"Romance" as part of your (LTR) game?

[RZA26]

Everyone says "be confident...women love a confident guy, an alpha male". I wont argue with that as obviously its a turn on for most chicks.

However, I think you can only go so far with it, if youre not naturally confident in any situation. In many situations, I am confident and wont mind shwing it (knowing its attractive to chicks)....

however, I dont feel or have any plans of acting confident in situations where I'm not confident (when dealing with a girl I consider a potential g/f not a fling). For example, I am somewhat of a hypochondriac having had some bad health issues in the past. Being confident would mean hiding that/pretending it doesnt bother me, at all. Not really what I'd want to do in an LTR....

How about the whole romance/gentleman thing, though? Does anyone use this as part of their LTR-game (in combination with still being a man, not a wussy of course...)?

 

[Captain]

Buddy you're a bit mixed up.

however, I dont feel or have any plans of acting confident in situations where I'm not confident (when dealing with a girl I consider a potential g/f not a fling).

Being romantic doesn't mean being a wussy, or not confident, or a b!tch.

For example, I am somewhat of a hypochondriac having had some bad health issues in the past. Being confident would mean hiding that/pretending it doesnt bother me, at all. Not really what I'd want to do in an LTR....

Want someone to talk to about your issues? Find a doctor or a therapist. You want to keep your woman? You keep these things from her. It's just how the game works.

 

[zekko]

Want someone to talk to about your issues? Find a doctor or a therapist. You want to keep your woman? You keep these things from her. It's just how the game works.

I don't think you necessarily have to keep that stuff from her, but you definitely don't want to whine to her about it. Generally speaking, it's always best to portray yourself to be as strong as you can.

As for romance, I have no doubt that guys can incorporate romance into a strong LTR game, or even a strong short term game. However, I have to admit I haven't gone this route for a very long time, and I don't seem to be any worse off for it. In fact, I seem to be doing better. A lot of romance is just stuff that Hallmark sells to you to keep themselves in business.