sad. ;'<

[cA^]

Hey guys,

following on from this thread...

I asked her out on 2 days ago (Wednesday) and she responded by saying she still isnt completly over her ex bf. I thought fair enough, because they were going out for something like a year and a half and they have been split up for about a month, hence i thought that was enough time but meh. So on this, my question is : do i still go after her? I mean, shes a pretty good girl and all, my type, lives near me etc. so i'd like to go out with her, however since she still says she needs more time to get over her ex etc. the thing is, she tells me he is a loser, however she says that she still wants to be friends with him. and i was talking to her friend about her, and she must have told her friend to tell me 'you would have to understand that they would still be good friends if you go out with her'. anywho with that being said, i was a little skeptical (See the link at the start of this post) as when couples break up, if there is any contact (esp. "good friends") then there is a good chance she hasnt and wont get over him? which leads me to my next point : she says that she wouldnt be going over to his house for tea, or seeing him etc. however i was afk on my comp, got a message (msn messenger) saying hi etc. then cause i was afk she was offline by the time i got back to my comp, her ex bf (yes the prick had the nerve to add me) signs in and starts talking to me and i just 'what', then he signed off and she signed back on again, and she starts off with '???' and i just said 'i was afk outside' and she goes 'ok' and went off line, then after she went offline her ex bf signed back in again...
im not a dumb **** so i assume she is at his house again, and got him to sign in to see if i was away or just not talking to her?
so she has told me they wernt going to see eachother but now shes currrently at his house?
i'm pretty sure im going to look elsewhere, ill be doing some reading this weekend as there is a girl that id like to introduce myself to etc. on monday, so if i read up on the tips etc. it should be all good.
but just asking, you guys think i should look elsewhere and just be friends with this girl, or persist and wait for her to 'get over' her ex bf, even though she is seeing him when she told me she wasnt. because i think its time to move on;my opinion has changed alot now :| NEXT time for me?

cheers

 

[cA^]

C'mon guys, I need some confirmation/advice/help here! !

 

[JonJack]

Why would persisting be a good choice? Unless she thinks that you should be "faithful" to her during her period of "soul searching", I don't see anything wrong with going out with other chicks while still holding the possibility that the two of you could get together. The goal is to get a girl or to get this one girl?

 

[cA^]

Before this stuff with her boyfriend happened, I would have loved to go out with her; but seeing as she basicallly lied to me and told me she wasnt going to see him, when she is? all doesnt make sense.

and yes i DONT need to be faithful to her during this time, thankyou ! that is what i needed to hear. ill just stay friends and wait for her to come onto me, if she does or not.

 

[cA^]

anyone else got any advice?!

 

[ReT]

Wow man, well sounds like both the girl and her ex bf are kinda playing headgames with you, if you feel confident enough, consider what I say below. If I were you break contact with her for a while, but if you truely are infatuated with this chick.. Then look below. I hope this helps man. I call woman the Devil lol.

- Refuring to your last thread

lol man, this sounds just like some of my past situations. Bro, you're being desperate for her. Best thing to do right now honestly since you're kinda holding some cards, avoid talking to her like you're very busy. She's using you as a backup, the ex-boyfriend when he's around especially at her house.. who knows what they're doing.

I know this might hurt to be saying this.. but it's the truth... Girls lie a lot, allthough she might see him as someone who she won't have a relationship with, she still talks to him and who knows what they do "together". If this kid goes to the same college as you, and you feel pretty confident, if you see them together, go up infront of them, be like hey "whatever her name is" What's up, what're you doing friday night? I've been busy, but would you like to do such and such? Not only will the other guy be pist off, she will find it flattering, and see you're not an AFC but a guy with big balls looking to get with her, slapping that guy in the face saying yeah I like your ex gf.

Woman love to play headgames man, I know I could tell you not to stress about it, but it's difficult. If she has any hottie friends, and you flirt with them, it will make her jelious she will also realize she needs to do something about that. This is just my opinion from personal experiances.

GL bud.

 

[Slickster]

anyone else got any advice?!

Yes.

You are too focused on this chick. She has issues at the moment and all signs are saying that her interest in you is currently low.

She should go to the bottom of your list of "potentials". You should be getting out there and meeting all kinds of new women to get your head in the right frame.

You see when you have many "potentials" or options on your list then you don't get caught in situations like this. You don't let one chick ruffle your feathers because you realize there are so many others. Ironically this attitude attracts more and more women.

I'm not saying to "next" her completely. Just don't let her be your main focus.

Good luck.

 

[cA^]

Hey Slickster \ RaT :

Thanks heaps for taking the time to reply to my situation. I figured that I should do something like that (try not and talk to her much), and I wasnt sure if I should be seen with other girls when see is around. lol speaking of that, I was walking down to the gym with this hot blonde (we are friends), and she wouldnt have known who she was, she is about a 8.5 and i could almost feel her eyes on the back of my neck haha cause i know she was watching me :]
There is 1 problem; we catch the same bus. so it will look pretty mean\weird\!? as i usually go up and chat to her before we get on the bus, then sit with her when we get on the bus, and the trip lasts for about 45mins. Only 5 or so other people catch this bus; so my question is : would it look like im snobbing\hate her if i dont go up and talk to her in the morning and give her the cold shoulder on the bus, not sit with her on the bus? because i dont want to burn all bridges with her etc. so what would u guys do?

thx again for taking the time to reply and give me advice

 

[cA^]

Need some advice before tomorrow guys! D:

 

[HeartlessBtch]

isnt this supposed to be in the highschool forum?

 

[cA^]

I figured it would get more coverage in this forum? And im not really in high school anywho.

 

[themanwithnoname]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/forumdisplay.php?s=&forumid=16

If you're not 20, please go there.

 

[cA^]

Update

Well i sat with her this morning however we hardly spoke, and when she did, she told me about her weekend (I asked) and how she was at her dads, and blah blah HER EX FKING BF! so yea when I heard that I was like ? because you dont talk about another guy to the guy thats interested in you? yea so when she started saying that stuff about him (he took my dad out and picked him up blah blah) i gathered it was over. then she sent me a txt msg at lunch saying why are u in a **** with me, i just replied ' just some stuff, nothing to do with u'
anywho on the bus this afternoon i sat in front of her lol, i know she was cut up about it, and when we got off the bus i just made small talk and she comes out and goes wtfs your prob etc. i said ive just got some stuff going on, nothing to do with you...and she goes i dont belive u.... lol
i think its NEXT! time :-] ?


Any advice\pointers please, and plz confirm that it's "next" time :]

 

[cA^]

Well she just told me on msn that she is 'kinda' back with her ex boyfriend.

I feel like i'm having a conversation with myself here guys >:{

 

[spider_007]

I don't get why guys always make things complicated. Eather she digs you or not. And if she does "dig" you; is she awailable? By that I mean, Are there current b/f or ex b/f, or emotional problems with men in general (is she a psycho)....If she is awailable, then it's easey sailing. IF SHE IS NOT, then you have to decide; -do you want her as friends, and if you do can you live with talking to her every day with out getting emotionally involved (ointies). Can you handle her talking about other guys? does she still give you butterfiles?
-If you cant take any of the obove, then just COOL OFF. TALK TO HER LESS AND LESS, untill she becomes just another person you know. Cut all contact gradually. If you do it all at once, her biaching and moaning will scare away any other potentials....