reverse psychology principle

[madgame]

I just read the new article on this site and Im wonderin whether that reverse psychology principle could work for a girl who just wants to be friends or..like in my situation just doesnt want a relationship (but still does the nasty stuff lol). Do you guys think If i told that girl..yeah I like u and I think ure hot but I agree with u..I dont want a relationship either I guess..she might change her mind (at least a little)? and if I used this principle should I tell her I definetly dont want one or that I dont want one right now..or that I dont really think I want one either? Im wonderin to what extent u should use the scarctiy principle...

 

[Jasmine]

ok, and I am sharing a gem with you here...

the only possible way to reverse this is to do the following:

Set yourself a time limit. say 2 weeks. Say to yourself that you will be 'the perfect guy' to this girl for this period. Then cut it off. Say you're busy. Make it a real 'all then nothing' situation. The girl will feel a very large void in her life and it is then that she will need to decide whether to let you go, or that she misses you. Calling her everyday, etc, will not make her change her mind. This is a subconcious thing. Her life will have been disrupted and you will effect her, nd this is your aim.

Be sure, in the 2 weeks though, that you do not crowd her... let her know that you are there for her, can give her the best sex she's ever had... then take it away.

I have done this before in the reverse (with a guy that I liked.. don't anymore, the challenge is gone!) and it works as long as there is at least a mild attraction from them in the first place.

Good luck and keep us posted!

 

[MDgood]

Yeah, I agree with Jasmine and cut off the affection from her. It's going to hit her hard when she starts entertaining doubts as to how important she thinks she is to you.

It's one of my personal favorite tactics to deal with these sorts of chicks!

 

[crotchrocket]

I agree with Jasmine-give her your all then give her absolutely nothing!
Like the saying goes "you don't know what you've got 'til its gone"
I've told women that we would make good friends, when I'm thinking they're about to lay that on me, and then I watched in amazement as they tried to prove to me why we should be so much more.
If she is even a little bit interested in you (in that way) I bet it works.
And when you do decide to show her some interest again-be a bit elusive, unpredictable -and give her lots of space.

 

[krd]

I've wondered if this works, myself. I've thought about trying that tactic--pretending to LJBF a girl before she gets a chance to do it to you for real. Of course, it wouldn't be a good idea if she was showing clear signs of interest. But would she actually try to prove that she could be something more, or would she just accept the idea that you see her as a friend and never challenge that? It's hard to tell if you're not just setting yourself up for failure. She has to really think you're worth pursuing to go through the trouble, and it's not like you're the only guy she knows. Using such a tactic assumes that most of the guys she comes into contact with are AFCs. However, she may have several male acquaintances who are better looking, more outgoing, flirtatious, who have that "attitude", that she wouldn't hesitate saying "yes" to. By the time you've finished playing your little game, she may already have a new boyfriend.

Still, I wonder about trying something like that, and if it would actually raise a womans interest. The idea behind this method is that by LBJFing a girl, she may start to wonder if there is something wrong with her if you are not attracted, and try harder to prove you otherwise. I can see the reasoning behind it, but I still wonder if a girl would actually do something like that, or if she'd just accept it and move on to someone else.

 

[madgame]

thanks for your advice Jasmine. I hope its gonna work..but anyways, do you think I should just not talk about it at all anymore or should I tell her that Im cool with being friends with benefits?

Umm I dont remember ur username but @the last reply: I dunno if u understood my situation completely, because its not really just a LJBF-thing...she wants to be my friend and on the other hand do all the other nasty stuff too lol besides she said she missed me and that I meant so much to her when I cut contact to her...Im pretty sure she was already gonna become my g/f(told me she was thinkin about me all the time and so on) and I just messed it up because I asked her after like a week what wassup and if she wanted a relationship, and now she has the attitude that she doesnt think shell ever wanna be in a relationship with me.........
kinda strange I know

 

[Dee-Zy]

Jasmine got game!!!

I'm keep'N this in my head.

Only problem is that, a women decides within 5 min if u are the friend or a potential lover. So if u screwed up before on your first impression. ...


GHOST

 

[xblitz44x]

" Only problem is that, a women decides within 5 min if u are the friend or a potential lover. So if u screwed up before on your first impression. ..." -Dee-Zy

Very good point. I agree with you. I think the reason Jasmine got away with it is that the girl probably DID really like the guy. And by doing what he did, he gave the girl no choice but to make a move NOW or else she felt she was going to lose him. This wouldn't work on somebody she wasn't attracted to. Reverse it and tell me you'll care if a fat girl who is a friend of yours stops talking to you? It might bother you, but you're not going to sleep with her for it. Always reverse it and you'll see if it makes sense.

 

[madgame]

Yeah Im feelin u but in my situation she does want to kiss me mess around with me and everything...

 

[Good_ol_boy]

"Very good point. I agree with you. I think the reason Jasmine got away with it is that the girl probably DID really like the guy."

I think Jasmine IS a girl.

 

[madgame]

Hey guys..if Jasmine's a girl (which she probably is) and she played that game it was the GUY who musta been attracted to her...but Im wonderin if ure right when sayin "really attracted" cause if ure really attracted to somebody ud probably not say u dont want a relationship, would u?

by the way...what is an AFC?

 

[madgame]

I bet its some expression for a guy whos real boring and got no game with women at all lol but what do the letters stand 4 exactly?

 

[Paradox]

AFC is seduction/net lingo for AVERAGE FRUSTRATED CHUMP.

Nice advice Jas. You should post more often.

 

[becker]

I've begun many threads about this in the past and am a firm believer that this is one of those tactics that are not used enough, because it seems to work out well most of the time. Again, the girl has to show some interest in you (preferably high) before this will work.

There's also, however, the danger that she might just move on, so it's not foolproof.

 

[madgame]

Yeah ok, but even if it doesnt work out and she does move on its no different than if I just let her go right away..except for losing another 2 or a few more weeks...