Secret Society Of Women - "I’ve had multiple affairs"

[Crissco]

http://www.secretsocietyofwomen.com/secrets/marriage/forum/topic/ive-had-multiple-affairs/

"It started with my personal trainer and I convinced myself it was just a fling, then I met a guy at work who was exactly what I’d always looked for (total opposite from my husband). This new guy, was adventurous, confident (borderline arrogant) and full of life. My husband is a good man who isn’t the most romantic, but enjoys making me happy. He provides me with a stable life and is a great dad to our daughter. I began seeing my co-worker on a weekly basis and I’ve never know a more passionate man. I broke it off because I felt like I was developing feeling for him. Truth is, I’ve never been a brave person. I won’t leave my husband even though I’m not in love with him anymore. I feel safe with him. But everyday, when my co-worker and I talk over work stuff, I remember our time together. I feel that although I only knew him for a short time and I only knew a piece of him, I truly fell in love with him. I find myself thinking of him when songs come on the radio…I miss him"


"I think I have that cheating gene they were talking about on the news. My 1st marriage ended because we both were cheating (more like taking turns). Now, I was proud of myself that I made it to 10 years before I had an affair. We hadn’t seen each other since graduation. He saw me in a store far from were we had lived. We started e-mailing and he would come see me at my work when he would come to town. Anyway, after saying no at meeting him, last year on my 45th birthday, he surprised me by coming to my house. (husband works overnights) I wasn’t nervous one bit!! He made love to me like he did 20+ years ago. And since then, we have met 3 more times. We text every week, have phone sex a couple of times a month. I won’t leave my husband and he won’t leave his wife. We are best friends WITH benefits. And I wouldn’t change it for nothing."


Discuss...?

 

[DJ Logic]

*cues the cavalry music for the "all women are lying, cheating wh0res" brigade*

 

[synergy1]

...followed by me linking one of the many threads of people justifying cheating on girlfriends, taking away girls from boyfriends/husbands, or playing games with girls who dumped them.

These are the kind of women I would prefer to avoid. Likewise, I would hope that the women I am interested in would chose to avoid the type of men who do the same thing. I don't see how ****ty people make the news...****ty women and ****ty men are a fixture in society just like death and taxes. Rather than focusing on the ****ty women, why not focus on the ones worthwhile?

 

[j0n24]

I won’t leave my husband and [B]he...I wouldnt change it for nothing," Is correct.

 

[EA Gold]

This happens when you give women freedom, rights and independence.


They sleep around.

 

[Strelok]

I find that the funniest thing out of the whole little article. She says it so confidently like its the truth that the husband would never leave his wife even though she cheats on him with multiple men. Then she doesnt think its a problem with the whole "I wouldnt change it for nothing."
1. You have a problem with your morals if you dont think cheating on the dude that pays for your lifestyle is not a problem.
2. Your a moron if you dont know grammar and think "I wouldnt change it for nothing," Is correct.

This is the point,a thing is to cheat on your boyfriend at school while a total different one is to cheat on the man who pay your food and shelter.
Same for men,I feel no remorse for my cheating on my 20s on some superficial relationship where I wasnt getting anything but I would never cheat on the mother of my children or at least I would feel a sh1t for doing so.

 

[Sir Psycho Sexy]

These are the kind of women I would prefer to avoid.

Rather than focusing on the ****ty women, why not focus on the ones worthwhile?

But thats the problem, dont you see? People dont come out and say they are going to cheat on you.

It would make sense if the faithful paired with the faithful and the cheaters paired with the cheaters but we do not come labeled as such.

Im sure almost all those husbands are oblivious to their spouses cheating ways. Things like texting and facebook make it too tempting for these women to do the right thing and say no.

I bookmarked the website for future use.

 

[Crissco]

But thats the problem, dont you see? People dont come out and say they are going to cheat on you.

It would make sense if the faithful paired with the faithful and the cheaters paired with the cheaters but we do not come labeled as such.

Im sure almost all those husbands are oblivious to their spouses cheating ways. Things like texting and facebook make it too tempting for these women to do the right thing and say no.

I bookmarked the website for future use.

Thats why I usually play the question game..Ask them how there relationship with there parents are, ask them if they ever cheated, that usually leads up a big stir of but he cheated on me first, he was angry, used to yell...etc

Then you can take it from there

 

[Korrupt]

Just realize that women are like everyone else and aren't perfect little innocent angels.

 

[Sir Psycho Sexy]

Just realize that women are like everyone else and aren't perfect little innocent angels.

Do you plan on ever marrying?

 

[bukowski_merit]

"It started with my personal traine... and stern. That sh!t is boring to be around.

 

[Korrupt]

Do you plan on ever marrying?

No.

 

[Alle_Gory]

This happens when you give women freedom, rights and independence.


They sleep around.

So what you're arguing is that women shouldn't have legal rights, freedom or independence then.

 

[Alle_Gory]

To be fair, I am not so certain they should have the right to vote.

Seriously, women as a whole are socialistic in nature. They are a big part of destroying capitalism. With their inability to use logic, but instead rely on emotion, they are destined to continually make self-destructive decisions. They are not suited to lead nor are they suited to pick leaders.

You could say that about most men as well.

Have you browsed around sosuave and looked at the kinds of things the dumber people (most members) around here say? You could argue that they rely on emotion, they are destined to continually make self-destructive decisions. They are not suitable for leading nor are they suited to pick leaders.

"The best argument against democracy is a five-minute conversation with the average voter." - Winston Churchill.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

http://www.secretsocietyofwomen.com/secrets/marriage/forum/topic/ive-had-multiple-affairs/

"It started with my personal trainer and I convinced myself it was just a fling, then I met a guy at work who was exactly what I’d always looked for (total opposite from my husband). This new guy, was adventurous, confident (borderline arrogant) and full of life. My husband is a good man who isn’t the most romantic, but enjoys making me happy. He provides me with a stable life and is a great dad to our daughter. I began seeing my co-worker on a weekly basis and I’ve never know a more passionate man. I broke it off because I felt like I was developing feeling for him. Truth is, I’ve never been a brave person. I won’t leave my husband even though I’m not in love with him anymore. I feel safe with him. But everyday, when my co-worker and I talk over work stuff, I remember our time together. I feel that although I only knew him for a short time and I only knew a piece of him, I truly fell in love with him. I find myself thinking of him when songs come on the radio…I miss him"

Discuss...?

Lover/provider theorem guys. That's what happens when you're just rich.

 

[Alle_Gory]

Enough said.

We're not even going to have a discussion about it? That's it, you've made up your mind about the matter and that's it. Sounds like a very emotional response. The very thing you're arguing against.

Interesting.

 

[synergy1]

Lets think about a statement that is often repeated on this forum but seldom under any scruple; men act on logic and not emotion. While I agree men tend to look at things more objectively than women, I do not believe men's choices are soly on logic alone. Pride and arrogance blind a mans choices. One read through the art of war, and you'd see that many men have found their end following their pride rather than prudence.

A good example are individuals who tell themselves how great they are by working on inner game. Again, not to disparage this as a certain level of confidence goes a long way. its when it becomes a bit disillusion that we see that men are no longer acting under logic, but emotion. Take for example someone like Justlurk who made a post a few weeks ago regarding highly inflated inner game. While there have been no results, he keeps acting on pride alone in hopes that it'll work. Acting like this is actually quite illogical as the results are contradictory to what he wants. Yet, pride keeps him on course for acting like this.

I am not trying to bash anyone, but I believe that the above anecdote is proof that men, like women will throw logic aside and act irrationally under certain circumstances. me personally, I have been known to act on emotion , but try my best to keep level headed and think things through. No one is perfect!

 

[NorwegianDJ]

It's not two extremes here guys. On one side, you have emotions, and the other you have logic. Noone is completely at one end.
I agree that women are more emotional and men are more logical. I thought this was a proven fact?
I heard it's because Women use more of their right brain (emotions) and men use more of their left (logic).

When I started improving, I was generally in my left brain. I checked a few weeks ago; and now Im generally in my right brain. Interesting observation.

 

[Darth]

To be fair, I am not so certain they should have the right to vote.

For most of America's history, they didn't. Black men were allowed to vote YEARS before women. Women were the last to get that right because they knew it wouldn't turn out well.

Now look at what has happened to the quality of presidents.

Before, we had presidents like Washington, Jefferson, Lincoln, Theodore Roosevelt.

Now we have Clinton, Bush, and Obama. Jimmy Carter. Even Kennedy was basically put in by women who thought he was good-looking.

Women have had an adverse effect on politics because they don't focus on content. They focus on how the candidate looks, if he seems like a nice person, if he shaved today, how confident he looks, etc. Even my mom, who is logical in other things, does this all the time. Starts talking about the candidate's personal life and what she likes about him.

Rather than what his policy is.

 

[Strelok]

To be fair, I am not so certain they should have the right to vote.

For most of America's history, they didn't. Black men were allowed to vote YEARS before women. Women were the last to get that right because they knew it wouldn't turn out well.

Now look at what has happened to the quality of presidents.

Before, we had presidents like Washington, Jefferson, Lincoln, Theodore Roosevelt.

Now we have Clinton, Bush, and Obama. Jimmy Carter. Even Kennedy was basically put in by women who thought he was good-looking.

Women have had an adverse effect on politics because they don't focus on content. They focus on how the candidate looks, if he seems like a nice person, if he shaved today, how confident he looks, etc. Even my mom, who is logical in other things, does this all the time. Starts talking about the candidate's personal life and what she likes about him.

Rather than what his policy is.

Totally agree here,I heard women saying that they were voting for X cause it's evident that he is a gentle man and is charismatic....just know guys than after X ruled for years the city was crap and full of debts.
Once it needed to have brain and balls,now social skills and be goodlooking.

This celebrity crap is maintained almost entirely from women,you never hear a guy who goes to see a movie because there is X as a leading role or that read magazines about the celebrities private life.
I bet my ass that most of the guys here would like to bang some girl they know instead of some celebrity on tv,can we say the same about girls?