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Don Juan
- Joined
- Jan 12, 2008
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- 12
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I joined this forum for tips about improving myself, my body and my mind. And to overcome Approach Anxiety. Obviously I place woman I don't know on a pedestal (hence AA), but no one I've met remains there for long. This just makes meeting new people hard, and I'm working on this by meeting as many people as possible (men, & women).
I think the post by Interceptor in this thread [here] is the ideal advice for me from this site. It's a recent post but it really speaks to what I'm going through. To know that I can change is the best motivation to work hard even, though at times it can be tough.
I love being single, but I don't love going around fvcking random girls. This forum seems really devoted to guys who want to go around and sleep with as much woman as possible. Are there other guys out there that just want to improve themselves not to get woman but just because you want to push yourself as close as you can to perfection?
It seems that some guys come on here with the sole intent of being jerks, learning how to be a man then going out and hurting as many woman as possible. I think of myself first and foremost, but I don't actively go around trying to hurt people. I've been very honest with anyone I've just had an interest in sleeping around with. Maybe I've been hearing the wrong things, but lying about your intentions for sex doesn't strike me as the sort of actions a man does.
I thought a Don Juan wasn't a jerk at all, but someone that just generally loves life and woman happen to find that incredibly attractive. And why not? In a world where most people are living the same day over and over again, a man appears who is living each day like it could be his last.
My life doesn't revolve around my lust for woman, but rather my vest for life. From my demanding and interesting major, to my athletic pursuits and yes my nerdy hobbies.
Which leads me to my last point, attractiveness, why is this so important? I'm very picky when it comes to woman and physical looks aren't that important to me. A great sense of humour, good self confidence, ambition, and having a shared interest are all more important to me than good looks. With that being said, I understand that for a one night stand none of that matters.
I think the post by Interceptor in this thread [here] is the ideal advice for me from this site. It's a recent post but it really speaks to what I'm going through. To know that I can change is the best motivation to work hard even, though at times it can be tough.
I love being single, but I don't love going around fvcking random girls. This forum seems really devoted to guys who want to go around and sleep with as much woman as possible. Are there other guys out there that just want to improve themselves not to get woman but just because you want to push yourself as close as you can to perfection?
It seems that some guys come on here with the sole intent of being jerks, learning how to be a man then going out and hurting as many woman as possible. I think of myself first and foremost, but I don't actively go around trying to hurt people. I've been very honest with anyone I've just had an interest in sleeping around with. Maybe I've been hearing the wrong things, but lying about your intentions for sex doesn't strike me as the sort of actions a man does.
I thought a Don Juan wasn't a jerk at all, but someone that just generally loves life and woman happen to find that incredibly attractive. And why not? In a world where most people are living the same day over and over again, a man appears who is living each day like it could be his last.
My life doesn't revolve around my lust for woman, but rather my vest for life. From my demanding and interesting major, to my athletic pursuits and yes my nerdy hobbies.
Which leads me to my last point, attractiveness, why is this so important? I'm very picky when it comes to woman and physical looks aren't that important to me. A great sense of humour, good self confidence, ambition, and having a shared interest are all more important to me than good looks. With that being said, I understand that for a one night stand none of that matters.