, then I'm good to go.

But if you train your mind for a semi to start with and work it up to an erection you might start having the issue with others. That's why guys say stay with babes who wants to fvck you who you find very attractive.

 

[Barrister]

Guys,

Yesterday I spend the night at a girl's place. I met her 2 weeks ago in a supermarket. Did a pretty solid approach, talked for a few minutes, got her number and things just kinda happened from that point on.

I remember that I thought she was pretty hot, but yesterday we went on a date and I saw her without her facemask. Well.. I was kinda disappointed. And on top of that she had these really small boobs and I didn't like her perfume. Weird.. a perfume has never bothered me before. In fact, I didn't like anything about her. I just wasn't attracted. She wasn't even all that much fun.

But hey, I did my thing, bought us some wine and went for it. We ended up at her place and things turned hot and heavy, but I wasn't really feeling it. I really didn't feel very attracted to her but was still looking for some sex.

And then it happened.. I lead her to her bathroom and as much as I tried... I just couldn't get a full erection. It was just kinda hanging there like a national flag looks when a country is in mourning. You know, half mast hehe. For some miraculous reason I succeeded in penetrating her and a full erection followed soon after but I got spooked. This has never happened to me before. In fact I had great sex with another woman last saturday.

Did some of you have a similar experience once? I'm not worried because I get horny as hell when I'm with a hot woman, but I didn't like it that my body kinda went 'meh' on this girl because I wasn't attracted. Maybe I should have ended the date and just walked instead of thinking about getting some.

Clearly there was no vibe to your date with this woman. You weren't getting the sexual anticipation throughout the night that generally makes your unit ready to go as soon as you get in the bedroom. This has a double effect because when you know you aren't there yet you start thinking about it. Once you start thinking about it, you mindfu*k yourself worrying about whether you will be ready to go and you lose even the small amount of an erection you had. You were able to take care of business which is good - but this type of thing happens from time to time for a variety of reasons.

I wouldn't worry about it. But generally speaking, if you aren't attracted to a woman being rock hard isn't always easy. She sounds like one you should just move on from. Find someone you are more attracted to.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Half the forum just became celibate.

That's not what we said. At all. Unless you don't know the exact meaning of Celibacy. Please read carefully.

Ultimately, it is your body. It is up to you to listen to it and respect it. Surely, there are other women to have as much sex as you want. He even said, he slept with another girl last Saturday and that was good. So there you go, no celibacy, just go for it with women you actually want and your body reacts well to. That's all.

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[Barrister]

That's not what we said. At all. Unless you don't know the exact meaning of Celibacy. Please read carefully.

Ultimately, it is your body. It is up to you to listen to it and respect it. Surely, there are other women to have as much sex as you want. He even said, he slept with another girl last Saturday and that was good. So there you go, no celibacy, just go for it with women you actually want and your body reacts well to. That's all.

Modern Man Advice

LOL come on man. Stop referring to yourself as a collective. It's just weird. I get it is your company but you are clearly one dude typing behind the keyboard.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

LOL come on man. Stop referring to yourself as a collective. It's just weird. I get it is your company but you are clearly one dude typing behind the keyboard.

Do we have a problem?

Are you the SS police or something? How does this affect you? Don't you have better things to do here (like give advice to men that need it, or contribute to the collective)? Why are you so obsessed/bothered by how my company is run?

I don't need to explain to you how my company is run or who is behind our website content, social media, community engagement, coaching. If you have a problem, give me a call and we'll square it cause we don't have the time to waste it a jacka*** like you.

Capisci? Good, now go on and twinkle with your berries kid.

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[MoMoses]

Don't force those types of situations because they can mess up your mind and mess up your erections. I'd try once again if you feel like laying with her. Let her give you head, and relax and just enjoy it.

I don't want to go on a date with her anymore so I'm not going to. Lesson learned for the next time.. when I feel turned off by a woman's appearance, smell and personality... do not try and have sex with them

 

[MoMoses]

I think most of us have bagged a girl or two that have failed to meet our little fella's standard of attraction. I have compromised a few times just for the sake of getting laid.

That's the word

D'you wanna hear something crazy.. I can still smell her when I think about her and it instantly turns me off again. F***ing weird man

 

[Lookatu]

The more girls you've fvcked the pickier your d1ck becomes.

Think about it, if you've had the best Kobe beef or filet mignon steak before, you're mouth isn't going to water as much eating skirt steak.

Also not sure how old you are but I find the older you get, the more your d1ck gets affected by various things like attractiveness, odors, temperature, environment, what you just ate(bloated stomach), etc.

When you're 18 and not having had many notches, you can just about fvck anything with a major wood.

It's happened to a lot of us. Nothing to be concerned about. Just know that if you're trying to bag a semi-attractive gal just for sex, your junk might not work 100% all the time.

 

[MoMoses]

Do we have a problem?

Are you the SS police or something? How does this affect you? Don't you have better things to do here (like give advice to men that need it, or contribute to the collective)? Why are you so obsessed/bothered by how my company is run?

I don't need to explain to you how my company is run or who is behind our website content, social media, community engagement, coaching. If you have a problem, give me a call and we'll square it cause we don't have the time to waste it a jacka*** like you.

Capisci? Good, now go on and twinkle with your berries kid.

Modern Man Advice

Relax man. I'm pretty sure Pépé didn't mean to make disrespect you. I really enjoy your advice. It's usually spot on! But we've all been wondering why you speak in plural Again, not to disrespect you.

Keep it up! Glad you're on this forum

 

[TheProspect]

That's not what we said. At all. Unless you don't know the exact meaning of Celibacy. Please read carefully.

Ultimately, it is your body. It is up to you to listen to it and respect it. Surely, there are other women to have as much sex as you want. He even said, he slept with another girl last Saturday and that was good. So there you go, no celibacy, just go for it with women you actually want and your body reacts well to. That's all.

Modern Man Advice

We know what you meant. We were just purposely misinterpreting your post to make a joke.

Do we have a problem?

Are you the SS police or something? How does this affect you? Don't you have better things to do here (like give advice to men that need it, or contribute to the collective)? Why are you so obsessed/bothered by how my company is run?

I don't need to explain to you how my company is run or who is behind our website content, social media, community engagement, coaching. If you have a problem, give me a call and we'll square it cause we don't have the time to waste it a jacka*** like you.

Capisci? Good, now go on and twinkle with your berries kid.

Modern Man Advice

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[MoMoses]

It's happened to a lot of us. Nothing to be concerned about. Just know that if you're trying to bag a semi-attractive gal just for sex, your junk might not work 100% all the time.

Ain't that the truth. I only managed to get it in because I imagined myself screwing that hot chick I had last week. This did the trick but it was so sad. I didn't enjoy the sex. I felt so cheap

Damn.. sound like a chick.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

We know what you meant. We were just purposely misinterpreting your post to make a joke.



We don't appreciate such confrontational behaviour on this forum. We advise you to refrain from insulting other members, practice restraint going forward, and if you have a problem with any particular member, our team advises your team to please use the report button or the ignore feature.

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Acknowledged. And will use the report/ignore feature going forward.

However, I will not tolerate how my company is run being questioned. We are not here to explain to a user, who is behind community engagement vs social media vs website content. We are here to provide to the collective and add a little grain of knowledge. The last thing that I want to do is waste my time having to do this.

If there is a problem with the above please let us know, glad to jump on a call and discuss.

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