Ridiculous mother in law passport bro drama

[Pandora]

So the mother in law vs wife drama has started:

So as you know I am a passport bro. The girl will never be able to come to the USA due to a visa issue. We are planning to get married in her home nation in about 1 month. My mother is not able to come because of financial issues. She will be able to come in about 3 months. She also wants my siblings to come but they will only be able to come in 3 months.

Now my mom is really sad and emotional about not being able to attend. I told her that this is just signing the license. The real ceremony will be in 3 months like I originally told her. Her point is that if you sign the license then that is the real ceremony regardless of what comes after. She is pissed. I feel bad because me and my mom are close and I generally want to make her happy.

The reason me and fiance don't want to wait is because she can not travel with me unless she is married. She is Muslim. We cant even really have sex without marriage ( officially can't lol). I will be 40 soon and want to get this show on the road. If I wait for 4 months who knows what will happen. I need her to be able to fly to me at anytime. Without marriage this not possible.

I understand that every mom dreams of the wedding for their son but we have to be practical. She got the fairytale wedding with my sister..why do I have to do this?

 

[Slowhandluke]

do what you must do. you are the man in this situation. I approve your actions.

 

[Chow Mein]

Is a plane ticket really that expensive for you to pay for to get the happiness and experience your mother is hoping for?

 

[New_Journey]

This will be the biggest mistake of your life that you'll regret forever.

 

[Gamisch]

This will be the biggest mistake of your life that you'll regret forever.

We will see..

Apparently this is one of the few solutions that's left for modern Western men. To marry a Muslim woman.

To me it also sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.

 

[Pandora]

Is a plane ticket really that expensive for you to pay for to get the happiness and experience your mother is hoping for?

I got do 4 of them. Not only her but 3 other people that she wants there too. She wants the family there.

 

[Pandora]

This will be the biggest mistake of your life that you'll regret forever.

I think you are right actually. But what ima do? I dont want to die with no kid.

 

[Pandora]

We will see..

Apparently this is one of the few solutions that's left for modern Western men. To marry a Muslim woman.

To me it also sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.

It is a disaster for real. Every option is bad. This may be the least bad. At the end of the day she can not put me on child support of divorce rape me. Those 2 things are huge.

I recently matched with conservative chick from the village. She wears the religious cover etc. I kind of regret not meeting her first. She seems more submissive but you never know. She could be worse. If you decide on a Muslim woman stay away from the cities. Go to the village where the internet sucks lol

 

[Gamisch]

It is a disaster for real. Every option is bad. This may be the least bad. At the end of the day she can not put me on child support of divorce rape me. Those 2 things are huge.

I recently matched with conservative chick from the village. She wears the religious cover etc. I kind of regret not meeting her first. She seems more submissive but you never know. She could be worse. If you decide on a Muslim woman stay away from the cities. Go to the village where the internet sucks lol

Arab women are my absolute favourite. I lobe that look.

That being said; they are also quite materialistic. It's odd, on one hand they are seemingly the last type of women that are able to submit to a man and marriage. On the other hand they are the most vile and money hungry.

My arab homeboy just got married a couple of months ago and haven't heard much from him since lol. He moved to a small village , flew her over and that's it. I guess I'll see him when the drama starts

 

[New_Journey]

I think you are right actually. But what ima do? I dont want to die with no kid.

That's the worst idea to get married for. Also, why are so scared of dying without a kid? It won't feel any emptiness in you

 

[Plinco]

I think you are right actually. But what ima do? I dont want to die with no kid.

You should know this by now. Women are an addition to your life, not a necessity. If you disagree with me, then please reply to this post and let me know and we can have a discussion. I have not read too deep into your situation, but it already sounds like you are approaching this the wrong way, and your cognitive distortions are leading you into a disaster.

 

[Pandora]

Arab women are my absolute favourite. I lobe that look.

That being said; they are also quite materialistic. It's odd, on one hand they are seemingly the last type of women that are able to submit to a man and marriage. On the other hand they are the most vile and money hungry.

My arab homeboy just got married a couple of months ago and haven't heard much from him since lol. He moved to a small village , flew her over and that's it. I guess I'll see him when the drama starts

Yeh man girls from that region are hot af. I personally like North African arab girls, latina and some slavic girls.

Hey so your homeboy went to her village or he brought her to his country? You are right about them being materialistic.

 

[Pandora]

That's the worst idea to get married for. Also, why are so scared of dying without a kid? It won't feel any emptiness in you

To tell you the truth man I dont want to be alone in a nursing home. I work with that population and its not pretty. I dont want to get dementia with no one to take care of me. I know that sounds like a selfish reason but lowkey this is a big motivating factor for people.

I also like kids. I know I would be a decent dad. Maybe since I had a crappy dad I want to do it better. Idk...plus its instinct for us to pass on our genes.

 

[Pandora]

You should know this by now. Women are an addition to your life, not a necessity. If you disagree with me, then please reply to this post and let me know and we can have a discussion. I have not read too deep into your situation, but it already sounds like you are approaching this the wrong way, and your cognitive distortions are leading you into a disaster.

Yeh she is a not a necessity in my life. If it was not for kids I would not be in a relationship. I have been with a lot of women and I really dont need them for emotional needs. I am happy using escorts or one night stands for the rest of my life.

 

[Plinco]

Yeh she is a not a necessity in my life. If it was not for kids I would not be in a relationship. I have been with a lot of women and I really dont need them for emotional needs. I am happy using escorts or one night stands for the rest of my life.

Having a child is an addition to your life. No sense in having one with the wrong woman.

 

[Chow Mein]

Off topic, @Pandora, but weren’t you once a Mod?
I might have mistaken, though.

 

[Pandora]

Off topic, @Pandora, but weren’t you once a Mod?
I might have mistaken, though.

No..never a mod

 

[pipeman84]

How old is the wife?
How did you meet her?
How long have you known her and for how long have you interacted with her in real life?

 

[Bokanovsky]

Wait, I'm confused. Are we talking about your mother or mother-in-law?

Also, are you out of your fvcking mind???? Marrying a foreign muslim woman that haven't even had sex with yet by the sounds of it? And bringing her to America? Why would you do that?

 

[Bokanovsky]

It is a disaster for real. Every option is bad. This may be the least bad. At the end of the day she can not put me on child support of divorce rape me. Those 2 things are huge.

Why not?