Rude Woman At Bars - How do Deal ?

[englishcrap]

I was standing at the bar last night waiting to order a drink and this girl (she was pretty hot) , walked up next to me and ordered a drink. I said "Excuse me" and smiled ". She turned to me and straight away and said "Are you accusing me of pushing in". I had a mental block and didnt know how to respond. So I just ignored her and turned back waiting for my drink.

The bar was pretty crowded so I turned to this other girl and was about to open my mouth she replied "No I am not going to buy you a drink just wait your turn !" again that was a second shut down within 30 seconds. Again I just rolled my eyes and ignored her

For me it didnt matter, because I am use to it now. My question is could I have handled the situation better ? How would you have handled this ?

 

[Disturbed]

You are such a dumbass!!! you don't realize that these women were coming on to you.

If she was not interested, she would'nt have given you the time of day. She interacted with you hoping that you will respond and get it on with her.

Below i present some clever responses to her rash statements:

"Are you accusing me of pushing in"

Yes as a matter of fact I am, I have been saving this spot for somebody special. How rude of you to just barge in?

"No I am not going to buy you a drink just wait your turn !"

I would not have trusted your judgement in drinks anyway.

OR

Don't think that I'm easy to pull. You got to do more than buy me drinks in order to get with me.


These responses trigger further responses from her effectively creating an interesting conversation between you and her.

By not responding, her initial hunches that you were an interesting guy will have evaporated.

 

[englishcrap]

Your absolutely right..I am a dumb ass, how could I be so stupid

Originally posted by Disturbed
You are such a dumbass!!! you don't realize that these women were coming on to you.

If she was not interested, she would'nt have given you the time of day. She interacted with you hoping that you will respond and get it on with her.

Below i present some clever responses to her rash statements:

"Are you accusing me of pushing in"

Yes as a matter of fact I am, I have been saving this spot for somebody special. How rude of you to just barge in?

"No I am not going to buy you a drink just wait your turn !"

I would not have trusted your judgement in drinks anyway.

OR

Don't think that I'm easy to pull. You got to do more than buy me drinks in order to get with me.


These responses trigger further responses from her effectively creating an interesting conversation between you and her.

By not responding, her initial hunches that you were an interesting guy will have evaporated.

 

[xhikari]

ah well it happens man
couple of years ago i missed out my chances in the same way too.
in a prom night of of nowhere a girl(really hot) who i was introduced to much earlier just popped out and asked me "Are you talkin to me?"
and i was pretty dumb back then sayin "no i was not talkin to u"
she still tried a couple more times and finnaly gave up......my loss!!!
but we'll learn out of those...i learnt my lesson...i guess u learnt it too now

 

[skeeloo]

or it could just be they were just plain rude.

 

[TheRelic]

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[TheRelic]

Originally posted by Disturbed
You are such a dumbass!!! you don't realize that these women were coming on to you.

If she was not interested, she would'nt have given you the time of day. She interacted with you hoping that you will respond and get it on with her.

Below i present some clever responses to her rash statements:

"Are you accusing me of pushing in"

Yes as a matter of fact I am, I have been saving this spot for somebody special. How rude of you to just barge in?

"No I am not going to buy you a drink just wait your turn !"

I would not have trusted your judgement in drinks anyway.

OR

Don't think that I'm easy to pull. You got to do more than buy me drinks in order to get with me.


These responses trigger further responses from her effectively creating an interesting conversation between you and her.

By not responding, her initial hunches that you were an interesting guy will have evaporated.

twit

yeah, sounds like they were just stuck up.

 

[Sart]

NO!!!!!!!

Having read Englishcraps stuff before, YES, you are a dumbass, but you are an even bigger dumbass if you think they were interested. Englishcrap, You need to show yourself here, you are either profoundly unnatractive or a little geeky and trying too hard.

I remember two fat chicks turned you down. Bit of advice: If you are going to the same clubs/bars, move on, you already have a rep and it aint a good one. Find another watering hole and STOP TRYING SO HARD.

Good luck to you, I think you can get where you want in time, just be willing to play your strengths, develop some.

 

[DJDamage]

I have a friend who never allows a woman to disrespect him

One time me and him were walking in a crowded club near the bar and we accidently bumped into 3 other chicks trying to pass through.

One of the chicks turns to her friend and with a rude tone of voice she said: "Some people should get out of the way and watch were they are going!"

So my friend turns to her and had a c0cky smile on his face and said: "Maybe you should go around next time it will save you some time and trouble"

Her: (Responding to him with Anger) "Fvck you!" (walking away past us fast with her 2 girlfriends)

Him: (Still with a c0cky smile on his face) Nooo Fvck YOUuuuu! yeah yeah I got your number, you will be sucking my c0ck later on backstage.

Needless to say a few HB's who were sitting by the bar saw the whole thing and cheered my friend and went up to us and start having conversation with him about the rude girls.

The REASON: He Showed that he will not be pushed around and he got the balls and the attitude not to be disrespected in public by a couple of rude women. He was never phased by their actions or by their words, he kept a lighthearted confident fun composure all along. He was amused by them not angry.

When you stand up for something especially yourself, people take notice and respect you ever more, which will elevate your social statues and increase the interest level of other women

 

[Royal Elite]

Re: NO!!!!!!!

Originally posted by Sart
Having read Englishcraps stuff before, YES, you are a dumbass, but you are an even bigger dumbass if you think they were interested. Englishcrap, You need to show yourself here, you are either profoundly unnatractive or a little geeky and trying too hard.

I remember two fat chicks turned you down. Bit of advice: If you are going to the same clubs/bars, move on, you already have a rep and it aint a good one. Find another watering hole and STOP TRYING SO HARD.

Good luck to you, I think you can get where you want in time, just be willing to play your strengths, develop some.

SArt
This is self consciousness at its best. YOu really think that every girl in the club knows who EC is. You really believe that every woman from now until eternity will turn him down because two other fat chicks turned him down. Sart-unless you are famous not to many of us are the center of the universe in our towns.

EC this does seem like they were interested in you, but this situation is written in stone it cant be changed. learn and prepare for the next time it happen.

 

[pootwo]

Originally posted by englishcrap
I was standing at the bar last night waiting to order a drink and this girl (she was pretty hot) , walked up next to me and ordered a drink. I said "Excuse me" and smiled ". She turned to me and straight away and said "Are you accusing me of pushing in". I had a mental block and didnt know how to respond. So I just ignored her and turned back waiting for my drink.

The bar was pretty crowded so I turned to this other girl and was about to open my mouth she replied "No I am not going to buy you a drink just wait your turn !" again that was a second shut down within 30 seconds. Again I just rolled my eyes and ignored her

For me it didnt matter, because I am use to it now. My question is could I have handled the situation better ? How would you have handled this ?

Hey. I've been clubbing for years now, & i was pretty hardcore at it a while back. & i can tell you in all likely-hood.. these girls were NOT trying to pick you up.

You know what the ques for the bar are like. It's usually packed & everyone there is fighting for the attention of the barstaff.. not anyone in the que. It's survival of the fittest in this enviroment. People want to get served asap.

& i don't want to seem sexist.. but women are VERY devious & cold hearted here. They will fight their way to the front, either by finding someone they (hardly) know, or flirting with (gulible) people in the que (to get in front of them, maybe even get their drinks bought FOR them! - i've this done!!), or they'll rudely push in. & because they are a good looking woman.. they can get away with it!

Anyway, i'll stop ranting. You could have flirted playfully maybe, just for the fun of it.. but don't beat yourself up about it.

 

[englishcrap]

Re: NO!!!!!!!

Sart,

To be honest I am still learning when it comes to the game in the bar scene. Its a area I want to get better at. On the other side of the coin I have had much better success rate at picking up women doing cold approaches, coffee shops, shopping centres, trains etc.

Originally posted by Sart
Having read Englishcraps stuff before, YES, you are a dumbass, but you are an even bigger dumbass if you think they were interested. Englishcrap, You need to show yourself here, you are either profoundly unnatractive or a little geeky and trying too hard.

I remember two fat chicks turned you down. Bit of advice: If you are going to the same clubs/bars, move on, you already have a rep and it aint a good one. Find another watering hole and STOP TRYING SO HARD.

Good luck to you, I think you can get where you want in time, just be willing to play your strengths, develop some.

 

[Albion4]

Originally posted by englishcrap
I was standing at the bar last night waiting to order a drink and this girl (she was pretty hot) , walked up next to me and ordered a drink. I said "Excuse me" and smiled ". She turned to me and straight away and said "Are you accusing me of pushing in". I had a mental block and didnt know how to respond. So I just ignored her and turned back waiting for my drink.

The bar was pretty crowded so I turned to this other girl and was about to open my mouth she replied "No I am not going to buy you a drink just wait your turn !" again that was a second shut down within 30 seconds. Again I just rolled my eyes and ignored her

For me it didnt matter, because I am use to it now. My question is could I have handled the situation better ? How would you have handled this ?

There's a great solution to this problem on one of DeAngelo's tapes and it goes something like this...

"I don't know about your's, but on my planet the rules of etiquite and protocol are unquestionable. Just because your mother failed to aquaint you with the precepts of Emily Wood's book on Etiquite doesn't mean that I have to suffer because of it."

-Al

 

[Wyldfire]

No, they weren't hitting on him...they were rude, likely out of frustration over waiting in line to get a drink. Bar lines are like doing battle for the last parking spot in a crowded lot. Stress is high, people are on edge and it brings out people's bad behavior.

In that situation I would have said to the first girl, "Yeah, I think you're trying to cut ahead of me, but if more alcohol will make you less rude and more pleasant..then by all means...go ahead."

The second girl you should have said, "oh no...I wouldn't dream of asking you to get a drink for me. I was just going to tell you that this girl who just cut in front of me told me you had a fat ass and was ugly."

Then when they start fighting, just step to the front and get your drink. Problem solved.

 

[Fatality]

Originally posted by englishcrap
I was standing at the bar last night waiting to order a drink and this girl (she was pretty hot) , walked up next to me and ordered a drink. I said "Excuse me" and smiled ". She turned to me and straight away and said "Are you accusing me of pushing in". I had a mental block and didnt know how to respond. So I just ignored her and turned back waiting for my drink.

The bar was pretty crowded so I turned to this other girl and was about to open my mouth she replied "No I am not going to buy you a drink just wait your turn !" again that was a second shut down within 30 seconds. Again I just rolled my eyes and ignored her

For me it didnt matter, because I am use to it now. My question is could I have handled the situation better ? How would you have handled this ?

What were there facial expressions like?

 

[englishcrap]

Re: Re: Rude Woman At Bars - How do Deal ?

I was rather drunk to be honest . She came across as a bit pissed off..well its all part of the learning curve. Thanks everyone for your contributions.

Originally posted by Fatality
What were there facial expressions like?

 

[K B]

The first mistake was going to a bar. Women there are no good.

Don't listen to these other guys in here. You did nothing wrong, those girls just had major attitude and were typical man-haters. I wouldn't waste my time. I mean, she is at a BAR. What does a woman EXPECT when she goes to a bar or club?

Interested? I don't think so buddy. It takes a screwed up person to be mean to somebody to show their interest. I bet if Brad Pitt were in your place, she wouldn't have pulled that crap. Girls like that need to be put in their place.

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by K B
The first mistake was going to a bar. Women there are no good.

Don't listen to these other guys in here. You did nothing wrong, those girls just had major attitude and were typical man-haters. I wouldn't waste my time. I mean, she is at a BAR. What does a woman EXPECT when she goes to a bar or club?

Interested? I don't think so buddy. It takes a screwed up person to be mean to somebody to show their interest. I bet if Brad Pitt were in your place, she wouldn't have pulled that crap. Girls like that need to be put in their place.

KB...pardon me for pointing this out...but those women were sellf-centered biotchy women...and that is just what your girlfriend you're complaining about in another thread is going to grow up to be. Guys are attracted to the high maintenance biotchy drama queens. If they weren't then this forum would have no members.

 

[Fatality]

Originally posted by Wyldfire
\ Guys are attracted to the high maintenance biotchy drama queens.

Guys are attracted to girls that look good. It just so happens that every girl that looks good posseses the qualities you listed.

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by Fatality
Guys are attracted to girls that look good. It just so happens that every girl that looks good posseses the qualities you listed.

Not so...there are plenty of girls and women who look good who don't come with headaches and drama. Guys are just attracted to the drama queen biotchy women just like girls are attracted to arseholes. As men and women get older they outgrow that, though.