Guys I am 24 and I see alot of hot girls on campus walking around but none of them ever end up in my class.
I go to a commuter school, so there are no greek life. I also dont have a dorm that people live in together that makes it easier to meet people.
What am I supposed to do, to approach these woman that I see on campus.
I went to a commuter school for a few years. Women on these campuses do tend to have a closed-minded mentality were they are less likely than girls are more traditional college communities to be open to random approaches. They are also more likely to have a boyfriend who they have been with since high school who's some loser who's failing out of trade school. Luckily, in my case, I was already a seasoned DJ so I could pick up on glances and other invitations from random girls in class or walking around. But I mainly met girls through building my social circle and being more outgoing and adventurous.
What I would recommend to you would be to join some student organizations, either things you are already interested or things you could see yourself getting into. Really what you should focus on is what you find interesting, and hopefully there are also women that are involved with the same thing. Make sure not to make it obvious that you're there just to pick up chicks so you don't become "that guy".
You could also consider picking up a job on campus that will give you a social circle where you can meet more girls.
Beyond those two options, you could perhaps work on going to a more traditional college.
I have lots of hangups about my looks, my race, and what I just have to say in general.
Work on getting over them.
All the things that hold me back from approaching women on campus
1. I am brown skinned and white girls will hold that against me
I'm brown skinned too and I've hooked up with plenty of white girls. I believe it's a bit easier to get with girls my (your) own race, but you're pedestalizing these white girls. What I've observed is that it turns off many average suburban white girls when you seem "foreign" or "alien" so you will want to work on being more Americanized. It will really help you if you are well-spoken and (somewhat) fashionably dressed. Think of how Americanized Harold and Kumar act in their movies (especially Kumar). That's roughly what to shoot for.
I also think that it's important for you to be aware that there are a fair amount (I'd say maybe 10-20 percent, but I grew up in a racist fucking state) of white girls who honestly do not care what race you are, as long as you are a cool guy. Be aware that there are also women out there that will only be interested in you because you are exotic and "taboo".
2. I am skinny and girls in general will hold that against me
Better than being fat, right? You could probably work on developing an athletic soccer player type of build, which women almost universally find attractive. Talk to the Health and Fitness Forum guys on here.
3. I dont speak clearly and people have a hard time understanding what I have to say
This is something you WILL have to work on. Not sure what the best route for that would be, but it would probably be worth your while to take a speech course (might be some cute girls in it; women love taking communications classes).
I don't know if you are foreign, but if you are you should check and see if there are any ESL or speaking workshops offered by your campus to help you work on speaking English more clearly and naturally. My school offered these types of workshops and tutoring for free, but not very many people were aware of these programs.
4. I am not as interesting and unique like the people that I have seen around me, and they wont like what I have to say.
How could you possibly know how "interesting and unique" these other people are than you? I bet any money that you have more interesting hobbies and interests than your average hot bimbo that you meet on campus who's life revolves around partying, "meeting hot guyz" and watching MTV. Young women's hobbies, for the most part, are vapid and boring.
One of my good friends, who is a natural, explains that most of the women in his life were drawn to him due to his lifestyle. He skateboards, snowboards, climbs mountains, and generally stays active like that. He tells me that women need a man who can bring excitement and new opportunities into their lives.
What do you have to offer women that would make them excited to be with you? The opportunities are limited only by your drives and creativity.
How am I supposed to approach women on campus and talk to them, when I feel all these limiting beliefs.
Eliminate the limiting beliefs through acknowledging reality and then putting in hard work to make yourself a more desirable man.
I am scared of approaching a woman for example sitting by herself on a bench.
She might think I am a creep or a loser, or she may not find me funny.
How do you break this wall down
Don't worry about it man. There are plenty of fish in the sea. We have all had to take our hard knocks and failures to become the men we are today.
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