Sarging rebound girl.

[horaholic]

I tried to search for threads in this area, and couldnt find what I was looking for. What are things to say or do to game a very recently single chick?

I dont know this chick. I've only met her once, but she s hot and a massuese, and just became available. A chick I know is trying to hook it up, and shes not stupid about the game. I heard her friend crying to her on the phone about seeing her ex with some 18 year old stripper, blah, blah, drama.

What are some good ways to counteract the "Im not ready" habitual bullshyt excuse that I will probably hear. Keep in mind, Im JUST TRYING TO GET LAID!!! (not that I'm opposed to more) My chick friend seems to think she's on the rebound prowl.

Should I pull the "Yeah, Im not really ready either after me and my model GF had to split up, and theres no pressure, but I think me and you could temporarily help each other out" ?

Got anything better?
What do you all think?

 

[jophil28]

I tried to search for threads in this area, and couldnt find what I was looking for. What are things to say or do to game a very recently single chick?

Recently "single again" women are problematic in that they rarely want
anything more that a transitional realtionship with a chump who fawns and worships her and in so doing feeds her need to repair her ego and validate her. Her primary need for several months is to restore her belief in her 'market value' and she will use and exploit any guy who pursues her, to that end.
Hence, beware of becoming "rebound guy ."

If you just want sex, the your best chance with this kind of woman is NOT to be a DJ. A strong, confident guy is the last thing that she wants right now. He is too confronting and too threatening. She wants a "nice" guy who makes her FEEL warm and desired and valuable UNTIL the BBD comes along, OR she returns to the ex..
You cannot afford to develop feelings for these women . They are all about THEIR emotional needs AT YOUR EXPENSE. IF you even suspect that you may want her to be more than a FB, do not start this rolling.

I call these women "Category 1 " women - women who are separating or recently broken up with their husbands or LTR boyfriends and have not been single for at least a year.. I do not date any woman who is still attached physically or emotionally to the live remains of her previous disaster.

 

[horaholic]

Thank you. I understand exactly what you're saying.

I'm wondering how to be just nice and warm enough to break the man-hate sheild, yet demonstrate that "hey, I can make you feel a whole lot better... for the night, anyway"

I've been recent-rebound guy before, but the chick unexpectedly threw herself at me, and we had a ONS. Theres been a couple other times where I was more the 'pursuer,' but the chicks AW's me, and I didn't close the deal.

I only develop emotions if I've been gaming the chick for a while, or we fvck a bunch of times. If I keep it a ONS or fvck VERY infrequently, I'm fine. I dont know the first thing about this chick, but me and the chick who's setting this up, spent a weekend together, nothing more, but we bonded, still flirt with each other, but it's casual. So, I told her to be my wing-woman, cuz she knows tons of hot chicks, including strippers. She was stoked on the idea. She wants to 'test her skills.' I trust her to be a good pivot, lets put it that way.

Is it a good idea to act disinterested, then let her 'win' me over? If she's vulnerable, it sounds like a good idea to me.

Another Question; If she starts talking about ex, should I let her vent or change the subject?

 

[horaholic]

anyone else?

 

[Colossus]

I tried to search for threads in this area, and couldnt find what I was looking for. What are things to say or do to game a very recently single chick?

Nothing. This is rarely, if ever, a wise use of your time. It is possible to get 'rebound sex', but that's really a matter of being the right guy at the right time. If you find yourself in that position, dont push it...at all.

 

[jophil28]

Nothing. This is rarely, if ever, a wise use of your time. It is possible to get 'rebound sex', but that's really a matter of being the right guy at the right time. If you find yourself in that position, dont push it...at all.

Women who are stiil hurt from a recent breakup are a 'project' if you take them on. I agree that this 'project' is a poor use of your time.
Women in the " breakup" mindset are highly unstable ( I have seen them run back to their ex two minutes after telling the whole bar how much she hates him)
However, if you insist in pursuing her for a quickie then you need to be 'human chocolate' to her. Be sweet and understanding and comforting with a just a dash of testosterone thrown in. BE 'there for her' and, at the same time, slowly escalate your advance. Alternatively take her out for dinner and get her REAL drunk... she will either fvck you or cry all night in your bed, or both.. If you do have her, then expect her to turn against you the next day with anger and regret...
These scenarios are a frequent theme in movie but real life rarely goes the same way.

 

[horaholic]

Human chocolate! I like that.

Im not gonna put any effort into this. Im just asking in case this chick pops up one night or something. For all I know, she might be looking to get laid right now. I live in a slutty town, and chicks here are extra slutty, so I might as well take advantage of it. Not too much 'dating' here. Its just hang out, hang a few drinks and fvck, or dont.

 

[Jeffst1980]

Jophil is right about rebound girls' aversions to DJs. They will usually go for guys that they KNOW they will have the upper hand with beyond a shadow of a doubt. They will often act VERY high interest--to the point of caricature. Usually, they WILL sleep with the rebound guy pretty quickly. Then, they will dictate the speed of the non-relationship by constantly letting you know they need to "take it slow and think things through." Then they will dump you and stop talking to you altogether.

You can pretend to be a typical AFC and maybe bang this girl, but you need to decide if it's worth it. It's only sex, and your ego is going to cause you to hang on too long instead of ejecting right away. Also, over time you can't help but compare yourself to the ex, and the ex will win with her, every time. Then, when you get dumped you will feel hurt and used.

AFC's think that what the girl does in a rebound relationship is pretty cold, but from the girl's perspective, it isn't, really. To her, she did what she needed to do, and the AFC got some well-deserved no-strings-attached pvssy and an ego boost--what guy doesn't love that? Unfortunately, in the end, guys dislike being used just as much as girls do.

Hooking up with this girl more than one time is a recipe for disaster. Keep it sleazy, in this case!

 

[jophil28]

Women who are stiil hurt from a recent breakup are a 'project' if you take them on. I agree that this 'project' is a poor use of your time.
Women in the " breakup" mindset are highly unstable ( I have seen them run back to their ex two minutes after telling the whole bar how much she hates him)
However, if you insist in pursuing her for a quickie then you need to be 'human chocolate' to her. Be sweet and understanding and comforting with a just a dash of testosterone thrown in. BE 'there for her' and, at the same time, slowly escalate your advance. Alternatively take her out for dinner and get her REAL drunk... she will either fvck you or cry all night in your bed, or both.. If you do have her, then expect her to turn against you the next day with anger and regret...
These scenarios are a frequent theme in those chica movies, but real life rarely goes the same way.

I regret writing the above somewhat. I am not promoting the tactics above nor do I endorse them. I offered them as a reply to your post only. Do with them what you will .I pulled these stunts once with a woman who was sad and grieving, and we did the nasty thing.
I regretted it later, and she was as mad as a hornet when she sobered up.

Exploiting a woman in "breakup " mode is manipulating the injured.
A similar parallel in reverse would be a golddigger who used a newly separated AFC for free dinners and gifts.

Not proud or decent behavior in either case.

 

[horaholic]

I would never take advantage of, or manipulate a chick just for sex. I'm no good at that stuff anyway. I just throw my hook out and see if she bites. I've missed out on a lot of sex by not being aggressive enough. When I sex up a chick, it's a mutually benifiical deal, and I've never had a chick regret it.

Theres a guy in my circle who is a natural dj, and bangs almost every girl around. I've literally seen three girls fighting over him while he was so wasted he probably couldnt get it up, and with puke on his shirt! It blows my mind! If a girl is rejecting him, he just keeps at it and hounds her and hounds until she finally caves in, like "fine, I'll fvck you, just leave me alone." I dont agree with that at all, and I refuse to work like that.

I appreciate the advice guys, and I wont abuse it.

 

[Nelford]

Jophil is right about rebound girls' aversions to DJs. They will usually go for guys that they KNOW they will have the upper hand with beyond a shadow of a doubt. They will often act VERY high interest--to the point of caricature. Usually, they WILL sleep with the rebound guy pretty quickly. Then, they will dictate the speed of the non-relationship by constantly letting you know they need to "take it slow and think things through." Then they will dump you and stop talking to you altogether.

You can pretend to be a typical AFC and maybe bang this girl, but you need to decide if it's worth it. It's only sex, and your ego is going to cause you to hang on too long instead of ejecting right away. Also, over time you can't help but compare yourself to the ex, and the ex will win with her, every time. Then, when you get dumped you will feel hurt and used.

AFC's think that what the girl does in a rebound relationship is pretty cold, but from the girl's perspective, it isn't, really. To her, she did what she needed to do, and the AFC got some well-deserved no-strings-attached pvssy and an ego boost--what guy doesn't love that? Unfortunately, in the end, guys dislike being used just as much as girls do.

Hooking up with this girl more than one time is a recipe for disaster. Keep it sleazy, in this case!

Funny you mention this because I was dealing with this girl that just got out of a relationship and she was calling and texting me non-stop. Then she started in with the pillow talk. What really got me laughing was that she would some how sneak in that she want to take things slow. I never called the girl or text her and she got my number from one of my female friends.

All she would talk about was her ex on how he did her wrong. I found out from my female friend that they both cheated on each other and she move out because she couldn't handle the fact that he was spining plates too.

Guest what, out of blue the girl stops calling and texting cold turkey. I seen her last Saturday at a Lounge and I ignore her the whole night by dancing a chopping up game with other girls. I left the lounge around 2:30am and about 2:45am she called and ask did I get home ok and started rambling about her ex. At this point I am two shades in the wind and the only thing on my mind was putting her face in a pillow. I cut her conversation short about the ex and got off the phone. She called back but I sent that BS to my answering machine.

To the OP don't waste your time. They will play you...

 

[horaholic]

They will play me??? I dont think so, but thanks for the laugh! I actually saw this chick yesterday, and in the middle of our conversation, another girl I've been working on cut in right between us, to talk to me. That was pretty cool. Turns out this chick dumped the dude over a month ago, and she seems OK with it. Not relationship material though, cuz she is a masseusse at a strip club and works all night long, which could be fun for a minute, but nothing lasting.

 

[Pickupmilitia]

I can't believe how AFC some of these posts are..... Saying you can't just use a rebound 4sex cause you will lose out to her boyfriend and it will sting lol.... Sounds like you need to read the DJ Bible cause women are the one's that can't seperate sex from emotions. Men can!