I have a question about tomassis book maybe some of you know the answer.
He said its better to give hints about your life than to just tell her directly. For example saying that your long hours of studying are making you tired instead of saying that you are becoming a doctor (because it will appeal like you are trying to impress her). But how should i give breadcrumbs if she asks direct questions like: whats your job? what are your goals? What is the correct answer for this
I think it is good advice - but the sort of thing you don't have to take 100% dogmatically.
Like if she asks you a direct question - I'd say you can answer it.
IMO -
Alluding to things - in a very non obvious way (basically a vibe like you don't care enough to try and impress/ describe yourself )
can be bait to get her to ask you a question.
Then - for the question answer I'd have a GOOD but short answer.
IMO - the goofy answers to direct questions is kind of played out/ button pushing game.
I'd say just answer, but don't over invest in the answer.
Example :
I'll be chatting with a girl in daygame. Then if she asks what I am up to say "just finished a work thing" NOT " OH I did this work thign that was this and that and this and that" ( needy )
Then if she asks what I do I'll say "sales". She'll normally ask what kind and I'll say
"mostly real estate" and leave it at that. So I don't totally evade but don't over invest.
Basically the underlying principle of this is not qualifying yourself - if you give a long explained answer it can sound less secure.
Like - my multimillionaire mentor ( a real person he was a judge in a contest, not some online bs guru) if people ask what he does he won't give them a 5 minute pitch basically seeling himself. He'd probably say something like " oh a bit of consulting and investing" ( he has started and sold several businesses and is part of a prestigious investment group) - from the confidence and assuredness in his answer though - you could tell he is legit/ knows his stuff