Screening for DTF girls- online

[Sofomore]

Hey everyone, I am using OKCupid to get phone numbers but I am too busy to take these girls out on dates once I get their number. I have about 6 girls lined up ready to go, but I honestly don't have time to take them out since I work 12+ hours a day, even on Saturdays. This makes it really hard for me to go out, and when I do, I want to go out with some friends for a beer or with a girl I met in real life, not go on a date with some online wh0re who might flake. We all know (thanks to NaughtyNinja) that POF and OKC are just a facade for people looking to get laid, and most girls will put out on the first date.

Does anyone have a way of screening these girls to find out if they're DTF before we meet up? Like some sort of sexual talk through texts?

Maybe I should just suggest meeting them at their place for a drink rather than going out to get one. Then any girl that is down knows I am there to bang, not "court" her.

Anyone's experience and/or tips would be helpful. Thanks guys.

 

[Renegade357]

Uhh, just go for the ones who aren't that settled in life and would typically be open to risky activities. Students, waitresses, smokers, drinkers, tattoos, bimbos. They'll give it up after date 1-2-3. You gotta get a feel for it dude.

 

[incognito42]

A lot of these chicks will put out on the first date if you follow naughty ninjas guidelines. Not even necessarily his guidelines, but the basic principals of his system. So if you're afraid of wasting time and effort, from my experience I've learned that you can usually cash in on the first date


Setting things up where you can be sure to get laid before ever meeting, or even talking to te chick on the phone is also very much possible. If you work out and are cut up and are willing to send a nude pic yourself, it can be really easy. You can be average looking and in good shape, I'm not saying you need to be the best looking guy around or have an enormous penis. Within a few texts you just say "send me a pic " and progress fom there. Send her one. Tell her to send another one. Just get more sexual from there, you have to gauge the chicks openness to be slvtty to decide how subtle to be. For the most part just be blunt and confident. If you're cutuup and she likes your body shell wanna bang you and will literally answer anything you ask sexually and sen all kinds of pics. The same stuff that creeps a girl out from a guy she not attracted to will turn her on if she is. You just have to convey to her that you're not nervous or afraid, and that you've done this before and you have chicks that you can bang if you're not banging her without sounding too into yourself or like a player. Chamces are if you come off that way they'll still wanna bang you, but just be careful. They will pickup all these vibes from you if you are blunt and bold, but smart and playful about it. And they will be begging to setup a fvck meet before they ever hear your voice

 

[Harry Wilmington]

First off, if they're hitting you up, that's always a good sign.

Me, I'm not a "first date" closer, but I'm great at second-date closing. For the first date, take them to a coffee shop/book store, or a mall where you can walk around. Really low-key, but if she's feeling you like that she won't care.

I usually see if there interest is there by messaging them online for a bit. The best way to see how open a girl is is to play the "20 Questions" game. You both get 20 questions, you ask her one first, then she ask you one, back and forth till you've asked all your questions. Doing this is a great way to get an idea of her personality, how far she'll usually go, what she's into... more importantly, though, it will make her feel like you already know her, so by the time you meet up she's not meeting up with a strange guy, but some guy she feels like she's known her whole life. Makes it much easier to bang them early on.

 

[incognito42]

Seems like a good strategy Harry, but not sure its good for what the op is looking for. Seems time consuming and tailored more for finding a long term gf.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Seems like a good strategy Harry, but not sure its good for what the op is looking for. Seems time consuming and tailored more for finding a long term gf.

Actually, it's a very good strategy for just that reason. Even if a girl is DTF for a first date, they still have the whole "don't wanna look like a slvt" factor going on in their head. In order for them to justify sleeping with you so soon, you have to give them the feeling that you know them inside and out, as if you've known her for a long time.

Even if dude doesn't plan on making her wifey or the gf, creating this feeling inside her - that she MIGHT have a chance at it because of her thinking you know her so well - is more apt to get her sleeping with you than if you just hit her up and say "sooooo.... wanna f--k tonight?"

I'm just going of what's worked for me, of course. I used this strategy one time to hook up with this hot half-asian half-black lawyer chick last year that I met on OK Cupid. After our first date, I didn't even have to set up a second date before she was calling me over her house to screw her brains out. Good, good times

 

[Naughty Ninja]

First off, if they're hitting you up, that's always a good sign.

Me, I'm not a "first date" closer, but I'm great at second-date closing. For the first date, take them to a coffee shop/book store, or a mall where you can walk around. Really low-key, but if she's feeling you like that she won't care.

I usually see if there interest is there by messaging them online for a bit. The best way to see how open a girl is is to play the "20 Questions" game. You both get 20 questions, you ask her one first, then she ask you one, back and forth till you've asked all your questions. Doing this is a great way to get an idea of her personality, how far she'll usually go, what she's into... more importantly, though, it will make her feel like you already know her, so by the time you meet up she's not meeting up with a strange guy, but some guy she feels like she's known her whole life. Makes it much easier to bang them early on.

Excellent POF/Online advice +1 rep.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

A lot of these chicks will put out on the first date if you follow naughty ninjas guidelines. Not even necessarily his guidelines, but the basic principals of his system. So if you're afraid of wasting time and effort, from my experience I've learned that you can usually cash in on the first date


Setting things up where you can be sure to get laid before ever meeting, or even talking to te chick on the phone is also very much possible. If you work out and are cut up and are willing to send a nude pic yourself, it can be really easy. You can be average looking and in good shape, I'm not saying you need to be the best looking guy around or have an enormous penis. Within a few texts you just say "send me a pic " and progress fom there. Send her one. Tell her to send another one. Just get more sexual from there, you have to gauge the chicks openness to be slvtty to decide how subtle to be. For the most part just be blunt and confident. If you're cutuup and she likes your body shell wanna bang you and will literally answer anything you ask sexually and sen all kinds of pics. The same stuff that creeps a girl out from a guy she not attracted to will turn her on if she is. You just have to convey to her that you're not nervous or afraid, and that you've done this before and you have chicks that you can bang if you're not banging her without sounding too into yourself or like a player. Chamces are if you come off that way they'll still wanna bang you, but just be careful. They will pickup all these vibes from you if you are blunt and bold, but smart and playful about it. And they will be begging to setup a fvck meet before they ever hear your voice

Incog has that POF shizz down. His reply should have it's own thread in the tips section. All you have to do is follow the original guideline and experiment and add your own flavor to it. Easy work.

 

[ARrocket]

First off, if they're hitting you up, that's always a good sign.

The best way to see how open a girl is is to play the "20 Questions" game. You both get 20 questions, you ask her one first, then she ask you one, back and forth till you've asked all your questions. Doing this is a great way to get an idea of her personality, how far she'll usually go, what she's into... more importantly, though, it will make her feel like you already know her, so by the time you meet up she's not meeting up with a strange guy, but some guy she feels like she's known her whole life.

Well then the obvious question arises...what do you tend to ask them?

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Holy crap, I didn't know someone had asked me a question since my last posting on this thread! I should really look through my inbox more often...

Anyway, to answer your question I start off with very safe questions and work my way towards the sexual ones. In the beginning, my goal is to ask questions that will get her to give me answers I can use later should we end up dating for a while. Things like "What's your favorite kind of flower" or "what 3 meals could you eat and never get tired of" - knowing the answers to these questions will come in handy on dates 4 or 5 when I take her to a restaurant with her favorite food, or on date 10 when I show up with her favorite flowers. You always want to throw in questions that will help you to impress her later on with your remembered knowledge.

Around question 9 or 11, I start throwing in a few sexual questions. Light stuff at first, like "what part of your body is the most sensitive" or "what kinds of kissing do you like, french or close-lipped?" Stuff that allows you to test the waters and see where she's at in terms of her comfort level with you. If she answers these questions without any kinds of hesitation words in her response, you can upgrade to stronger stuff; if she say "ooh, that's kind of personal" or "hmmm, I dunno..." it's her hint to you that she's not ready to go there.

Assuming she does answer the questions, though, I make questions 14, 15 and 19 sexual questions. It's important to spread out the sexual questions because you don't want her to think that's the only reason you're hitting her up. Yes, you want to have sex with her, but in order for her to feel that way she needs to think you want her as a whole person.

So yeah, I might ask something like "is there anything you don't like to do in bed" (i.e. looking to see what her limits are, if any) or "what's the weirdest place you've ever done it before?" These questions aren't too out there, but they also start making her associate YOU, HER, and SEX together. As long as she's able to see herself having sex with you, even hypothetical sex, its more likely she will let you into her velvet folds on the first or second date.

Hope this helps! Sorry for the delayed response!

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Too easy. Most girls online are DTF. That's why they are online. You only have to filter through the AW. That is easy to do. When you push for their number or to meet up if you already have their number, they will do one of two things:

1) Completely ignore your request and carry on the conversation as if they didn't see your request.

2) Make up an excuse to flake (without a FIRM counter offer) and then ask you what you're doing to carry on the conversation and get their attention fix.

When either #1 or #2 happens, drop her fully, completely.

 

[incognito42]

You give good advice and I can tell you're successful Harry, but I couldn't imagine asking a pof chick 20 questions or going on 10 or even 5 dates. Again, really solid advice that you give but I wouldn't take 1 pof chick on 5 dates I'd rather take 5 chicks on 1 date each and likely bang 4 of them. Then again I guess it just depends on what kind of girl or relationship you're looking for

 

[Harry Wilmington]

You give good advice and I can tell you're successful Harry, but I couldn't imagine asking a pof chick 20 questions or going on 10 or even 5 dates. Again, really solid advice that you give but I wouldn't take 1 pof chick on 5 dates I'd rather take 5 chicks on 1 date each and likely bang 4 of them. Then again I guess it just depends on what kind of girl or relationship you're looking for

This is true. As much as I like having sex, I also want a relationship and prefer to do it with someone I'm in a long-term situation with. So, the questions I ask are meant to seek out these types of girls. Do they always end up being long-termers? Eh, not always - but still, it at least gets me to that first or second date bang session. Plus, I've had a few girls I've met online that resulted in dating relationships that lasted a while (including the one I'm in now), so there can definitely be a payoff if you play it right.