After being on these boards for a while, I've been thinking of how to help out all you folks out there who seem to have trouble with finding the DJ side that is perhaps in all of us. Ok, here's my most recent development, although for some, it may be easier said than done.
First, you have to be able to be a good salesman, to yourself. For example, let's say there's a girl you like, but you're afraid of going all AFC with her. Well, here's what you need to do. You need to somehow, even though you know she's hot, find some reason, however petty, about her that may turn you off. This step is key, because without it, you can't pull off the rest. Imagine this, a girl is hot, but you are able to convince yourself that she's annoying, or whatever, and just totally blow it out of proportion. This is what I mean by being a good salesman to yourself.
Next, after this has been done, hopefully you'll lose some interest in her, enough so that your attraction to her is so minimal that you're able to relax around her and not feel all ga-ga over her. Remember, the key is to be able to look at this girl, who may be totally hot and everything you've looked for, and see her faults. Since everyone has their faults and there are no perfect people out there, this shouldn't be a problem unless you're looking for the perfect girl, in which case you might as well go ahead and look for the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow while you're at it; in fact, I'll let you take my unicorn, since it will be faster.
Anyways, this relaxation allows for some random, spontaneous conversation and you won't be held back just because you're afraid that what you say will be offensive, or whatever. In essence, it will bring you closer to the way a DJ really acts anyways.
I've seen this work before, but I never really thought much about it until I came to this board. It takes a pretty darn good salesman, but nobody said this was supposed to be easy anyways. However, just like anything, doing it more will make you better and better at it. I can do it pretty well now, and it works wonders.
First, you have to be able to be a good salesman, to yourself. For example, let's say there's a girl you like, but you're afraid of going all AFC with her. Well, here's what you need to do. You need to somehow, even though you know she's hot, find some reason, however petty, about her that may turn you off. This step is key, because without it, you can't pull off the rest. Imagine this, a girl is hot, but you are able to convince yourself that she's annoying, or whatever, and just totally blow it out of proportion. This is what I mean by being a good salesman to yourself.
Next, after this has been done, hopefully you'll lose some interest in her, enough so that your attraction to her is so minimal that you're able to relax around her and not feel all ga-ga over her. Remember, the key is to be able to look at this girl, who may be totally hot and everything you've looked for, and see her faults. Since everyone has their faults and there are no perfect people out there, this shouldn't be a problem unless you're looking for the perfect girl, in which case you might as well go ahead and look for the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow while you're at it; in fact, I'll let you take my unicorn, since it will be faster.
Anyways, this relaxation allows for some random, spontaneous conversation and you won't be held back just because you're afraid that what you say will be offensive, or whatever. In essence, it will bring you closer to the way a DJ really acts anyways.
I've seen this work before, but I never really thought much about it until I came to this board. It takes a pretty darn good salesman, but nobody said this was supposed to be easy anyways. However, just like anything, doing it more will make you better and better at it. I can do it pretty well now, and it works wonders.