Self conscious women are a pain...ideas for getting them past their issues?

[STR8UP]

It drives me NUTS dealing with women who are overly self conscious about their appearance.

The other night I was trying to take off her bra while we were getting into it, and she kept pushing me away. I ASSUMED she was pushing me away from SEX, but then she made a comment like, "I might let you see me half naked, but never fully naked" WTF???

I realized then it wasn't that she was turning me down for sex, she just didn't want me to see her with her top off. So I proceeded to focus my attention a little, **ahem**, lower. Smooth sailing from there.

I've had several other chicks that were self conscious about their bodies, but having to keep CLOTHES ON??? That sucks. It's like ordering a lobster dinner just to have the waiter take it away from you halfway thru.

I prefer girls who are "healthy" She's very petite, but hell, I AM attracted to her.

Another thing is the fact that she doesn't wear hardly any makeup, and dresses down. She has natural beauty, which is a HUGE plus, so she doesn't NEED makeup, but I saw a modeling pic of her...OMG...she was f'in SMOKING HOT. And when I say she dresses down I don't mean sweats and a t-shirt, but she could get away with wearing stuff that compliments her a little more.

So.....has anyone had any success with getting a girl to loosen up a bit?

It's been my experience that there's nothing you can do to get them over it, it's a personal issue. I would love to hear if anyone else has had any luck...

 

[dionysius_d]

point of focus.

It's hard, and will depend on what their reason is for not wanting to disrobe for you.

ASSUMING that it is due to confidence issues

Direct her attention elsewhere. She is too self conscious.. and pikes out.

Find anything, joke, convo, talk, yourself, music. whatever, just don't let her think about herself and how disgusted she feels with her body (total insanity i know).

 

[WatchMeWalk]

When she asks you if she looks fat for the second time, say "Stop being so freaking high-maintenance!"

 

[Quick]

There's absolutely nothing you can do but be gently persuasive and have a ton of patience. They do open up more the longer they're with you, but it's on their schedule, not yours.

 

[chlywly]

You can't do much it all depends on them only they can help themselves, I know its very annyong and tedious, basicly the only thing that YOU can do, is have MAJOR patience......... and be posetive.

 

[STR8UP]

I guess it's just one of those things you have to deal with if you like the girl enough. But that's the problem....you don't know which way things will go in the beginning, yet you still have to put up with it, and that's usually when it is the worst it will ever be.

Pisses me off when I KNOW they have nothing to be self conscious about...it's some big overinflated body dismorphic discombobulation or something.

Had an ex that I thought was hot as hell. Definitely the best I have had. She would get naked but had an issue with there being light in the room.

Cosmo doesn't create an unrealistic image for women to live up to, they do it to THEMSELVES. But, of course, they will always BLAME it on someone or something else, being women and all.

 

[princelydeeds]

When you screw pay lots of attention to her whole body, especially during the sex act. Be sure to screw her and take off all the clothes after you get started. Get her hot and sweaty then stop take off shirt, etc. Have wild all over the place sex and eventually she will come around to taking off all her clothes. tell her she is so sexy ang be patient soner or later she will stop caring